For instance, let's say the husband decides he gets a good job offer in another state or province and he says it is time for the family to go. I ofcourse, believe that it is a duty for a woman to follow her man where he leads. In addition reasons says that you can't be together as a couple and have two different directions - one has to lead and the other has to follow. Ofcourse, the leader by the laws of nature is the man.
2007-07-17 08:40:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I disagree with you. It isn't just for the husband to make up his mind nor is it for the wife to make up her mind but if either one is getting a job promotion in another town, in which it involves moving, then the couple will have to talk this out and come to decision because it will affect their marital lives as a couple.
2007-07-20 11:24:12 · answer #1 · answered by conde_c_b 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The way you pose that question is interesting. I guess in some ancient society, you are correct. I think in a democratic society that values equality, it is a family decision, not just that of the man or the woman. I would think most people would say that everyone makes sacrifices for their family and sometimes that requires leaving friends and a job. But if the woman is making more money or has more security at her job, then it would probably be best for the man to decline the job offer out of town. Flip that to the man has the better job and job security, then the woman should make the sacrifice of quitting her job to follow the man. But to say that one has to lead and the other follow, and the man should lead is quite ridiculous. But reading that statement made me happy about my relationship, where no one leads or follows, we are a team that makes decisions together for the betterment of us, not one person. I think the relationship you described ultimately leads in divorce, because one person is sacrificing and the other is dictating.
2007-07-17 08:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by crimsonian 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Once again, moving is a very personal decision.
Lets say both partners have aging parents, or kids in the last year of HS. Duty isn't everything, dear. Sometimes there are other factors.
So, I'd have to say, that's a decision to be made between husband and wife. It's really not anyone else's business, now, is it?
2007-07-17 09:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well I dont believe the leader is the man.....but if my husband was offered a better paying job out of state..Id move...just because Ive been trying to get him to move up north for like 10 yrs LOL
2007-07-17 09:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by ...Tammy... 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't agree with anything you just said. I think the family would have made the decision for the husband to apply out of state or area together. That is what my husband and I have always discussed. It happens in our situation that I have more options for work being a teacher, he doesn't... more specialized.
2007-07-17 08:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by Math Teacher 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Dump his sorry @$$. He really doesn't deserve you. He is clearly disrespecting you and totally doesn't love. It will take a lot for him to change and right now he is not susceptible to change. And I think that he has already slept with her, but that's just my opinion. Leave the jerk or fast and pray. But know that it will take a long time for him to change. God be with you.
2016-05-20 15:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should only move if it's a mutual decision that that's what's best for the family. If it's more logical to stay, or move for the wife, that's what they should do. No matter what, I would never give up my friends. I'll keep contact long distance, and visit them when I can.
2007-07-18 04:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
As long as the job offer was discussed and mutually agreed upon, I don't see a problem for the wife to give up her job. I do however think it's terrible for him to expect to give up her friends. I have friends in other states, and keep in contact as much as I can but I just don't see them as often as I did when they lived close by but I still consider them to be friends.
2007-07-17 12:16:36 · answer #8 · answered by Panda 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, shut up. It should be a desision made by the both of them. Anyway, as you say, the woman should be the homemaker, so shouldn't she have the say of whether or not she has to give up her home anyway?
2007-07-17 08:49:52 · answer #9 · answered by Senator D*L*P™ 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
that decision must be made only be a husband and his wife and of course you don't have any say in the matter.
2007-07-20 11:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by soar_2307 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋