If what you say touches someones nerve, isn't it something "they" have not dealt with that makes them get mad?

Answer 1

in Deepak Chopra's fourth law of vedic science, the Law of Least Effort he explains that when you get angry wiht other people that you are not reacting to them but to your feelings about them and that you are responsible for those feelings and no one else -when you accept this you are ready to take responsibiliy for your actions having realised that everything is a choice ot be angry or not;after all this you adapt defenselessness and give up defending your position and your sense of self importance;you will then be able to acces those reserves of energy otherwise squandered on being triggered into predictable reactions to life's events;these all sounds lovely but I have to confess that while reading Chopra's 'Seven spiritual laws of success' that I have several times wound up throwing the book across the library and getting more angry than before and particularly so when I attempted to access the energy source of consciousness,the field of pure potentiality through meditation.However,I have written the book out line by line and hopefully some of it is sinking in - I hope.
For me,the most sad thing is when people are so mired in pain in their own lives that the only relief they can get is to see ohter people hurt by creating situations where they know they will get a predictable angry response from them;in this way we are all creating a hell for ourselves and doing exactly the opposite of spreading the good karma suggested by law 3
yes,you and deepak have the same idea

Answer 2

Not necessarily, it could be something bad that has happened in the past that a person has never really healed from.

Or you might also know it by being called "hitting home". It is the same thing. I don't think if someone has not dealt with something why that would hit a nerve. Since they have no experience with it, it would more just make them nervous.

Answer 3

Not necessarily. They may have low blood sugar or are just irritated about something completely unrelated.

There are many reasons why someone could be upset by someone elses actions. We are all connected and have a responsibility to each other whether we like it or not. How this responsibility manifests itself may be different for each of us.

It is an "easy exit" to just blame the other person because we may have behaved poorly towards them. I mean, for example, the person posting photos of genitals on this site that is open for use by anyone young and old, can't really blame others when they get angry by this person's actions.

If you know that most people would find you coughing in their face on the bus or train rude and offensive and you choose to do this then it is very doubtful that it is something they "haven't dealt with" that is making them angry.

Answer 4

I guess it depends on what you say and how you say it. You hardly hear of anyone getting beat up for being polite.

And sure, you have the right to say whatever you want, but with rights come responsibility and consequences, so be prepared for any consequences.

Say that you call someone an idiot, now if they are truly an idiot, don't expect too much of a response, but if they can bench press a Buick, be prepared to run while calling yourself an idiot.

And the way you say something might have to do with issues you haven't dealt with.

Answer 5

That sounds like a really good excuse to tell people all sorts of rubbish and if they disagree then It MUST be their own fault.

Mamby pamby new age doctrine perpetrated by pseudo physiological mind cults I shouldn't' wonder.

Wind pipes make bad straws when trying to drink milk from a sea shell.

Answer 6

I would say so. If I say something and it touches someone's nerve, tough!, I say what I think and everyone has a right to an opinion, so "they" can just put up or shut up!

Answer 7

Well, you could be a sociopath just pushing people's buttons. You don't get to absolve yourself of blame for being untactful, anyway.

Yes, some people are way too sensitive and wear their buttons on, uh, their sleeves.

(I'll mix metaphors if I damn well please.)

But in general, you can probably avoid being an a*shole if you put a little effort into it.

We all have unresolved issues. The fact that we aren't all at each other's throats all the time means that at least some of us are somewhat tactful.

It's all just part of being in a society.

Answer 8

Very close! Keep pursuing that. You've almost got it.

(I'm quite serious. There's a lot of power in what you've figured out. There's more to it as well).

Answer 9

It is a test of sorts..one gets upset if their ego is in the way. If one can rise above the issue they have mastered themselves...Constant!!!!

Answer 10

especially when your both looking at a guy chopping off babys heads and you just laugh and say good thing it wasnt yours.