Baby name drama! Help!?

Question

My husband and I have picked Isobel for our daughters name. I regrettably went with Katherine as her middle name to get his grandmother to hush.

So her name will be Isobel Katherine.

I still can not warm up to the Katherine, except for she is my favorite character on Greys Anatomy.

However, Everyone in his family is refering to her as Katie because they hate the name Isobel.

So now I want to change the middle name, but my DH doesn't want to upset his grandmother. Oh yeah and I have asked them all to stop refering to her as Katie.

We are due in 3 weeks! Any advice!

Answer 1

this is you and your husbands child so therefore if you do not like the name katherine by all means switch it to something that BOTH of you like. people have baby names picked out all the time and change them at the last minute. if you are really 100% on a name then you should change it because your daughters name will be that forever. i personally love the name isobel. good luck and congrats!!!

Answer 2

They should listen to your wishes. Since this will be your daughter. But the bad things about nicknames is that they can develop overnight and stick. If they are calling her that before she is here even after you ask them not to then they will probably not refrain from calling her that even after she is born. Another poster had a great idea, give her a middle name that isn't affiliated with any family member to not upset anyone. At the same time it is also tough if you change your mind now if you have said this the entire prgnancy that you were going to call her that. If they dont like Isobel then you need to find a name that they cant really make a nickname out of, because they will probably always call her something else.

I love the name Ava

Maybe you can name her Isobel Ava

Maybe even Isabella Ava
Isabella Maria
Isobel Anne

You could even call her Bella, I hope that you find what works best for you and if you are not willing to stray from the name make sure you say it loud and clear that you dont want her called Katie. Scream it from the rooftops for the next 3 weeks. lol


Best of luck to you and your husband, congratulations on your soon to be little girl!!

Answer 3

I know this is all very stressful now, but just know in the end it is your's and your husband's decision. Right now he may like to take their opinion and it's always good to keep an open mind but you make the final call. What we did (because we couldn't agree on anything) is that I let my husband pick the middle name and I picked the first name. I am Puerto Rican so I wanted a Spanish influence name but my husband's argument was that he couldn't pronounce any of them. So, I went with Lily which is my favorite flower and still can sound a little spanish. He chose Grace for the middle name and we were both happy. HOWEVER, when I told my family that her first name was going to be Lily they FLIPPED, they said they hated the name and that every "Lilly" they knew was a real b*tch or crazy or something. I explained it was Lily not Lilly and that we had made our decision. Now, Lily is 14 months and everyone loves her name. It's easy to put in your opinion now but once they see the baby, they will love him/her no matter the name. Good Luck!! And congrats!!!!

Answer 4

Wow, I'm going through the same thing! Someone in my family screwed up the pronounciation as a joke and it stuck. Now my mom is all pissed off at me because I told her that anyone who thought it was funny to say it wrong didn't need to see or spend time with my daughter.
I personally think the name Katherine sucks too. It's YOUR baby. Name her what you want. I think Isobel is adorable and I really like the spelling. I would name her something YOU like, not what someone in the family likes. She had her kids, and could do what she wanted as far as naming. Now it's your turn. Do whatever you want sweetie! It's easier to fix now before it's on the birth certificate!!
Congrats and Good Luck!! :)

Answer 5

If the family is referring to the baby as Katie, it's not going to stop after she's born. Katie she'll be, at least to them, much to your chagrin and disappointment.

Not wanting to upset your husband's grandmother is one thing (and a small thing, at that), but it's not comparable to the arguments that will ensue when you try to get the family to stop calling your daughter a name you don't like. It's likely that you, your husband, and perhaps the rest of the family will be in near-constant battles over it.

Listen, this is your child, you are carrying it, and, no matter who says what, the hospital staff calls YOU on your hospital telephone to ask you what to put on the birth certificate--not your husband, not his grandmother, but you. I'm not advocating that you not discuss this with your husband or go behind his back, but he should put your feelings concerning your daughter--your feelings as his wife and your daughter's mother--before those of his grandmother. She had her chance to name her kids and possibly even her grandchildren.

Change the middle name to something you and your husband like and sod the rest of 'em. It's your perfect right and, some might say, responsibility to do what's best for you, your marriage, and your child. You don't want her in the middle, do you?

Answer 6

You are under no obligation to call your child Katherine, your DH's grandmother is not being fair. Remember, this is going to be YOUR child no matter what for the rest of your life. You have to call her what YOU want. Your grandmother will get over it. Your family is behaving very disrespectfully over this. She is YOUR child. If they want a kid called Katherine they can have it themselves. Make a decision that you will be comfortable with. Good luck.

Isobel, by the way, is lovely!

Answer 7

Isobel Katherine is a beautiful, beautiful name!

How about picking another name that can have Katie as a nickname? Some of these are a stretch, but who knows, they might work.

Kathleen
Catriona
Katrina
Caitlin
Hecate
Kaisa (ky-suh)
Carina
Katina
Katya

Answer 8

well its your kid not his grammas your the one going through the pain your one whos gonna have to say her name everyday your the one whos raising her so your the one who should have some say in the sitaion look if you dont like katherine then you and your husdband need to really decide on a full name you both really like well if you both like isolbel then thats a start now here are some middle names i will share with you and maybe you both can come to an agreement on one there just some suggestions though ok

Isobel Rose
lsobel Jane
Isobel Brook
Isobel Grace
Isobel Marie
Isobel Teirra
Isobel Shea

if you dont like them its fine i was ttrying to help you two just need to find a name you both can agree on an like ok best of luck hopfully the best will happen for you and congradlations

Answer 9

You shouldn't of used Katherine just get his grandmother to leave you alone. It is you and your husband's choice what to name the baby. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If no one likes Isobel that's their own fault. If you like it, stick with it. Good luck and congrats!

Answer 10

You and your husband should both agree on the name and not name your child based on others preferences. It sounds like you have a difficult case with your husband though since it clearly means a lot to him to please his grandmother, but it is important he sees your point of view also, afterall she is your child too. Too bad if the family doesn't like Isobel, they need to call her what you want her called. I went through this with my 1st son. We named him Benjamin and call him Ben. Everyone felt inclined to call him Benji. I explained nicely he is not a dog, we do not like Benji, his name is Ben (in some instances I had to explain not so nicely!). Everyone has gotten over it and they all call him Ben. We are now expecting our 2nd child and everyone hates the 1st and middle name we've chosen, oh well!

Good Luck and congrats on your baby girl! By the way, for what it's worth, I think Isobel is a lovely name!