"If being a virgin is such a GOOD thing...?

Question

then why do people lose theirs at 12, 13, 14 etc.?" It's in quotes 'cause my friend wanted to ask a question and it's hers, not mine.

Answer 1

Because they THINK they are grown. They THINK they are in love and the boy will stay forever. NONE OF THIS IS TRUE. At 12 years old you should be more concerned about an upcoming concert, a CD coming to store shelves, not whether to buy condoms or not. If you do decide to have sex at this crazy age, protect yourself dont depend on your partner to do it. If you depend on a boy or girl of this age to protect you....get ready for a disease, a pregnancy or a broken heart that sadly takes years to heal. Men and women have sex, not boys and girls.

Answer 2

Being a virgin is such a good thing because it's such a rare thing nowadays with everybody losing their's at 12, 13, 14 etc.

Answer 3

Okay, sex CAN be fun when you're young (or so I've heard) but what they mean by such a "good thing" is the healthy thing for your body, emotional health, and responsibility... when you're at that age you're just too young. Also, some people lose their virginity very young, and realize it is a mistake! The real time to lose your virginity is when you're comfortable and with someone you love. Oh, and when you're legal.

Answer 4

Some people haven't been taught the value of it. There are so many reasons why people lose their virginity that young. Some girls are simply looking for a father figure and will do anything to keep that person. Others do the same thing because they have low self esteem and feel that they have to sleep with some guy to keep them. The value of virginity is a personal thing to each person. Some people value theirs and some don't. Some don't look at it as something sacred that you give to your future husband or someone you love. Some bow down to peer pressure, too. Others think it's "cool" and makes them "older."

Answer 5

it is a good thing, but sex is being pushed on people younger and younger today. People 12, 13, and 14 are giving their virginity away like it's the plague, b/c being a virgin in hs is so not "cool" but that's too bad. Save yourself, at least, for someone you love, and when both of you have the maturity to know what real love is, and you'll be the one more happy in the end. You'll get the long-lasting, meaningful relationship, and they'll have strings of divorces to live through, b/c they don't have any idea what committment is, even as adults.

Answer 6

Wow, what a good question! The answer is difficult, though. Virginity is something which a person can only give away once, not just physically, but also mentally and emotionally. It is something which should be guarded until the right time. It should never be given as a result of peer pressure, or as a condition to continue a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. In short, your virginity is yours, and it should only be given when you feel it is time, and only to show love to a partner who loves you. Your partner should never demand it, or subject you to peer pressure. Why the junior high age girls and boys you know gave up their virginity so early is hard to tell. Most likely it was done out of pure curiosity, and of course, to be "cool". I feel they will come to regret having had sex so early in their lives without understanding why or without having a loving and committed partner. Tell your friend, and yourself, to hold on to virginity. When you find yourself in a loving and committed relationship with a boy or man later in your life, you will have a chance to show a special love for them, and your partner will be thankful for the gift of your virginity. Love is fine thing, but it requires great care and patience. Learn to wait, and you will have a good experience!

Answer 7

Sex complicates a lot of things in life, and at 12, 13, 14, etc. more complications is the last thing anyone needs. Its better to wait until you're older, and find someone you love.

Answer 8

There are several reasons. The biggest reason is that, well.....everyone wants to have sex. From the guys' perspective, you can add in that there's enormous social pressure for guys to have as much sex as possible, and there's almost this giant competition between guys to have sex first (it makes you somehow "more a man")......it's actually kinda frustrating....I lost mine at 19, much later than any of my friends, and even though I've had a much more intense love life than any of my friends, it still bothers me even now....

For girls, I think they mix wanting to have sex and wanting guys to like them. Lots of women tie their image to their ability to attract men sexually, and especially at the younger ages when they aren't yet mature enough to realize that being attractive sexually isn't the same as being attractive.

I think the belief that being a virgin is a good thing comes from people discovering that losing their virginity too early made them feel like they've tied their identity too much to their sexuality, and they can no longer give themselves to "the one."

That being said, I personally felt being a virgin was terrible, and I still have a huge complex because of it. Sex is a weird thing.....it gives you a lot of pleasure, but it can also give you a lot of pain.....

Answer 9

it's mostly peer pressure at that very young age, or they want to fit in to what everyone else it doing. It's unfair to call them whores and such as many people above have. It's just hormones, it gets to them and they act on it. it's simply too young to lose ones virginity at 12-14. However once the hormones are kicking in they might want to explore that side of them selves. it's ether to fit in, or because they are simply lusting.

Answer 10

They lose it due to bad decisions. Trust me, having sex is such a deeply spiritual thing - it's like you're 'connected' to that person forever, and if you do it with multiple partners just for the thrill, when it comes time to settle down with your true love, it won't be as spectacular and spiritual as it should be.

True love waits!