I feel like loser! PRETEEN Advice Please?

Question

I'm a 12 year old going into the 7th grade and I feel like such a dork! I feel like I'm gonna be such a loser when I get back to school and everyones gonna hate me just like they did to one of my friends. Everyday I feel less confident and fun, I think I'm going to be a nervous weird nerd like I was in the 4th grade. What should I do? What CAN I do? Please help

Yours Truly
Rae Rae

Answer 1

Rae,
Im A senior in High School and I know totaly how you feel.
My Advice is to just be your self. You have probably heard it a thousand times but its true!! But if you want to change, try wearing a cute outfit that sparkles and brings out your eyes.

Try wearing your hair different. Even if you feel like you are a " loser" just know your not. The real losers are the superficial people who only care about their social status.

Answer 2

Well, for what it's worth, pretty much everybody else in your grade feels the same way. I don't know if that helps, but you'll find out that the way you feel is often the way most other people feel. Some are better than others at hiding it, some are quicker than others at learning how to handle it, but all of us feel like that at one time or other. New things are usually scary ahead of time, but it's sort of like diving off the diving board the first time - the water looks really cold (it's not really), everybody's watching you (they're not really), you're going to look stupid (actually, you'll look fine, like everybody else), and you'll be so embarrassed that you'll have to run away and become a hermit (nah - you'll jump in, your friends will cheer and you'll feel a whole lot better once you're in the pool). Once you start something, all those fears will just disappear. Sure, there will be things that make you feel bad, but share your problems and they won't be so bad.

Answer 3

First of all, STOP worrying about what everyone else thinks about you and START concentrating on how you feel about yourself ... SELF CONFIDENCE is the best antidote for the majority of the problems and stresses facing you in Jr High ... and realize that you only have 5 years of public school, and at least 50 years of real world after that ... so don't put so much emphasize on what the "cool" people say and do ... as long as you are happy with yourself, that is what will lead you to a successful life ... take it from one ex-jr high geek/nerd who became a very successful manager with a beautiful cheerleader wife :)

Answer 4

Work hard in school. Volunteer. Participate in extra-curricular activities. Refuse to socialize with people who seek popularity and people who gossip. Don't let any "cool kids" mess with you. Ignore and walk away from teasing. If the teasers get violent get help from adults. There are worse things than being a dork or a nerd. Many people who were dorks or nerds in school have knowledge, money and power in adulthood.

Answer 5

Middle school were one of my best years. You dont need everyone liking you in order to survive a school year, i had 5 close friends, and other friends, and thats all i needed. Not all the popular people liked me but i mean, they didnt think i was a loser, but they didnt consider me in there group. Middle school is where you find yourself, dont let others mess you up, as long as you have a best friend then it will be way easier to survive 7th grade then doing it alone.

Answer 6

First of all stop thinking that way! You can become anything you want to be. Just believe in yourself. If you have confidence in yourself other people will like you.

Dress nicely to school. Act like yourself. Have fun! and you'll be fine. Who cares what other people think about you. It's what you think about yourself that matters. If you're having fun with your life then they don't matter.

Also if the kids you go to school with... My guess the "popular kids" were mean to one of your best friends why do you want to be friends with them? Be friends with the people who accept you no matter who you are. But if you really want to be "cool" or "popular" you can go ahead and do that. And I know you can. Just make sure to be true to yourself no matter how you turn out in the 7th grade!

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Hi, I'm 12 years old too. Don't try to change yourself, that won't work! I have felt the same way going into the 4th grade, (and a little again this year), but I found out that if you just be yourself, and maybe a little more open and trying to make friends, it works well. Email me at [e-mail] if you want to chat or need advice. :D i bet you're a great person!

Answer 8

I am 10 years older than you (22).

If I could go back in time and give my middle-school self some advice, I would say this: smile, have fun, believe in yourself, participate in as many activities as possible(as long as you are truly interested), volunteer and try to help others out as much as possible, be kind to others and treat other people like you want to be treated.

In the grand scheme of life, middle school is incredibly insignificant. So is high school. I barely remember my middle school years...that is why you just need to smile, hang out with friends, go to the school dances/parties, have fun, and do not take yourself too seriously. Don't worry what others think of you and don't get too caught up in drama. It really doesn't matter and will have no serious impact on your life, I promise.

Just be happy :)

Answer 9

I am sure you are not a loser, secondary school is a lot bigger than primary school when I started Primary school (way too long ago) I was nervous but straight away I made friends. All you need to do is volounteer for things and be confident.
Good Luck

Answer 10

Im 12 going into 7th grade to. So i kinda kno wat u feel like. Jus keep up ur confidence, nd jus watch wit who u hang out wit. U r not gonna b a nerd nor loser. Jus remember that, Nd if any1 does call u a nerd or loser, then punch them in the face. lol.