Can anyone outh there give me advice, i am going through a divorce and want to keep my house the problem is?

Question

that the loan is under my husband name but we are both on the deed to the house. my question is can I stay in the house and pay half the mortgage and have him pay the other half until our youngest daughter turns 18 without having to refinance? I live in Florida if that helps. Thanks

He left on his own with no explanation, and then I receive divorces papers yesterday, My children have started school and its enough with what we are going through now to have to take them out of their school and move them somewhere new. And yes I expect him to pay half of the mortgage without leaving here if he wants any money made from the selling of the house.

I would pay for part of the mortgage and all the bills in the house of course, I wouldn't expect him to pay for what my children and I use, but I would expect him to pay child support and something for the mortgage.

Answer 1

the house is 1/2 his. you stay in house you pay all. no free houses.

Answer 2

I have not long split with my husband, it was a very rocky relationship, so in the end kicked him out, both our names are still on the house and I cant have him removed till we have paid all the money that is owed off, he was also told that he could still have this house if he wanted it, so I just stood my ground and gave it my all, and yes your husband either has to pay his half of the mortgage, sell you his half, or the only other option which you are trying to avoid is to sell it and split the money right down the middle, as for your children, you have complete and utter rights for child maintainace, whether he likes it or not, at the end of the day, it takes 2 to tango, and those children are his as well, so its not only up to you, to make sure that they and you have all the money that you should be having come to you, so dont let him have that satisfaction, just because you 2 are no longer 2gether, it does not mean he no longer has responsibility's, so dont you worry everything will be ok in the end, and dont let him walk away from this, also make sure that you have all that parental responsibility stuff sorted, so that he can not decide to do anything underhanded behind your back, trust me its 100% worth sorting.
Hope this has helped in some way.
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Answer 3

No, not unless he is willing to, or you could get an order for child support and just use that toward the mortgage.
What you can do...
Contact your mortgage company and take out an assumption loan with a cosigner. This is pretty much just an easy way of getting his name off the mortgage and putting yours on it. With an assumption loan the terms of the original loan stay the same, payment, maturity date, etc. and you won't lose any equity or money that you've already put toward the house. Then, he will sign a "quit claim" deed to you- pretty much saying that he claims no responsibility or obligation to the house/ land, etc. and that you agree to this.

Hope this helped!

Answer 4

Things sound pretty bad!? Well for starters the only thing you really can do is talk about things. Explain to her that you need to talk to her and she needs to listen to your feelings and she cant say a word while you are saying what you have to say. Explain that you will listen to her feelings also but she needs to stay calm or you will walk away. Let her know how she has been acting, let her know that you can never get a word in, ask her what more you can possibly do to make her happy considering everything you do pisses her off, let her know that you will treat others with respect and want the same treatment back from everyone, let her know that its okay to tend to her mothers needs but your family and child come first. Let her know that you love her and have been doing as much as you can to help and if you could do more you would. Explain that the happiness of your child and the relationship with her are you main concerns. Some people are stubborn and dont like to say sorry or just have a hard time being wrong and i can speak first hand with that. But when you know you did something wrong you need to apologize wether you like it or not. Explain to her that if things keep going the way they are that its to stressful for your child. If she doesnt want to listen and continues to fight i would then mention maybe counseling to her. If she absolutely wants to be difficult then mention divorce. Ask her if thats what she wants. See what she says and tell her that will happen if things dont start to change. To do some things to help seniors out is a good thing but when they can get around fine they can handle some things on their own. Your family is who you need to tend to and if she has a problem with that she should go help her mother out. I think you are doing great and put your foot down. Dont let her or her mom walk all over you. Be a good parent and make sure your child is happy and healthy and if things are constantly going to be stressful because she just cant give up the b*t*hing the child should not be in that type of environment. Stay strong and take care of that baby! Good Luck!

Answer 5

the courts either going to order you sell the house and split the profits or one buy the other out.He does not owe you half a house no matter why you two are divorcing.Why do you feel he owes you?
You asked this same question before and gave best answer to a guy who said for you to keep it since your husband should have no problem with wanting the best for his kids.How was that answer a solution? Your kids can still be raised normal even if you live in an apt.Why is the house an issue with you yet you failed to even mention child support? sounds like your husband might be playing fair and now you want to kick him while he is down.

Thanks for the email explaining the situation with the house but I still stand my ground here even though your email mentioned him buying the house off your credit.Marriage is a two person commitment and the house being purchased off your credit has nothing to do with how much both of you might have paid towards the principle.The simple solution here is to sell the house and split the profit.You take your profit and buy another house in your price range and he do the same.It still sounds to me like you want it all and want him to get the sh!tty end of the stick.You mentioned in your email that you made a promise to your kids that they would live in a house that you owned and you did not want to go back on a promise.All I can say to that is that a home is only as happy as you make it.You and your kids can have a good family bond in a house,apartment,mobile home or hell even a tent.To comment about a promise to put your kids in a home that is owned by you sounds very materialistic.I feel as if you have left a lot of details out to make you sound like the better person.

Answer 6

yes you can remain til she turns 18 if agreed upon by both partiesand the court. Yourhusband could be ordered to pay the mortgage but only if he can do so . It may be included in your alimony or such and you may have to pay half or some part of it if hubby cant afford it all

Answer 7

so you want him to pay for 1/2 yet not live there? -- You might be asking for a little much. What are the reasons for the break-up in the marriage?

Edit:
Do you have a friend-boy? Is that why he left? Or....... do you think he has something going? You do have a clue why all this happened, don't you?

Answer 8

it's been many years ago, but my mom got the house and didn't have to pay a dime. my dad had to pay the mortgage and child support also

Answer 9

You can have the house...but unless you are a SAHM you won't be able to get spousal support (unless you can prove that you had a "standard of living that you grew accustomed to").

If anything you may need to "buy him out" of the house ...

You should be able to get child support though BUT you have to file for it. Your husband will need to file for visitation.

CONSULT AN ATTORNEY NOW.

Answer 10

You're going to have to do this w/an atty. You want correct answers, & only someone who really knows the law is going to have to answer your questions. I don't know if you're going to get the ans. you want to your question thru Y. Answers. Honestly, I wouldn't trust anyone other than someone who knows the legalities of FL laws.