His been offered a better job and he will be traveling for 2 months with a client, and i'm left behind at home but its for the better of us but still im scared of being alone and that when he comes back its not going to be the same. We are used to being together 24/7. give me some advice!!! Thank you
2007-07-17 10:55:52 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While it will be hard, it is a chance for both of you to learn a lot about yourselves. He will have to adapt to life on the road, and you will have to adapt to having to take care of all the domestic issues without his help (yard, car, and what ever else he usually handles!
He is going to be making better money, and has a chance to improve both of your lives. You do not say where he will be traveling, but if it is close enough, perhaps you plan to fly out to meet him for a weekend about halfway through his assignment!
If you say no, and he thinks it is a good idea to go, he may not go, but he will resent it. You need to give each other the freedom to follow dreams.
You may use the time when he is away to do something that interests you, and that he would not enjoy. Take a class, go to movies that he would hate, enjoy the freedom!
Good luck
2007-07-17 11:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by fire4511 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I met my husband, he traveled for work. We married 3 years later. He still traveled for work. Married now for 16 plus years, still travels for work. The money is great. Now I get to travel every so often with him since the kids are pretty much grown. Everything has a price. It just depends on what you're willing to pay. Actually I enjoy him being gone here and there. I get to make lunch dates, movie dates, little trips to the beach, etc. Of course with my female friends or my siblings only! He trusts me and I trust him. We talk on the phone a lot and we deal. Believe me, you get used to it. Oh to be honest, in the beginning I was a little scared but then I had kids. So any way, we installed a really good alarm system in the house.
2007-07-17 19:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by califdreamer_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband's job involved him travelling to another town for weeks at a time. I felt quite comfortable with that until a girl called his mobile at 2am, the evening he came home :) - i was on a plane to visit him the next weekend (also had plans to wring her neck but she was nowhere to be found)
Well you really can't stop a man changing, and you can't stop him travelling if he wants to. If you are free to go with him, you could consider that.
My husband is travelling for a month this weekend. I'm having my brother stay over with me so I won't be alone. I can't travel with him, so all I can do is keep myself busy, and if he changes, it was bound to happen and life doesn't end just because a husband changes.
Give him some credit anyway, just have a lot of faith in him and leave the worrying for when he comes back. then you can ask your questions
2007-07-17 18:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by someonebeautiful 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he's going to Iraq on a contracting job, I wouldn't let him go, that's for sure. If he's just traveling in this country, I'd have to understand how often this will happen, how much more money he's going to make, and I'd weigh that against the stress on the entire family of having him away. Can you go to where he is on weekends? It's not a great idea, really, but if you need the money, it might be worth it.
2007-07-17 18:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call up a friend or two and have a few nights out together and have fun. Maybe you can plan a visit for a few days of wherever he's going so he could see him during the time he would be gone. Also, tell him to call you once or twice a day. I was like that with my husband, and he was only gone for 3 weeks and it drove me nuts!
2007-07-17 18:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How often is he going to go away for 2 months at a time? If it's once or twice - no biggie. But I know I wouldn't want to be married to someone who goes away every few weeks.
2007-07-17 18:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him he better not get any funny ideas about not sending any money home or he won't have a house to come home to.
2007-07-17 18:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
what do you mean let him? more money and it`s only 2 months.. have you never been alone?
2007-07-17 18:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with him or tell him not to take the job.
2007-07-18 03:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
let him go. grow up . what do you think military families do?
2007-07-17 18:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jon H 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋