Here it goes.. I was with this guy for 5 years, 4 1/2 of those we live together in a home we bought together. When we broke up I guess I really didn't believe it at first and then reality really sank in!!! I tried to get him back we spent a lot of time together and then I found out there was a new girl he was also spending time with. Still not sure when exactly they started spending time together while we were still together or just weeks after. Three years later and he's still with her... Now I'm not a very vengefull person and I believe he's to blame not her however I still think she should have backed off and gave him a little time to grieve. Now just recently him and I ran into one another and to get right to the point we had sex. I still miss him and have regrets, I still wish things could have been a lot different. Is it so wrong of me to want her to hurt like I hurt, all I can think about is how I can make her find out.. Should she know???
2007-07-18 03:17:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks to all who replied!! We had 5 awesome years together and I don't doubt he was faithfull to me.. You know how it goes, when you find someone to fill that empty place then it's a lot easier to move on. I can't help but wonder what would have happened had she not come into the picture. I hear a lot from mutual friends and he's not happy with her, never spends time with her, just there cause he doesn't want to be alone.. More than anything I want him to be happy, I hope it made him think about how good things were at one time and how much fun we had together. I want him to know he can have that again, not with me but that there is someone out there for him... We all know what it's like to be hurt though and maybe a bit vengefull at times.. To those of you who said it was wrong, your probably right but to say "no" to something you've thought about and wanted for so long is hard!!!
2007-07-18 05:22:23 · update #1
Well I think you still love him and you want her to hurt like he hurt you. If he cannot commit to one girl then he is a pig. If he did it to you once he will do it again. Do not trust him and there is no reason for the other girl to know since she is the innocent one.
2007-07-18 03:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you this, if you tell her, and she dumps him, he will be mad at you for telling her, so he wouldn't want to come back to you. He is going to find someone else, and never ever sleep with you again becuse you are messy and tell the person he is seeing, you should not have slept with him anyway. 2 wrongs don't make a right, and not only that, if he really loved you, he would be with you and not her, if it is meant to be it will happen, if not, tough **** and go on with your life.
and not only that, now you know that he cheats on his girlfriends, would you reallly want him back after he might do the same thing to you when you are together and sleep with her behind your back?
2007-07-18 10:26:47 · answer #2 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human nature, girl, we all get angry, defensive, vengeful, we're far from perfect. It's normal to feel that way. I could say be the bigger person and walk away from it, free and clear that you have nothing to do with what's going to happen to her a few years down the road. It's going to happen again, especially what you've told. If you're feeling froggy and it makes you feel better, jump.
2007-07-18 10:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard but the right thing to do is leave him alone. Don't allow him to have his cake & eat it too. Don't even consider him until he breaks up with her. Until then try to find someone who will treat you like a queen.
Good luck.
2007-07-18 10:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a Lady and you have to move on.... believe me she Will find out if not you it will be someone else who will tell..He is a cheater and you deserve better.. think about being with someone who is in a relationship and your mate cheats on you would you like it... stay away from him he is in a win win situation.... do not degrade yourself... love yourself first
2007-07-18 11:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be kind, let it go and move on. It's the Christian and smart thing to do. It will cause you more grief than it's worth.
2007-07-18 10:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
goodess ;/ i know it hurts... but the best thing to do is DUMP him!! and move on... let these two pigs enjoy their sick life... trust me one day that girl WILL find out how distgusting and cowardly he is... and guess what? she'll dump in the bin :D so enjoy ur life... there are plenty of GENTLEMEN out there :D
2007-07-18 10:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you just want her to be jealous so she'll leave him and make him miserable like you were. this is pointless. if he wanted you back he would be trying to be wioth you, not just sleep with you. let him get on with his life and get on with yours.
2007-07-18 10:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Dan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋