I'm an insecure person, and at times I feel like I may even be way overly-insecure...like above average in terms of insecurities.
This could be due to any number of genetic / nurturing reason, which really shouldn't be the focus anyways. What I will say is that my whole life I've felt the need to attract others...not necessarily impress them, but to entertain them, or to just be generally liked by them. It's common for me to feel second best though.
Now I'm in love with someone, but I feel insecure, and due to these insecurities I feel different or opposite of her.
How do I correct the insecurities or worries I'm having internally? What can I do to become more happy with myself. To not be so distracted with my own plethora of thoughts, but instead focus my thoughts and be the creative, funny, communicative guy that I know I am?
2007-07-17 10:09:58 · 8 answers · asked by Daeris819 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i'm in no way an expert (i have some insecurity problems too), but here are some ideas:
Focus and spend time on things you're good at and you enjoy. Art, basketball, rock-findng, anything- doing things like this will help boost your confidence.
If you have spare time, volunteer somewhere- a foodbank, a homeless shelter, soup kitchen. This will help you feel good about yourself as well and keep your mind off all the things you're afraid of and focus on those less fortunate than yourself.
Force yourself to think good things about yourself and your circumstances. If you need to, write notes and stick them all over your room/house where you will read them. *What you think NOW is what you are in the process of becoming.* So imagine yourself a more secure, confident person and you will become one!
2007-07-17 10:19:11 · answer #1 · answered by neamhni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Know that God loves you and made you the way you are for a reason. When all is said and done what does it matter how goodlooking/smart/tall etc you are? It's all about the soul.
So, focus on the positive. Maybe even make a list of pos and neg things about yourself. Cherish the positive things and consider how lucky you are to have them. Analyze the negative things and decide if they are even worth worrying about at all. If they are then figure out a way to start changing them.
2007-07-17 10:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of your positive qualities and embrace them. Think of your negative qualities and try to improve them and embrace them. Know the different between your negatives and the negatives qualities you create. Be Logical.
Try to work on not thinking bad about yourself all the time. The quality of life is SOOO much better when you feel good about yourself.
A good way to build self confidence and self esteem, is to build it from something esle like sports,martial arts, weight training,etc. When you believe you can do what you want to and accomplish it. The aura consumes you.
Low self esteem and confidence are very unattractive. Ask ANY person. No nobody want to be around a pessimistic moody person. Be energetic and positive. Laugh at your negative qualities and accept them if you cant change them.
good luck.
2007-07-17 10:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well the thing is first of you feel inadequate so you have to act out just to meet everyone's standard. It may seem that others are perfect and you are an out cast. but every one has their insecurities, and you'd be surprised to know how many people feel just like you. try to think of the things that every one hates about them selves and you'll look like gold. Ask for this girl, I'm sure you're a wonderful guy, just be your self, be a gentle man and open up to her! if she cant appreciate who you are I'm sure there are 100 other people out there who would love you. strut.
2007-07-17 10:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by upower2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try cognitive behavioural therapy. The link below gives a good explanation of it. I also recommend a book called Feeling Good by David D Burns, which I've read myself. Things won't improve overnight but I wish you all the best of luck.
2007-07-17 10:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by tattyhead65 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(= Start slow. Give yourself 5 minutes to worry or be insecure...and then force yourself to forget about it all and just hang out with your lover. =)
2007-07-17 10:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by Beautifulalwaysandforever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this web site helped someon i know
Me
coping.org!
2007-07-17 10:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
drink heavily
2007-07-17 10:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋