Why should my wife by upset?

Question

We have decided to stay together for the sake of our daughter. She tends to the home life and I go to work and keep myself busy. My wife knows I'm an active person (runner) and she is not. She knows of at least two of my affairs and has resigned herself to the fact that I need companionship that matches my needs better than her. So why then does she get so upset when set time aside to do my own thing?

Answer 1

So...am I to interpret this "set time aside to do your own thing" is to get laid?

I mean...I'm just askin', ya know. Because I don't want to misunderstand and think that it's running you're talking about.

Heh, heh....but I doubt it.

So...if that's the case and its getting alittle action. Christ man. If you can't figure out why she's ticked off...you're hopeless my friend. I'd sleep with one eye open. No kidding. Or move out. Deal with the kids as it goes along. Either way. You lose something in the transition.

Answer 2

Oh wow since you are a runner and active you can't maintain a solid, happy family life with a woman who is not!!? You sound ridiculous! You married for better or worse...not until the next hot runner passes you on the road, or you meet someone that you "think" meets your needs better!?! The best thing you can do for your wife and daughter is A. Get it together!!! Recommit yourself to your family...seek counseling, grow up, become accountable, show respect - the list goes on. Or, how about this for a grand idea -- explain to her that she CLEARLY deserves better and that divorce is the best option. The example the both of you are making to your daughter is beyond wrong! Not only that, your wife deserves to have 1/2 of what is hers since you've chosen to break your marriage vows and she also deserves the right to find a man to love her and your daughter the way they deserve.

She's mad because YOU MARRIED HER and then you screwed around on her and just expects her to accept it. Not only that, it should like she may need some help around the house while you are off doing your own thing.

Answer 3

DUH...because you are cheating on her...regardless of the "arrangement" ... is she seeing someone else.

Staying together for a child is soooo wrong on so many levels. It's horrible that your wife is in this situation and just cruel and unusual punishment too. You are like a fat cat that caught the mouse. Got your cake and eating it too.

You two sound like good parents, so you can co-parent your child and get a divorce. But then again, I guess your other woman are horrible at the "wifey" stuff/responsibility so you keep you wife around.

Just admit it, you don't want to pay child support/spousal support.

What a way to model what a relationship should be to your daughter.

BTW, would you want your daughter with her husband who is openly cheating on her and only with her for the kids??? I think not...

So why is that acceptable for your wife? Because it benefits YOU. Stop being selfish, be a man, and get a divorce. Don't continue to make your wife miserable. She is just putting up with this hoping you change you mind...glad that she can at least still have a part of you since she can have all of you.

Answer 4

Let some woman you deeply care about cheat on your not once but twice and see how that would make you feel and one day that may be the case for. You sound like you are having such extreme difficulty understanding why she feels like she does then you need an experience like hers. You are still married and in a marriage you cant just go off and do your own thing, if she were doing it, you would be pissed off. You need to move out divorce and then you would legally and morally have the right to set aside time to do your OWN THING!

Answer 5

You have had two affairs and when you have other companions that like what you like.. she is upset. She does not feel like she can trust you, and your not helping that matter one bit. That's not much of a marriage. Get a divorce and set her free. Then she can have a life with someone who doesn't have to look elsewhere for compatibility. You stay just for the sake of your daughter and it will be a bad situation for everyone, and will end up hurting your daughter.

Answer 6

Your wife still believes your marriage means more than just staying together for your daughter. Your wife may never look at you the same way or trust you the same way as when you were first married, but you still have a sizeable chunk of her heart, whether either of you realize it.

Secondly, your wife sees behavior that was detrimental to your marriage as detrimental to your relationship with your daughter as well. You may not value your marriage any longer, but your relationship with your wife still matters just as much as before. Your daughter will learn about men and women and how relationships ought to work from how you and your wife get along, so even if you get divorced, you have to make sure that the relationship is built on love, trust, and loyalty.

Answer 7

Are you serious? You are making your poor wife live in prison and take care of your child while you go screw around? You did not decide to stay together for the sake of your child she can not financially afford to leave you. And your poor daughter she gets to grow up an think that it's ok for men to disrespect women including her dad doing that to her mom. That sounds like a better situation than your wife divorcing you and taking your daughter away to have a better life. Men like you should have their d@ck removed. wait that is if you were a man you sound more like a teenager.

Answer 8

To me, it sounds like you and your wife have many differences yet I have a deep respect for to try to stay together for your daughter. Your wife, or so she seems to me, sounds like she would like to spend some time as a family. Take a vacation or even a day trip to re-bond. You will be surprised how well a family could connect when they spend a long-overdo day together. Find something that the entire family can do and do it! As universal as that sounds, it's true. Maybe just sitting down with your family at dinner would help. I can understand why your wife is upset and I think you should try to help her mood. If you and your wife have a happy household, that is the life your daughter will learn to grow in.

Answer 9

When you married her, you promised for better or for worse. And now the worse is here and you've chosen the easy way out, by keeping the 'benefits' of marriage while sharing yourself with other woman. You didn't honor your word, didn't keep your promise. If you think about it honestly, without making any more excuses, that doesn't speak too highly of you.

What effort have you made to find some common ground? I walk every morning for an hour, and I couldn't get my husband to go with me if the house was on fire. Doesn't mean I go around sleeping with other guys! Sounds like there is much more going on her than you've disclosed.

It also sounds like you've put your needs ahead of everyone elses. Do you think your wife honestly doesn't mind you sleep around? Hello! And what kind of example are you setting for your daughter?

Start thinking with your head (not THAT one) and your heart, before you really blow it.

Answer 10

Women need companionship. We need to feel loved. The time you spend with your wife, is it quality time? If she's at home and you're out and about, of course she will feel alone.There's nothing wrong with doing your own thing some times but make sure your partner comes first! And for you to have had affairs, I'm surprised she hasn't kicked your *** to the curb! You might realise this in your next marriage..