PLEASE SERIOUS ANSWERS! He only lasts about 3 mins. from the moment we begin to the end w/o foreplay. I try not to arouse him before intercourse so that he can last longer, but it doesn't work. Although I'm not sure if this is a good idea.
He is in his 20's and he's healthy. His previous relationship lasted 1 yr. and he mentioned one time that he was able to last longer with her. He refuses to use any kind of enhancers (i.e. sleeves or rings) and he refuses to buy me any toys so that he can relax while keeping me going on. (He won't even accept a "clone-a-willy" type of thing so we're still using "his" willy). Whenever I bring up the subject he just says he doesn't want to talk about it. He only says that he loves me and he's uncomfortable with the subject. I am, sexually, more open and all-around more sexual person than he is. (I ALWAYS have to ask for sex!) So, what could be the problem? **Oh yeah, and I don't think it's P.E. because when I do oral, it takes a while for him to come
2007-07-17 09:24:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh yeah! And since he doesn't last long, I suggested we tried something new (the back door). I really don't care to do it that way, but I am doing mainly for him. It doesn't help any! Thank you so much! I appreciate your time!
2007-07-17 09:39:46 · update #1
ONE MORE THING....I am making him read this!
2007-07-17 09:44:25 · update #2
I get the impression that the two of you have a low sexual compatability level. He needs to have a much more open mind to your needs. It sounds like he is not concerned with giving you pleasure or he would pleasure you to no end with toys and other means. You should seriously rethink your relationship if he isn't willing to give you much more consideration sexually. You should not be starved for pleasure in your relationship.
Another thing, if he won't even talk about it, then you should also consider the possibility that he isn't even emotionally available either. This is a double wammy. You suffer for communication and physical pleasure. What you have together sounds more like a stress test than a realationship.
2007-07-17 09:54:35 · answer #1 · answered by brad 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since this is a problem you are wise to work on it now and not just ignore it. Has he had a complete physical? A checkup by a specialist? Or anything? He can't just ignore the problem as there may be an underlying medical situation at fault about which he knows nothing. I was having trouble getting fitted with glasses and it was discovered that I was diabetic; following which I was put on a strict diet and taught to check my blood sugar and the problem was controlled. I am relieved it happened because if I hadn't discovered it it could have killed me. He may have blood pressure problems or who knows what; have him checked out as a beginning point and ask the doctor for further roadmaps of what to do.
2007-07-17 09:44:46 · answer #2 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just saw some stuff that desensitezs his penis. The guy at the store (gas station) said a lot of guys love it. If you could get him to take viagara or ciales, that will also make him last longer.
The fact that he isn't concerned about your needs is something that you should think about. Will your needs always come 2nd?
Whether he wants to hear it or not, i would tell him that you are not sexually satisfied, very bluntly. Thats the last thing we want to hear if we care or love someone,
2007-07-17 09:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by chip t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can say with all honesty my sex life and stamina greatly improved when I started taking Zoloft. Aside from the antidepressent effect it has, I found climaxing took longer and longer even when masterbating. I'm not saying it should be used as a recreational drug but if he is anxious or depressed it may be contributing to his quick climax. Check with him and see if he's willing to talk to a doctor about it. Good Luck.
2007-07-17 09:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by sasquatch5170 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh god. Your woman is like my man. He doesn't last more than 3 minutes before he c*ms. I like to try new things so he lasts longer like different positions.
2016-05-20 16:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else to be with...he really isn't worth the trouble.
He sounds like he doesn't know have to have sex or selfish. If he can control himself during oral...then he should be able to control himself during intercourse.
What does he think about when he is having sex...he may be a deep thinker and focuses to intensely on his orgasm. Thus it happens much faster. Most men are ready to orgasm within the first 5 minutes but LEARN to bring their women to orgasm...which can take on average (for women) at least 20 minutes of stimulation.
Ask him if he goal is to bring you to orgasm...
You're a grown woman if you want a toy, go get one yourself...if he gets offended he should be...cuz he isn't taking care of you. He should be glad you are wanting a toy and not seeking another man.
2007-07-17 09:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by makinitthru 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should take notice of what position he is most confortable with and try something different.Something that is not going to make him come as quick.Or extend the foreplay to where you are sastified first.It doesn't have to involve toys.He can always perform oral on you.
2007-07-17 09:35:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if this is worrying you now before you get married, I suggest you think twice before you get married...
People will often jump into marriage thinking that marriage will make everything better..often it does not it only makes matters worse..Personal experience. So if s.ex and him lasting longer is important in your partner, you need to think before taking the BIG jump...
On the other hand , just keep talking to him and maybe in time he will come around...
2007-07-17 09:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by Na 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be totally off base here, but it sounds like you guys are a good fit, and you're just too much to handle, a hot mama or a firecracker, and he can't last!!!! You deserve an "atta boy" for that one. Then, get a toy for yourself, ask if he wants to watch.... I guarantee you'll get it twice right then and there from him.
2007-07-17 09:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really really need to consider this one of those red flags I have spoken about...people, back me up here.
The fact he will not talk about it is strange, and shows you are on different levels of sexual maturity (mental.)
GOOD LUCK HONEY, sneak a quick o in the bathroom with a vibrator before you get in bed with him, albeit pretty pathetic LOL!
2007-07-17 09:28:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋