This guy and I can't seem to get along for long periods of time but always end up communicating again/trying to getback together.We get into these awful arguements where alot of hateful things are said.Then end up missing one another real badand talking again..and that's way it goes in one big circle.......Why can't we just leave eachother alone?Is it a stubborn obsession or love?
2007-07-17 10:50:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you are just used to each other and both are afraid to be alone. You both have to move on because in the end you will realize it was just a waste of your time. Once you lose respect toward one another its all lost. Lose respect as in calling each other awful names or yelling at each other. I've been with my husband for 8 years. 2 dating and 6 married. We have never called each any bad names at all, that's why we are still together. Sure we have had some arguments but I found out that using the silent treatment works better than yelling. They get so scared of your silence and feel you are thinking breakup and they end up the ones wanting to talk. If you yell, they get bored of the argument and well don't want to hear you anymore. Giving the silent treatment also helps me calm down and therefore stops me from telling him something I might later regret. When I'm calm I'll either talk to him or write him a letter and have him read it in front of me. Just letting you know for when you do find Mr. Right you don't do the same mistakes again or it will never end and it will be the same situation with any guy you date. He must also show respect for you or he's not worth it. So don't be afraid and let this guy go. I'm pretty sure you will find someone better.
2007-07-17 12:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with racer it sounds like toxic co-dependcy. The best thing I ever did was get out of my co- depend relationship. I pray you can do same
2007-07-17 18:42:58 · answer #2 · answered by justtryingtohelp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stubborn obsession. When you love someone you do argue, but not all the time. There has to be good times too or it just isn't worth it. Best of luck.
2007-07-17 17:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by from_a_dark_place 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's obsession. you guys can't leave each other alone for a second. if it's love, then you would give each other some space to think about your relationship
2007-07-17 17:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dogdiggedydoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stubborn love. Try being more patient with him; show him you love him through your actions.
2007-07-17 17:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Skunk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds more like co-dependency
2007-07-17 17:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me and my b i t c h
2007-07-17 17:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by beginwithin 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋