Since we all finished high school 2 years ago, theres this group of 4 of us that always do things together. However, this one girl in the group Ash really annoys everyone, and all our boyfriends hate her because she thinks shes too good for everyone and insults them. SHe's spoilt and if she doesnt get her own way then she throws a huge tantrum.
I cant stand her, but the others say that we have to invite her everywhere cos it would be rude otherwise.
The other lke her a little, but I dont. I cant stand her.
Ash thinks we're best friends, but doesnt know that i'm deliberately ignoring her messages and have blocked her on msn.
I wont confront her becos i want to make it easier on the others, and avoid conflict.
How can i see my friends without seeing her?
2007-07-17 22:34:24 · 5 answers · asked by jeska102 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You can't, so let it be. You can not have everything your way in life. Sometimes you need to be able to grin and bear it. That is part of learning to act mature.
2007-07-17 22:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey if u guys have been friends for such a long time, u can just invite her for a coffee one to one nd tell her how sometimes she should also think about the rest of the group nd not just herself. Tell her tht u would appreciate her more if she acted in a mature nd adult way instead of being a cry baby all the time. That is if you really care about her a bit. If not just keep ignoring her, nd if she ever says anything against u or ur b/f then lash back at her nd ask her to behave. also when she throws tantrums u guys dont hv to give in to her demands (u r not her mom!). Just walk away from her nd ask her to join u when she calms down.
2007-07-18 05:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Reshun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly dear, you shouldn't be very harsh on this friend of yours. She seems like an immature person. If she thinks of you as her bestfriend, you can try talk to her regarding the issue. Tell her that her attitude bothers you and the others and if she regards you as her friend, she will not take any offense and ensure her that you are telling this only because you want her to improve. Do tell her too that you're open to suggestions and advice. Avoid confrontations among friends as it can turn pretty ugly at times. Do have a friendly talk with her. It will be good for you too to advice her than confront her as you might stand a chance to loose a friend and that is not good. Afterall, "it takes a lifetime to make a friend and a second to make an enemy".
2007-07-18 05:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by sonzthegreat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with a guy named jason. My freinds would invite him places and I would get annoyed cause everyone hates him but keeps letting him hang out. I finally found the solution, and you got to be a strong person to do it Heres what you do, have a party or get together at your house and do not invite her. She will show up anyway and you say to their face, I did not invite you, it was rude to come uninvited, get out of my house. They will be mad but you set a bar. Your other freinds will call you a b**** but they will find it funny. You have to step up and be in complete control of the situation and the environment. That way nobody can say anything cause it is house rules. This will get the point across that you dont like them and that they are not wanted in the group.
2007-07-18 05:43:25 · answer #4 · answered by HELPERDUDE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well secretly invite them somewhere and have a talk on what you all think of her weather it is best 4 all ov use if she goes and then come to a compromise (all of you should get your point across) hopefully they will think it is best that she goes then your all going to have to say it to her face because its better that way it maybe be a little hard to throw some1 out f the gang but it has to be done
2007-07-18 05:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by kimmy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋