I really need to know if it is normal for women to be disrespectful during this stage, I mean calling me name's and just flipping out over everything. This is my first child and I need to know if I should be concerened. She has only been this way for the past 3 weeks? She has said some pretty mean things, and I need help understanding this.
2007-07-17 11:47:16 · 14 answers · asked by CFF 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was the same way and would break down crying telling my husband that I was sorry and that he could do better. My moods were everywhere until i started taking Lipil. Lipil made by Expecta is a supplement to the prenatal pill that helps baby brain and eye development that also calms moods. It really helps!!!
I also cut down on caffeine but still had a little (half of a cup of coffee or cola). She may also need reassurance. It's a hard time for her bc it's the time you realize whatever you do effects the baby and 'dad' doesn't really have to worry so some women get resentful.
try buying her those pills FOR BABY DON'T TELL HER FOR MOOD SWINGS and baby stuff to get her excited talk about names and tell you that you love at least a few of her choses and tell her you love her name as well.
Once I was yelling at my husband and he just got really upset went to the store and got me a rose and apologized for not being perfect. I felt like crap and realized what a great guy he is.
If she doesn't calm down give her some space and tell the doctor at your next apt. My husband went to all my prenatal apt's i hope you do the same.
2007-07-17 12:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by i love being a mommy! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that your wife is suffering from Post Natal Depression, least these days doctors are very quick to lablelling woman with that, and sometimes I wonder is it just another new medical name to explan why some women feel they don't want to be touched after, whih is reasonably normal having given birth - but not so much 18 months after. Sounds like your doing all the right things, and I can understand your frustration, sex is not just sex between a loving couple its a joining of souls and a deep and meaningful way that couples feel really close emotionally too. Could it be that your wife actually since given birth has lost confidence in the way she looks. For example is she still a little or a lot overweight. Giving birth changes are bodies so much, even when we go back slim straight after, stretch marks etc, not such perky boobs, it could be something like that which is making her refrain. My advise therefore would be '' Don't ask her if that is the reason, otherwise any compliment you give her she will only think you are giving to make her feel better about herself so that she'll give in and have sex with you'' - be a bit sneaky, as you pass her in the kitchen or somewhere in the house, just make a quick statement and then walk on, something like '' Do you know since you had our daughter, your hair really seems to shine more and theirs a lovely glow about your face'' then walk off, don't wait for an answer or a thank you. Get the drift, little compliments out of the blue, and said as though its not a great issue. I really think if she'd admit it, she has lost confidence in herself. Perhaps she would rather go back to work, it could be so many things. Anyway I wish you luck and I hope it all works out for you both. Billie from Devon in the UK
2016-04-01 09:23:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hormone related, but in my opinion that is no excuse to be mean and hurtful. She needs to have some self control.
I would sit down and explain to her that you understand that she is going through a lot of changes right now, and you love her and your new little one on the way. Tell her that you are her partner in this, and you want to help her and see her as someone who is there for her....but when she says mean things it really hurts your feelings, ask her to try to say something nice every time she starts to feel irritable at you. It will send her in a good direction.
I am 25 weeks pregnant and I have hormone issues like every other pregnant woman but I would never treat my husband that way, it's not okay and hormones aren't an excuse.
2007-07-17 12:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by katiebug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going through a heck of a lot right now. I don't know what your issues are, but she may be feeling very scared or angry or both. She needs your help and support! Now is the time to pick up a load of laundry or make dinner. Make sure you are emotionally available to her so she can talk about how she feels. It might be hard for you to hear what she has to say, but it's even harder for her to go through it alone.
You might have to work really hard at being the bigger guy too. If you get all mad everytime she makes one crappy comment, you'll do nothing but fight. Try to let some of the b****y stuff roll off your back.
2007-07-17 12:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Kat H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please Please read the question I posted today. Many women answered and I think it might help you understand a pregnant women. Especially at the begining, we have so many hormones going through our bodies that we may be overly emotional, moody etc. Most women notice they are being that way but only after the fact. I would sit your wife down and explain that you know there are so many changes happening to her right now and you don't want to upset her but this is the way you are feeling right now. Pregnancy isn't an excuse to treat someone badly, she just needs to be made aware of what she is doing and how it is affecting you. Good Luck!
2007-07-17 11:57:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1] reasons - hormone fluctuations, exhaustion, and bouncing blood sugar.
2] excuses - none.
Sit down in a calm, quiet place, after she has eaten. Tell her what YOU HEARD and how you interpreted it. [ say " I feel like... when you say..." ]. Say everything calmly, without any
derogatory comments, names, or any other negative feedback.
Is she sleeping enough? Eating properly? Working fulltime?
Getting help with cooking/cleaning/laundry/ paperwork etc?
Do something for her and the house every day. Offer to scrub the bathroom, or vacuum, or do laundry.
Offer backrub, footrub, or scalp massage.
Go to counseling or buy a book on fighting fair - both of you need to read it, and follow it.
Do not discuss the problems with family, friends, or co-workers - this should be worked out with you, her, and the pros [ therapy or books ]. You will have other 'crisis' intervals in your life, so learn to work with each other, and help each other.
2007-07-17 12:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm about 25 weeks pregnant and I can just feel certain times when I get annoyed at my husband for stupid reasons. Still, I hold my tongue because I know I am being irrational and will only hurt his feelings.
Sit down and talk with her. Let her know how her behavior is affecting you. She is going to have to start being more patient overall since you have a little one on the way. Now is the time for her to start practicing!
2007-07-17 19:44:47 · answer #7 · answered by nick1999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. Blame it on the hormones. I was like that with my husband, poor thing, but it does get better. I am 30 weeks now, and am not as bad as I was at that time.
Good Luck, and be patient.
2007-07-17 11:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by girlieGIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may get worse before it gets better! but around 24-26 weeks it should come to a end, but after the baby is born she'll be this way again until her hormones level out agian.
2007-07-17 12:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by dixiedarlin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is perfectly normal.try talking to her.maybe she is just worried because of the baby.(if the baby is healthy or not)
maybe it is too much pressure(going to work and being pregnant can be depressing)she might be in pain and that might be the problam(her back might hurt)
2007-07-17 11:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by :D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋