I've thought of this phrase a lot lately within my own personal relationship struggles, and upon further contemplation I wondered what others thought of this commonly used quip.
If "man" to be taken literally, meaning male not human, does this imply that women are more adaptable/flexible in nature?
Are we? or are we not? why?
or is this statement entirely false?
your thoughts........?
2007-07-17 12:32:08 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
No, it refers to women's propensity to find a man, idealize him, and then try to mold him into that ideal.
From a man's standpoint, we often can't even change ourselves, when we want to change. How can someone else possibly change us, especially when don't think we even need changin'?
For whatever reason, based on my observation, women tend to try to change men more than vice-versa. Don't know why.
I don't think it's a flexibility issue as much as it is a tendency for women to try to change men more than vice-versa, plus we often just plain don't care as much as long as get 2 or 3 key things.
2007-07-17 12:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure whether women are more flexible than men as far as their nature/personality goes.
In general, there are both women and men who are flexible and then others that aren't.
But it's best to not try and change anyone, they have to work it out for themselves, their life is their own journey and the only person that should be changed is yourself, the way you see things. (not saying that I think you should change at all :) )
If for instance, there's something that you don't like about your significant other, instead of trying to change them, it's best to change how you feel about the situation and how you deal with it. Life's not meant to be a continuous struggle.
2007-07-17 13:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shivers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-21 07:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the same for men and women. You can't change a person. You can only present to them information that they may not have known and hopefully they'll change themselves based on it.
Someone may even be willing to compromise, but they still have not changed. They are just choosing not to act on their desires for your sake.
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Steve has a point, I see that a lot as well. It generally ends poorly after she realizes you can't change a person.
It may be theorized that women have an ideal of how this man they met should be/is.
While men have more of a 'lets see how it goes as we get to know eachother better.'
Not really a hard and fast rule, but perhaps a societal or genetic predisposition.
2007-07-17 12:37:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I think you’re probably attracted to men who have a strong sense of self. With that in mind, maybe the men you date have opinions that don’t always mesh with yours. And being an opinionated person means we would like for those we care about to agree with us, at least on the important issues.
I had a friend who would date guys, and try to “mold” them into what she wanted. Then she wouldn’t adapt to who they became, and they’d break up because she’d still treat them the same way.
I find that the only kind of man who will change everything about themselves to please a woman are losers. Sorry, but the right kind of men are raised from day one to believe that they are great just for who they are.
2007-07-18 05:27:01 · answer #5 · answered by Rainbow 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, My very own point of view,, Women are more sensible,, Adaptable than men,, But it doesn't mean that Mens are non sense,, it is all depend's on each individuals nature.. You can change the nature of a man if you really wanted to..But it takes time,, you needs to study him very deeply.
2007-07-18 03:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Bluebird 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the saying should be " You can't change a human" its not just a guy thing, its a people thing. I mean you can maybe slightly change or help change someones bad habits, or maybe other slight things, but you are who you are by age 3, and there really is no changing your man, and no changing you either for that matter. It is what it is, and if its no good, it's really the fault of nobody, just not a good thing.....move on!!!
2007-07-17 12:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by BIG "D" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one likes to be changed and that includes men. I don't think it means that women are flexible or adaptable.
2007-07-17 15:46:00 · answer #8 · answered by :) 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
"...But you can change his underwear?"
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Sorry, what was the question? Oh, right, flexibility.
I wish that were the case. I would wager that flexibility is much more a function of age than gender. Women seem to be a little more open, though.
2007-07-17 14:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Robinson0120 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends, if we are too flexible, then women don't find us manly enough to be attractive. Its frustrating for us guys too, because gals seem to prefer bad boys that abuse them, while the nice guys can't get a date. I'm pretty flexible and very willing to accommodate a lovely lady such as yourself, but women don't find me attractive for that reason.
2007-07-17 12:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by Steve C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋