It's really complicated in a incredibly juvenile junior highschool kind of way. Some friends of my husband and I's were thinking of moving 5 hours from their hometown to be near us and start a new life together. They're 21 and 19, together about 6 months. The thing is the girl involved-- who I just became friends with recently is a Jehovah's Witness. She has been lying and sneaking around with this guy their whole relationship. Recently one of my best friends-- also a Jehovah's Witness (baptized) said she had an obligation to go the the girls parents (her aunt and uncle who adopted her when her parents didnt want her) They confronted her and she admitted that shes moving, that she's been having sex, lying-- saying she was going to meetings when she was really going to meet the guy. All her friends and family are trying to tell her if she goes-- she will be dis fellowshipped and no one willl be allowed to have contact with her! My good friend who "tattled" is pregnant-- contd
2007-07-17 09:56:08 · 2 answers · asked by mrs.v 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and just beside herself with grief that she won't get to see her baby grow up. The whole thing started when the 2 came up to visit to scope out houses and jobs. While there the boys were talking and he told my husband he didnt know if it would last but it was going okay so he would "hope" it did. THis girl is head over heels in love, with the first boy she's ever slept with willing to throw away her faith, family and friends and he's not "sure " how he feels. So if theres ANY chance a friend of mine could be left pregnant, bitter, heartbroken and in debt because I WAS TOO scared to tell anyone I would never forgive myself. So now both sides are trying to get me to tell the other one to either *come back to the congregation make the right choice* or to *go to hell and mind your own business* I care about them both but I do NOT agree with the girl who is moving. What am I supposed to do???? I'm stuck in the middle!?
2007-07-17 10:00:53 · update #1
And now the boyfriend is sending the concerned friend threatening letters telling her not to get him involved or she won't like it, it won't be pleasant! This is my husbands best friend, but come on-- it takes a real man to threaten an upset pregnant girl! WtH? I'm totally stumped on this one!!!
2007-07-17 10:02:12 · update #2
We live in a small community-- I don't think the church is after money but saving one of their own from potential heartache.
2007-07-17 10:03:18 · update #3
If she lives in the USA we have freedom of religion and freedom from religious persecution. If she has any problems have her contact an attorney for advice. Churches worship the bottom line (money) and generally don't do anything that will cost them some of it. I notice the catholic church coughed up some 67 or 69 million dollars for no-no's in Los Angeles on Monday this week.
2007-07-17 10:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention if you are a christian.
If you are, then encouraging a person to live by bible principles and commands is always the best advice you can give.
If you aren't, I still encourage the person to live by Godly principles.
If you give your own opinion, then you can become a sharer with her in her misery.
Jehovah says 'He is teaching us to benefit ourselfs'
Jehovah says 'His word is for setting things straight'
It never surprises me how much trouble and pain comes from ignoring Jehovah's counsel.
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2007-07-17 19:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by TeeM 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋