help me i want to die?

Question

i have been in a relationship for about 3 years and he has hit me called me stupied and made me fill like a complete trash.
i want to die i love him but i can't seem to move on how do i do it help me please

Answer 1

Girl here it is. If he keeps hurting you after 3 years he will not stop. Leave, if it takes going across country and becoming someone else do it. Its never worth your life. He may love you but he has to many problems if he hits you. Girl you have to live and take care of yourself. God be with you

Answer 2

You have to draw a line that you may not cross, and that line would be someone hitting you, and you should stop being with that person, he doesn't care about you if he says those things and especially hits you.

I know it is hard to move on, but you have too, it is not right for a guy to hit a woman, it just shows you how much he cares, even if he apologizes after, he will do it again.

But if you can't leave him which I would advise you to do, make him know that if he hits you or says something stupid, that it is over... and don't give second chances, if you do... he won't take you serious.

Good luck!

p.s. I have never ever hit a woman in my entire life, and I don't even plan too, my mother raised me better than that and if some other guy hits a woman, he is the lowest scum on the world in my opinion.

Answer 3

Friend, if you have been in this for 3 years and the hits have been going on that long, then in 3 more years and 3 after that it will continue. It is a very negative situation and unless your partner is willing to get professional help, then it will NOT stop. It is a control issue, not love. For your life, for your sanity, I suggest you way the options of what your life is going to be like if you continue as it is, and as for loving this person, it is more dependency and sometimes safer to be with them than not, but make up your mind and leave as soon as possible, put it together and do it and for not reason see the person or have contact until you regain strength and get yourself into counseling, do it and don't look back, life is not suppose to be this way, been there done that, and know it for a fact. Lord please guide this situation and show the way to change, in Jesus name..be blessed.

Answer 4

We can all come up with very violent ways to deal with this situation, but let me share some things from a very personal experience. My sister was in a extremely violent relationship for a long time. Things finally got so bad that in the end she tried to shoot him with his own gun. Eventually after taking one last beating she called the police and had him arrested. That was 2 children to late they saw and heard all the abuse. I am telling you this because you may face a similar situation if you don't decide to start caring and loving yourself. This man is not worth your life being spent miserable and being called every vulgar name he can think of. Why have you given up on yourself God made you in his own image and God don't make trash. You need to reach out to someone you can trust there are information lines in the front of the phone book you can call to seek some help. Try a local pastor or a women's group, or even a shelter. Take back your self-esteem you are worth gold. One day you will look back and regret not to mention resent the fact that you stayed and put up with his crap this long. Make it sooner than later let this A-- H--- be your big mistake move on this is not real love you are feeling..

Answer 5

Girl you are so talking to the right person now...Iknow you love him and it is hard but honestly I want you to look at your self in the mirror right now and really look. You are a human being , who has a heart beat and a heart that has feelings I know you probably think you hav no feelings because he has made ou so numb and you feel lifeless because of his abuse but you don tdeserve this I don tcare who you are you dont deserve this abuse is wrong no matter what if you dont go now you never will and he will control you forever. As of right now he has only stolen three years of your life why not make today a new day and reclaim what is yours and that is your life. There is someone out there I promise you who is right for you and will treat you right . Trust me i have been there I dont have enough space or time to even tell you the whole story but if you wann atalk to me further about it then IM at [e-mail] or email me at [e-mail] Good luck and please just look at your self realize that you deserve better.

Answer 6

Hey sweetie. You might love him but it doesn't sound like he loves you. If you want to die, you might as well leave him.

So here is how you do it.

1. Write down three people you know who have a couch that you could sleep on. Even if it's one of his friends/relatives.
2. Pack three outfits. Nothing fancy. Nothing more.
3. Go to the first person on your list. Walk if you must. Ask to stay two days. If they're not home or can't let you stay, go to the next one. If no one on your list can let you stay, go to the YWCA or church.
4. The next morning get up thank your host. Go to the library to research where you can live permanently alone even if it's in another city or state.
5. In the next two days, go there, find a job and get yourself set up.
6. If you wear out your welcome on your first couch, go to the next one until you can complete steps 4 and 5.

If there's drama like him showing up or you wanting to go back to him while you're going through these steps, then go straight to step 4 but look up books, newspaper articles and obituaries on women who died in abusive relationships. Picture yourself. Then ask yourself do you want to be die that way and have that be how people remember you.

Notes on step 2: If you have anything sentimental that you must have, mail it to someone you trust. Don't try to carry it now. If it's too big, take a picture. You can go back and get it after you're settled. If he destroys it, you will have proof and can sue him for it in small claims court.

As for the clothes you have now - treat the expensive name brand stuff as per the sentimental items above if you must. If it's not expensive or brand name, forget about it. It won't be in fashion on the new You. It can be replaced.

Answer 7

I understand your pain. I too was in an abusive relationship. Women do not have to put up with being hit or being called names. You need to be strong and say enough is enough and just walk away. I look back on my abuse and say to myself, "what was I thinking." I'm not stupid, I never cheated on him, I am pretty. He always accused me of cheating and would blame me if another guy looked at me, which would lead to him hitting me. I finally walked away when it was too late, I was pregnant. The breaking point for me was when he threw me and my unborn child against a wall. I say he knocked the sense right into me. :) At that moment I asked myself one question, if he could hurt me, what would he do to our child? I have not seen him since. I am now happily married to a wonderful man who adores both my son and me.

There are many jelly beans in a jar and you happened upon a sour one. Eventually you will find your sweet jelly bean and you will finally understand what love really is. Letting go of something or someone you know will be sad, you yell, you will cry, you will be mad. Those things are a part of grieving, but you will get over him in time. I made it and so can you!

Answer 8

You need to realize that you are too good to be treated like that. There are men out there who would never hit you and treat you like a queen. This guy is bad news.. it sounds like he is not only physically abusive but he is mentally abusive as well. You are the only one that can put your mind to getting out of this situation. You need to love yourself. Just think .. is this the kind of man that you want to spend the rest of your life with .. What kind of life is that ? And if you have children he might abuse them too.. its an endless cycle. You should leave him. It will be hard at first .. but with time Im sure your realize it is one the best decisions you have ever made.
And even though this hurts dont be suicidal over it. This seems really hard but when your down there is only one way to go and thats up ... Life is too short to want to die young over some guy who doesnt treat women right. I think you should see a counselor who can help you stop thinking these kind of thoughts and love yourself.

Answer 9

I was in your situation before and you can move on . yes you should report the abuse because he could hurt you very badly but most important you need to think about you because you are important. please remember you can't love anyone until you love yourself. by you moving on you can start to feel like a real person not someone's punching bag. it may encourage that person to seek help if he in fact truly loves you. if not that's okay because now you can start to repair the damage that has been done and finally see what a beautiful world there is out there and also find the true love of your life. so i hope you get started today please

Answer 10

Think about it. You get a rope, tie to a tree, or ceiling fan, something strong, you make sure the rope is short and strong enough to support your weight, climb on a chair, put the rope around your neck, and jump.

You are stupid if you want to kill your self over a guy. And your a moron for loving him. If you're still alive in the morning then we'll know your not dead. Dump him and GET OVER IT. Life is to short. Live this moment as it were your last.