have you ever forgiven a spouse for cheating...what made you forgive...didnt you think you deserved better?

Answer 1

My grandmother forgave her husband. They had 4 children by the time he had the affair. And with her fiesty strong attitude she told him that he wasn't going to ruin her family that she had built and that he needed to get rid of that hussy.

She says that marriage is a rose, but sometimes those roses have thorns. And they can hurt bad. But thats what comes with a rose.

Answer 2

I forgave my ex after 14 years of marriage when he had been having a year-long affair with a co-worker. We had 3 sons and decided to try and make it work. We lasted one more year, in which time, unbeknownst to me, he was still seeing her. He finally left me for her. I should have sooo seen it coming, but it's true what they say - love is blind. I forgave him because I loved him, even though he had hurt me. I didn't think at the time I deserved anything but what I had gotten myself into so many years before. And how would I explain to my 3 sons that I deserved better than the father I chose to give them? But now, I am very happily remarried and I feel like I can finally breathe again. I personally think if someone cheats on you, it was due to a lack of something in the relationship, and if it was ever truly love, it wouldn't have been broken. I wish I had not wasted another year on my ex. But hindsight's 20/20.

Answer 3

My spouse cheated not once but 3 times. I tried to forgive and forget and may have been able to but he didn't treat me respectfully all the time and I took the blame for what he did wrong. That was the deal breaker for me. He moved out 2 weeks ago now and I personally feel so much better.

Answer 4

Yes, I have forgiven my spouse for cheating...I have still have hope...I do and I know that he is a better man. We have come to an understanding...if he cheats again, that he will not come back at all!! It has been over 10 years now and we have been together 21 since the whole thing....don't get me wrong we still fuss and fight and have our disagreements, but we work it out somehow, each time...
Good Luck with whatever U are going thru

Answer 5

Yes I did and I never wanted to give up on my marriage that easily. I take my vows very serious and I believe if you love someone they are worth fighting for. BUT I also told my husband that if he wasn't happy than there was the door. I believe in both working at it but if the other isn't willing than I don't see any sence in playing games. I'm very open and to the point when it comes to feelings and where I stand. My husband knows this as well and knew that I wouldn't put up with being cheated on again. I love my husband very much and we all make mistakes- no one is perfect. It's how we choice to handle the things that come up that makes a difference.

Answer 6

Well, I use to be one of those idiots that believed that if we had a love as strong as we did that there should be nothing that we can't over come. Well, that ended when I figured that I loved him that much and he only half! So, I took him back thinking that he would change, he had the ability, but, our daughter and I were not good enough. Oh well, what can you do. I am glad to be free of him now. I do deserve better and I will never forget that now!!!

Answer 7

I have forgiven my spouse for cheating, but unfortunately it does not give you trust back, you will never forget, so what if figured is, it left the door wide open for me.......so i cheated to..........had a good time........didn't give it another thought, and do i deserve better, maybe, but you get what you give.

Answer 8

I guess I am one of the lucky ones and after 26 years no have not had that problem. Have either of us thought about it? Yes and have discussed those thought openly, afterwords of course. We both made a pledge 26 years ago and gave our word, and both of us remain strong that our word is a contract that cannot be broke. Myself the guilt would kill me. I could not face her, she is the love of my life. My first wife was of another nature while I was working 12 hour days, she was out let us say having fun, I know the hurt and thank GOD every day for the angel he has sent me, and has stood by me these many years. I am a lucky man.

Answer 9

Yes, I did and of course he did it again only he was better at hidding it.
We are divorced 17 yrs. I did not divorce him for cheating but after I left my brother in law told me the whole ugly story!!
I am now happliy married 10 years to a faithful man and I have regained my ability to trust.

Answer 10

I forgave her. I didn't really consider whether I deserved better or not, but really loved her and still wanted to be with her. Then it happened again, and I still forgave her. And I know the whole "Once shame on them, twice shame on you" thing, but I forgave her anyway because I was blinded by my strong emotions for her. She finally went crazy on drugs a year later and it wasn't until then that I called it quits.

Answer 11

Yes I have. I am still trying to forgive him. I'm staying with him because I love him and I am willing to stick it out and try to fix our relationship. I am trying to forgive him because he is devastated, too. He cries almost everyday and regrets everything. All he can say now is that he can't believe he hurt me and it was the biggest mistake in his life. I know I deserve better, but I love my husband and I will try everything to work things out with him. I hate when people tell me that I'm stupid or that I'm a loser for staying with him. Since when is divorce such a good thing? Since when is giving up such a good thing? I will not give up on my marriage. People shouldn't tell me or anybody else to give up on a marriage.