do i seriously have to starve myself just to get some damn respect from people?

Question

Is it okay for a man to leave a woman because she gained some weight? Why is it that the”bigger” girls always have the best heart.. Why is it okay that men can have weight on them, but woman can’t? is this just a man’s world? And we just have to deal with this. I’m the type of girl if I eat anything I gain from it, and it takes such a long time for my to lose the weight.. My mom is a nurse!!! ( and she tells me that I just need to starve myself) wtf? And she has been a nurse for 32 years.. Is that just what women have to do??

i am about 20 pounds over weight, i lost alot of weight, but when i dated my ex i gained it back, my friends do drugs to keep them self smaller...my ex left me for a skinner girl because his friends made fun of him. i feel so bad about myself, and all my mom has to say is starve yourself... what do ya'll think about this?

Answer 1

If you have your health you have everything, i wouldnt suggest starving yourself as you wont gain nothing from it. Men accept women for who they are, not all men are the same, and the good ones out there accept women for there personality. I think Beth from Gossip is a great role model for every women out there.

Answer 2

No its unhelathy to starve your self. I agree bigger people have great hearts and are so easy to get on with an peopleshould except everyone no matter what shape or size but they just dont an at the end of the day ur ex has lost out as a skinny girlk is mopre interested in hoe good she looks usually. U will find a great guy who will accept you for you and if you want to lose weight just dont eat so much junk food as thats my problem an have 6 small meals a day an maybe start at the gym ir wioll make u feel healthier.
Dont starve yourself
Good Luck

Answer 3

Look, I would love to say that you are perfect the way you are and there is nothing wrong with being overweight, but there is. America has a big problem image wise and believe that the skinner, the better, but at the same time 60% of this country is overweight. Being overweight leads to diabetes, heart cancer, depression, loss of breath and energy, and many other things. The bottom line is: don't loose the weight because you want to get "respect" or your boyfriend back becuase you are better than that. Loose the weight to avoid the health issues.

Also, starving yourself puts your body in survival mode, and burns as less calories as possible. Eat six small healthy meals a day.

Answer 4

Blame society its what creates the line between what is socially acceptable and not. Some guys don't care and do like girls that aren't twigs.

Don't starve yourself. Your mom is wrong and self-righteous if she believes that. She is just taking the easy way out, as a nurse she'll know that it'll destroy the muscle you have and eventually wear you down from lack of vitamins, proteins and any carbs for energy. Between your mom and the ex don't worry. Boys can be replaced, if he didn't like you for that reason alone he's a tool.

Excersie. Eat differently, not so much less. Choose a banna instead of chips. Take the stairs to class (up and down). Slow down when you eat, and chew more - it'll give your stomach time to shrink and your brain to process that you are full.

Answer 5

women are judged by their weight. It isn't fair, but it is reality. Guys are often judged by other things (wallet size for example). Is that fair? No, but it is what it is.

You don't have to starve yourself to lose weight. Before you say this won't work, understand that I lost 70 pounds while doing this...and it seems far too simple to work...but it does, try it before you say "impossible."

Cut back on the carbs, but don't cut them out. Eat smaller portions...if it feels like you're starving yourself, then you've probably been eating too much. If you eat some kind of meat or protein, a slice of bread or a little pasta, and it all fits into the middle of your plate, then it's enough and you're not "starving" yourself.

Next, and this is important, drink small amounts of water all day long. Don't guzzle gallons of water, just drink a glass of water before every meal and when you have those in between meal hunger pangs. Your body often confuses dehydration with hunger.

And for the MOST important part, walk for 30 continuous minutes at least 4 days a week. Don't run, don't job, don't ride a bike...just walk briskly. Don't do a marathon, just walk at a good pace (not too quick, not a stroll, just briskly).

The doctors that put me on this diet said they don't really know "why" the walking does what it does, but they wished they'd known sooner. You don't need to sweat to lose weight, you don't need to jog or run yourself into a coma, just walk. Try it, it will work...but do it at least every other day.

The combination of a low carb (not zero carb) diet, with sufficient water and 30 minutes of walking at least 4 times a week will take off those pounds and improve your shape.

The rest is up to you. If you pick the wrong guys while you have the right body...well, that's your fault. Big women have to survive on personality, the skinny attractive ones don't have to work at personality. The foolish men who pick them get everything they deserve :)

Good luck and try the diet before dismissing it.

Answer 6

There are men who only like big girls. Don't know how to find them. Nobody needs to starve themselves. A friend of mine was going to have weight loss surgery. I don't know how she found out about this but she was told to eat small things every 2-3 hours. If she wanted to exercise any that would help. She walks a lot. Oh yeah you have to cut off the food at 9:00 pm. She has lost like 120 lbs. She has done all this since last Christmas.
Eating more often speeds your metabolism.

Answer 7

Do not starve yourself! I am sorry this is happening to you. You should try to exercise a few days a week and eat normally. You will then find out what your comfortable weight is. You should accept yourself at that weight and learn to love yourself, then you will find someone worthy of you, not some shallow jerk who runs away because of what his lousy friends think. From what you are telling me you sound at risk for developing an eating disorder and your mother, though she may be a nurse, is not helping you. I would seriously advise going to a counselor if you begin to engage in dangerous behavior (starving yourself, taking drugs, binging, purging, laxatives). You can die from an eating disorder. An extra 20 pounds is not worth it, and there are plenty of amazing men out there who prefer a little meat on their women.

Answer 8

well i would first of all say; dont starve ur self!!! that is like a horrible thing 2 do and it is not good for your body; loose weight the healthy way. and for this @$$hole i mean; if he doesn't love u the way u are.....thick or thin....then he is not worth ur troubles and he is not worthy of u. u should be treated like a princess and he doesnt sound right for anyone! so i kno it is hard to get over him, just hang out with some friends and go out and try to meet some one new; i promise u this too will pass and just be happy eith how u are. if u want to loose weight get active or loose weight the healyth way NOT by STARVING urself!! hope this helps♥♥

Answer 9

You are perfect as you are. You have my respect and are courageous to post this. You deserve a full, healthy and happy life without drugs, self-hatred or starving yourself. You already know the right thing to do and that you are right. Now all it takes is the courage to ignore people who are trying to help you with bad advice and to do what it takes to be as happy and healthy as you can. You have every right to feel sad or angry. They are wrong, but we all just do the best we can. There are so many outside influences to the contrary. Not everybody knows the right answers all the time. Stay strong. Love yourself. Good luck.

Answer 10

absolutely not! starving yourself is not the answer. speak with a dietician. everyone's body is not the same. nobody gains or loses the same way. and 20 lbs over weight..... heck that ain't nothing! as for your boyfriend, well he's not much of a man if he leaves you because of his friends. trust me... there are guys out there who love women with a little meat on her bones. you will find a guy who will love you for who you are not what you look like. looks change all the time but the heart doesn't.