your boyfriend/husband to go celibate with you, or wouldnt you consider it cheating if he had sex with somebody else, because you dont have a sexual relationship with him ?
2007-07-17 23:47:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
if my man had sex with some one else id cut he's nuts off and make him eat them!
2007-07-17 23:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
To become celibate is a very personal and powerful decision.
If you decide to become celibate, then you probably need to end your intimate relationships completely.
I imagine it is pretty rare for someone to decide to go celibate, and probably even more rare for their sexual partner to arrive at the same decision.
What if they can't handle it? What if you can't and they can? Imagine the stress if one of you is having trouble with it.
But it is unfair to expect your other half to give it up because you want to. I think that being celibate is a good thing, for whatever reason someone might choose it- but it is not good to try to force someone else into it, even if you happen to be married to them.
2007-07-18 01:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If either one of us had that problem; we would help each other out to find a way to get the intimacy back in our relationship. We would find out what is causing it and fix any way that we could; even if meant seeing a doctor.
And if a husband/wife went out and slept with other people just because their spouse has lost that loving feeling; then yes it is cheating on them.
Being a couple is about working& being together; and as such when one has fallen ill, the other one should be there to help the one who is down.
2007-07-18 00:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by Tarlyng 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
2. Chastity within marriage.
Elements of a marriage commitment are: [1] free, [2] total, [3] faithful, and [4] open to children. These are the commitments that spouses must renew when they have sex. “Free”. Any way that a husband or wife might manipulate of coerce a spouse to have sexual relations would be a violation of the freedom in their union. A clear example would be ’marital rape.’ Yet we’re not talking only about such an extreme situation. The true freedom of love is also violated when spouses use sex as a tool in their relationship for some other end. Perhaps sex is employed to gain power or control in the relationship. Perhaps it’s offered as a “reward” for something else or withheld as a “punishment”. None of this kind of behavior says, “I want to give myself to you freely to affirm you r goodness and our marriage commitment.”
“Total” The climax of the sexual act shouts loudly and clearly, “Take me. I’m totally yours. I’m holding nothing back.” That ecstatic moment reflects the unreserved surrender of our persons and the unreserved receptivity of the unreserved surrender of our persons and the unreserved receptivity of the other. To the degree that we knowingly and intentionally reserve any part of ourselves from our spouse in the sexual act, we cannot speak of a total self-giving.
Perhaps one spouse is emotionally distant from or cold toward the other. Perhaps both spouses are deliberately refusing to be transparent and vulnerable with each other. Perhaps they’re not giving themselves to each other in climax at all. Such is the case when one or the other spouse intentionally seeks orgasm apart from the act of normal intercourse. The acts by which spouses loving prepare each other for genital intercourse (foreplay) are honorable and good. But stimulation of each other’s genitals to the point of climax apart from an act of normal intercourse is nothing other than mutual masturbation. There’s no gift of self, no marital communion taking place at all. Nor are such acts open to conception.
2007-07-18 04:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Person's disinterest in sex with their partner is not an excuse to cheat on the other person. If they want sex outside of the relationship because their partner shows no interest, then, dissolve the relationship.
Who wants to go through the ordeal of having continuous arguments with a cheating partner or a partner who has to make up excuses every time he/she is running off to meet their sex buddy? It's a lose/lose situation once the ball starts to roll.
Either work it out or get out of the relationship.
2007-07-18 00:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by Smahteepanties 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If i didnt have sex with my man anymore then it would be understandable for him to cheat. Sex is a major ingredient in any healthy relationship so I wouldn't expect him to stay with me
2007-07-18 15:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you and your wife have some major issues to work out!
It seems from your other posts that she’s pissed off at you for treating her like a maid, and you’re not willing to listen to her point of view.
I doubt she’s celibate; she’s just angry.
Go to marriage counseling.
2007-07-18 04:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't they just end the relationship? I believe that if children are involved, couples should try to work it out, but if one partner wants sex and the other doesn't, obviously something isn't working. Going outside of the marriage isn't likely to help things, if it can't be worked out, end it.
2007-07-18 02:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by wendy g 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
im already celibate...so i dont bother dating anyone...it wouldnt be fair to be how i am and expect the same of the guy.
but if i was with someone and decided i was going to be celibate..id just break up with him...
besides..he'd only be around for sex anyhow..so why keep him around?
2007-07-18 00:40:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Luckily for me fiance, that's not a problem for him. I would expect him to go out and find some one else to sleep with. I am not a jealous type, and have already shared him with a few women. So really, it wouldn't be any different for us, except I wouldn't be involved in the fun
2007-07-18 01:53:46 · answer #10 · answered by Ayana 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I lost interest in sex, I would expect him to get the hell out.
2007-07-18 09:50:16 · answer #11 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋