Marriage counseling?

Question

Does anybody have any good outcomes from going to marriage counseling? My husband after 4.5 years of marriage doesn't know if he want the responsibility of a family. We do have a 4 year old involved and yes, it's his. He wants to go to marriage counseling, but I haven't heard of any good outcomes.

Answer 1

My husband and I were having problems in our marriage and ended up seeing a couples counselor after I had been seeing one on my own for awhile. It was a great experience for both of us and we are still together and happier than we have ever been before. A couple's counselor is (should be) a mediator of sorts who takes neither person's side but helps each person to see what their part is in a problem. Most of us grow up in disfunctional homes and do not even know how to be in a relationship with another person. A lot can be learned from therapy about the relationship AND the individual when each person goes to the meetings with an open mind. You are fortunate to have a husband who is interested in getting counseling, Many are not. I hope you go! I don't think you will regret it. Good luck and best wishes to you and your family!

Answer 2

People put too much confidence in these so callededucated professionals, telling them how to repair their marriage. Many of these people are not long out of school themselves and are only trained on the most text bookmarriage problems. Some of them have worse marriage issues than you do.
It's a 50/50 chance but since it's a 50/50 chance, why not give the Lord a try. I'd imagine his chances of righting your ship are as good as any, with less the cost.

Answer 3

I had a good experience with counseling but it was only because we both were open minded about participating.

I dont know of a single case that was a positive outcome when one person was basically forced into going

Answer 4

the outcomes are results of the people participating. if you're committed then you'll both work on what needs to be done to stay together and your marriagle counseling should have a good outcome. But its not guaranteed. Just have to try it. there's nothing to lose.

Answer 5

I've done couples counseling and my SO at the time and I really felt like it was useful. It didn't work out between the two of us, which had nothing to do with counseling, more to do with compatibility problems. None-the-less we both walked away with stellar communication and relationship skills. To me that's a win!

Answer 6

Do it. It won't hurt and chances are it will help you guys in some small way. It's good that your husband (who's the one pulling away) wants to go to counseling to get to the bottom of his hesitations.

Answer 7

If he wants to go...GOOOOOOOO....

One of two things will happen...either you will improve your marriage OR you will decide TOGETHER to call it quits.

Go, Go, Go, GO, GOOOOOO

Search for a good counselor too. MC is only as good as those in it and the counselor.

As for outcomes you have heard of....Thats just it you are only hearing what that person is telling you. I doubt that they have told you...Counselor wanted me to do this and I said no I wouldn't do that...and so on.

GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Answer 8

it depends on who you go too. Some of them are good. i had a really good one that helped a lot, but then also had a bad one as well that was just a waste of time. I don't think they are bad cause it gives a person to work through their problems with someone being there to talk them through it.

Answer 9

If you already have a baby, what differences does it make if he doesn't want a family-- he already has one? Tell him to grow up or go to marriage counseling if he feels he needs it.

Answer 10

Tell him to step up and be a man. He made the family and now he has to take responsibility for it.