I cry myself to sleep!?!?!?!?!?

Question

Well, i had a rly nice sweet BF before, nd i luved him very much. Well, i had to break up wit him cuz he waz cheating on me. But i said i wuld still b his Friend. He never tlks to me or anything though. Nd he said that he wuld tell me wen he got a new GF, well, he got a new GF, but they hav been dating for a year, nd he never tld me. I cry myself to sleep every night now. Does he hate me? Nd shuld i confront him bout this?? PLZ HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

hello there. i hope that i help u out here.It would help if I knew how old u were.Not that matters 2 much. 1stly, u need 2 think how this is & has affected your life so far.Has "HE" held u back from continuing forward with your life?. 2 me yes he has.U seem 2 b ripped apart inside & u need to let go. I know it's hard and at the present,it will seem 2 b the hardest thing you will ever have to do.But have a good think about it. Is this guy worrying at all how you feel or showing anything for you but selfishness and ignorance. I hope I'm not making you feel 2 bad,but no one deserves 2 be treated the way you have. You know the best revenge is to succeed & be happy.Your ex will feel the heat then when he realizes he doesn't have you pining for him anymore & that you dont need him. I am speaking from experience here. Im not just advising you on what I think. It's what I know. The more you let him lead you like this and spend your days & nights wandering what he is doing, the more you will be ripped apart emotionally & most importantly you WILL miss out on meeting your REAL true love ! You may meet a string of wonderful guys first,just tread lightlly,eventually he will walk into your life when you least expect it. Enjoy the ride. Good luck to you. I'm now happily engaged with kids to boot.Keep in touch. I want a progress report.I personally wouldn't confront him. Not just yet anyway. Get yourself together & out there,mix with your friends & start living again! It's awsome

Answer 2

Okay, now listen carefully. Your boyfriend cheated on you and it hurt you enough to break up with him...right? Then why do you even care what he's doing now?

When you break up with someone it should be for keeps...not just to get their attention, make them regret what they did, etc. It's childish. A breakup should be final, period. If you don't want to break up, then don't break up, just get mad at each other, or yell, or don't call...but when you break up, make it forever.

That being said...why would you ask him to tell you when he had a new girlfriend? What are you to him? You broke up with him...do you think he owes you something? And again, why do you even care?

Stop crying yourself to sleep, stop feeling sorry for yourself. You did the right thing when you broke up with him (if fidelity is that important to you), so do the right thing now: forget him and move on. Let me repeat that:
MOVE ON! You're probably a very pretty girl, so you won't have too much of a problem finding another guy. Just don't walk him past your ex so you can try to make him jealous (another childish trait), or talk about your ex (another childish trait). If you're old enough for a relationship, act like it and move on to the next one...maybe the next one will work out better (it couldn't be much worse). and if you decide to break up...then break up and stop looking back...and stop crying yourself to sleep!

Answer 3

you shouldnt confront him about his gf. You should be happy for him and show some support. Maybe he wasnt ready to tell you yet that he had a gf. He doesnt hate you. Whenever he felt comfterble tellin you so he did. Now just be there for him and congradulate him. I'm sure you will find a nice guy that'll treat you right. And when you do i'm sure your x bf will be happy for you too.

Answer 4

he has moved on...even while dating you...you can do so much better than he...move on yourself.