Okay, I have to get this out there. I'm going to drive myself crazy if I don't tell you. This is so hard for me to say, because usually I'm like a complete chicken and am really shy, but I have feelings for you. I know this may be a stupid move on my part telling to you this, because I value our friendship above all else, but I just couldn't hold it in any longer. I think you're a great guy and I love talking to you and look forward to writing to you every time you're on. And when we get the chance to hang out, I have a really great time with you. I know the distance seems like it would be a challenge right now, but if you ever do feel the same way, I would definitely do everything to make sure it worked out. I don't need a lot of attention and I'll be as busy as you are during the semester. If you don't feel the same way, I totally understand and I hope that it doesn't affect our friendship in any way. I just think you're such an amazing person and needed to let you know.
I went to highschool with that I recently reconnected with via the internet...? DETAILS: We've been talking for about 3 months now and I've hung out with him three times because he lives two hours away from me. The thing is, I have feelings for him, should I tell him through the internet or wait until I see him again?
2007-07-17 09:00:49 · 11 answers · asked by SHOOT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, it sounds really good! I know what it is like to be shy and afraid to say something like this to someone in person so if you really need to do it via internet then go for it! Things like this are always good in person, but if you just can not bring yourself to talk about it face to face, then send it on out! Good luck hun!
2007-07-17 09:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sometimes you've got to take a chance, right? Better to make the effort and take the risk than agonize over 'maybe's. That being said, it's probably best to do this in writing - face-to-face can be very embarrasing and surprising. Written down like this may seem a bit more impersonal, but it also gives him some time to think about it and decide what to do in response. If he does like you (and for what it's worth, guys rarely, if ever, are "just friends" with girls - usually they're interested, if they're interested), then he can be happy that he didn't have to set his ego up to be bashed in order to find out whether you like him. If he's not romantically interested after all, then the odds are that this will create a certain amount of discomfort, but it was going to any way (at least on your part). Go, go, go - some of us are really shy and need the extra help. Hope it works out happily for you!
2007-07-17 09:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd say tell him in person. If it ends up that he doesn't like you in the same way as you like him, it may be a slightly harder blow because you're face to face. But if it ends up he does like you, then it'd be a lot better than hearing it over the Internet. Face to face is a more personal and intimate thing rather than over the Internet.
But if you are just too shy to say anything to him face to face, then okay, send him an email. It may not be as satisfying to hear that he likes you over email rather than face to face, but at least you'd get your feelings out there.
And I'm sure if you both like each other quite a bit, the distance should be nothing. It may be quite an obstacle in the beginning, but it'll lessen.
2007-07-17 09:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is tough, that is a really good letter. And im not actually sure weather you should tell him personally or over the internet, but i think you should tell him now, because you might not get the chance again or somthing could happen, if you can talk to him real easily and hang out with him with just u and him without other people around than i think your confident enough to just tell him strait forward, but if your shy around him than email that letter to him.
Hope it works out.
2007-07-17 09:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by bluedolfinswimmer13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a good email. If your both shy then you should make it as comfortable for him as for you. If he really is shy then the easiest thing it do is say it in an email. But saying it face to face is more meaningful, either way is fine, but face to face is the best thing for any situation. But seeing as though your both shy, an email might have the same effect.
2007-07-17 09:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really good! I think it would be best to tell him on the internet, because if you are both shy, you won't(or he won't)get as nervous. Also, you will be able to hold your dignity a bit better.
1 thing- don't be too nervous. If he says yes, then whoopee, if not, well, it won't be any different than before! Go for it!
2007-07-17 09:20:49 · answer #6 · answered by Shiny_Stone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait. It never turns out the way we want it through email. I would not send this letter to him. It gives him too much power and seems a little desperate. Just wait until you see him again and figure out how he feels, then go from there.
2007-07-17 09:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by David B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
time and time again, I contine to see young girls, throwing themselves at boys. If he was interested in dating you, he would've made it obvious to you by now.
My son, has this stalker who continues e-mailing him asking him to take her out. He continues to tell her that he isn't interested but she somehow has this infatuation with him and it is scary. When all the boys get together at my house, we talk and the one thing that is mentioned is how girls throw themselves at them and how ugly it makes them look. Sometimes, they take the girl up on the offer just to have a fling with and nothing serious.
Word to the wise, if he wants to date you, he'll make the first move. Stop being pushy.
2007-07-17 09:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that sounds really good! but....if u send it to him and then when u see him again u mite not know how to act.....so, maybe u could say sumthin like "did u get my email? its okay if u dont feel the same way, i just dont want any weirdness inbetween us." that would be good. so, good luck!
2007-07-17 09:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply inform him straitup the complete hindrance approximately wat occurred and if you'll, take a look at tellin him at the mobilephone or email to alleviate one of the vital shyness. ultimately he's going to come round to have an understanding of
2016-09-05 15:06:39 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋