how can i make my time bareable in the uk until i leave and emigrate? because it might take some time?

Question

and until i work through my psychological problems, bpd, im going to have to remain here...i hate the uk , i have lots of online friends in other countries, and now, it just feels like im serving time...putting up with being somewhere i dont wanna be....& its not like i can leave right away because i have to work through my psychological problems, but if i could, id be on a plane tommorrow & i wouldnt return..
i feel very hostile to people here, and who live around me who try to relate to me, who try to profess to know how i feel, what my thoughts are, what im feeling...i just distance myself more from people that do this....im a guy who has strong ideals, who knows what he wants, who knows what people he wants & doesnt want in my life...i cant stand it when people i dont like try to relate to me and infringe upon my life....i think'' no...just no, go away..bye''..
but for some people that just gives them the green light to approach me more & attempt to relate to me.how can i deal

with this situation?
ive had alot of hurt and abuse done to me in my life, and now i just wanna be left alone to go my own way...to graciously and swiftly leave the uk...and only have the people i want in my life, who i allow to be there

Answer 1

No... seriously.. you need help (from doctor & family)

Answer 2

Life doesnt work like that, matey...

People come into our lives and go out of them for a reason, we learn lessons.

Yes, I can see where you're coming from about your ideals and stuff, but I can also tell that you've been deeply hurt - How? I dont know, but maybe you should try relating to other people before you discard them - your psychological issues may actually not be as bad as you thought, you just need to see things from outside the box a bit.

Im not trying to preach or relate to you but there ARE people that will understand where you're coming from, be it here in the UK or abroad....so you may think that your "serving time" here, but it might not be any different anywhere else...

Answer 3

You are one of my contacts. Every time I read one of your questions, I feel so much anger from you. There is no real sense of direction. You really need to read over and think about your questions. That way you can have a more realistic idea of how to fix these problems and acquire the life you want. You asked in a previous question about what to do if one enjoys thinking negatively. In my opinion that is not enjoyment. It is a way of settling with what has overcome you. Trying to make it seem normal. I do not mean to offend you. If I am wrong. You think about it, then tell me. Okay? My heart reaches out to you. I have also had a lot of traumatic experiences. What we need to do is learn to let go of the hurt and pain. Deal with the present and future. It only hurts us more. It does NOT hurt the people who hurt us. I know this is easier said than done. However, with help, determination and a lot of work it is possible. Your dreams may never come true if you can not overcome this. Because it hinders your ability to function properly. I sincerely hope your dreams do come true and you are able to find peace and happiness. GL

Answer 4

I've lived in a few other countries and can genuinely say, if you have emotional or psychological problems you will carry them where ever you go and where ever you go people will respond to what you give out. If you give out negativity then people will respond negatively back. It is in my experience however, that in UK people are better at putting people down, more negative and less accepting of differences than some other countries. The British can be very, very nasty to something or someone they don't like or understand and still quite old fashioned. I'm from Wales and living hear now. I sympathise and share your feelings sometimes.

Answer 5

I think you may have some type of underlying emotional problem, which may never go away - or at least will not be solved by moving away. Maybe you should see a psychologist before spending so much money emigrating and then if you still feel your life would be better somewhere abroad, go for it.

Answer 6

You know the saying the grass is never greener on the other side.You should face up to the problems that make you feel this way.You will return and the problems will still be their but dont run away.Their are many who feel the same as you but go on with life and so should you.

Answer 7

Dear lovely spirit. You need to find yourself; the true person inside, who is full of love. You can be with your pure spirit when you meditate. All the hurts will eventually fade away when you connect with your higher self in this way. It doesn't really matter which country you are in. The same problems will arise until you learn how to conquer them. If you want to find love; give love.

Answer 8

You can't run from yourself and that's what you're trying to do. I know about that. Get the King James Bible and read the book of Proverbs. I discovered no matter how you were raised, if you live by these instructions, you'll be a happy person. I'll pray for you.

Answer 9

well i love the UK..so dont really understand why you hate it so much. what makes you think that moving country will make your problems go away??

good luck though..hope you do find happiness somewhere else..life is very short so we have to make the most of it!

Answer 10

Hi
I hope you find what you're looking for but if you're "running away" it may not work, troubles that you can't forget will follow you where-ever you go, have you thought about counselling it could help you see things differently or maybe help move you in another direction. Good Luck.
Ray. West York's. U.K.

Answer 11

okay i have some of the same problams but when someone that you dont like trys to talk to you its not nesisarily the best thing to just ignore them you just dont be rude and im sure if you try to be nice to them you will work out your problems very easy.

P.S.
sorry about the spelling