All we do is argue, we argue over everything and honestly i'm fed up with it. He's nice to me when he wants something and that's it. I just don't know what to do anymore, it's really frustrating. He leaves every night to go hang out with his friends while i stay home with our 14 month old son as i do 24/7. I don't get to go hang out with my friends or even go to the store by myself. Any ideas??
2007-07-17 14:40:50 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most men are very selfish and they feel that it is a womens job to stay home and take care of the children. You should not have sex with him if he is going to use you for that only. A lot of people might say if you do not have sex with him he will get it somewhere else but I feel like if this is what my husband wants to do then he could go right a head. Two can play the same game. I know two wrongs does not make it right but it makes us even. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-17 14:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Vicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What he is not receiving is "when you have a child, you don't get to behave like a child anymore" Tell him that you had this child together and that the baby is now old enough to be doing things with both of you. Where does he want to go? because you will be going too along with your son. Try to talk to him about how depressing it is to be alone all the time.
You can only be taken advantage of if you allow it to happen. If you don't see some changes after you speak up,trade off baby sitting with another friend or if he has money to go out then he must also have money to pay a sitter. You made this baby together and so he should be willing to do this. If he isn't hearing the message after you speak up, then accept that you will have to agree that it is going to always be that way or you better prepare yourself to support yourself and your son, because he doesn't want to be married.
2007-07-17 22:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a decent guy? If so, I recommend the Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands for very practical ways to a man's heart. If he's a creep -- you might not have much power. He's probably nice because he's horny -- he may be nicer during the rest of the day if you're nicer and communicate respect to him. He may be feeling resented, despised, emasculated or any number of things which are making him hostile. That is, if he is a good guy at the core. So, I hope you chose well.
2007-07-17 22:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by mj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want my complete and total honest opinion, men are sex loving pigs. I'm sure he loves you but because of his poor actions it is causing tension between you too and soon your son. Confront him and tell him he better shape up. Tell him exactly how you are feeling and if he loves and respects you he will listen. I really hope everything works out between you and your husband. good luck
2007-07-17 21:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Jessi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does he do that, because he wants sex and you give it to him. I think its time to talk to him, let him know you want some time away too, and that you would appreciate some help around the house and him around the house too.
2007-07-17 21:44:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let your parents or his watch the baby and go out.when he starts to treat you badly ,look at him and say ill remember this ,and the next time you want some then ill treat you like **** and let you know how it feels and youll get blue balls as far as i care.
2007-07-17 22:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
refuse him a couple of times and it should get better. In the meantime, if you need to talk e mail me.
2007-07-17 21:47:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋