My (ex stripper) wife left me for another man...(Go figure?) Some poor sucker has decided to sponsor her and is going to be her 3rd husband. Good luck man! Anyhow...She has decided to take our daughter and move far far away. Too far for weekend visitations etc... I figure why can't she just rub up on men here. Does it make a difference? Sorry...side tracked....How can I sabotage her plans for my kids sake. Our custody battle was set to 80:20 her favor. I know she does drugs and is obviously promiscuous. Ehem! I'm very stable with a house and my own business. My daughter (age6) loves me very much and cries when i have to take her back to her mother. (I don't blame her...I felt the same way when i had to come home to her too.) It's something about that wedding cake gentlemen...watch out! Well lawyer and lawyer wannabes take a crack at this one. Thanks!
~best dad in the whole world!~
2007-07-17 08:26:59 · 37 answers · asked by moralityisrelative1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the few detectives out there...First of all...you guys/gals are great and Thank you for support! God bless!!!
Well...past like all things are just that...past. I wasn't always in the great position I am in today. It was a long battle of poverty moving apt to apt and place to place. If you can give me one example of a family that doesn't struggle, I'll gladly give you a dollar. 80:20 is the big question so I'll give you the big answer. I was working 3 jobs during our divorce just to make ends meet. Thank the lord I was blessed with being able to provide for my family. Life doesn't always deal you a royal flush but sometimes you have to play your 7, 3 off suite as if it was just that. Since my ex stripper wife went to work throughout the wee hours of morning (pleasuring men from everywhere) She was able to watch not only her kid but our kid too. I just thank god every day that there is truly people like you all out there that do not even know me, but loves me anyway. Muah!
2007-07-17 09:05:35 · update #1
I'm the best Dad, but that's another show.
Dude, get a lawyer. It sounds pretty solid in your favor if you get the case in front of a judge! Good luck, and quit marrying skanks!!!
2007-07-17 08:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you can find a good lawyer, you can win custody of a child who is being raised by a drug addict. Otherwise, she will have the right to take your child wherever she wants. My suggestion is to get a lawyer and go do battle in the courts. If you lose, have a backup plan whereby you get every other holiday and ALL summer long with the child. Courts often go for that. You'll have the entire summer to make a good influence on your little girl and, maybe, find proof of your ex's bad mothering. I know you don't want your child to grow up to be like her mother. Good luck.
2007-07-17 08:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In one of your prior questions, you stated you did not want custody or visitation--- THAT'S WHY IT'S 80/20. When a "great dad" has 80/20, there is a reason, it's because you're only great in your own mind. Poor child- a druggie mom (if you're telling the truth) and a dad who doesn't want her.
You suck! You state you are very stable with a home and business, so why not provide a loving nurturing environment for your child? Don't worry about hiring an attorney... that's why the courts only awarded 80/20!!! You aren't giving us the whole story. Hopefully the guy your ex marries will take care of YOUR kid!!!! Since you can't!!!!!
2007-07-17 08:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear you are going through sush a tough time.I would do the best to prove her unfit and unstable to take care of your daughter. Stripping, doing drugs and unstable relationships going from one man to another, that is not a stable environment for a child to be brought up in. I would do all I could as far as finding out the best way to go about gettin all the information required to put the judgement more in your favour. Get advise from different lawyers or others that have had to go through the same process to get their child out of a bad situation. It would not be good for her emotionally or mentally. It is confusing enough to her as it is, not having you both to be with in a home. You must show she is an unfit mother and not able to be there to take care of her daughter like she is needed to. I will definately keep you and your daugher in my prayers. I pray your ex will not be spiteful or selfish but think what is really best for her daugher and do the right thing for once in her life. I know only God can deal with her heart cause she seems to have no conviction with how she is conducting her life, all is under selfish motives and she is out for herself and not considering others feelings that are involved.
2007-07-17 08:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by mercynlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You signed your question "best dad in the whole world!"... Far from it. An ADEQUATE father would not speak of his daughter's mother the way you have. Your world view is off and that is probably why you feel like such a victim. I'm rooting for mom.
As far as "I know it all's" above post, he apparently does not know it all. Perhaps in his state or other jurisdiction CPS is required by law to investigate a report of drug use. However, that is FAR from the norm. The fact that s/he makes such a blanket statement with no factual information is telling... the only thing "know it all" knows is how to make up stories.
2007-07-17 08:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by snoopy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get your lawyer to present to the judge a temporary injunction which can force her to not leave the state until you have a hearing. A lot of it will depend on how the divorce papers were written. I was fortunate enough to have something put in there that if she left the state all alimony and child support would end. She had threatened to take them to another state if I didn't pay a certain amount, which was way over what the state required. When this came out in court, the judge took her to the wood shed for using the kids like that.
2007-07-17 08:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Unfortunately, judges tend to side with the mother in child custody cases. But it sounds like you have a very good case to show she's mentally unfit. You have an even better libel case because of the blogs. I know it sucks for the 12-year-old, but it will be even worse for her to be brought up by that woman, who is unstable and undoubtedly filling her head with terrible ideas about you and your husband. Take her to court for moving out of state without court's consent if you can and in your claim, include everything you did here, even if you've stated it in the past.
2016-05-20 15:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you are in but under Michigan law there is a 100 mile radius law. She is not allowed to seek permanent residence beyond 100 miles with your child without petitioning the court and getting your permission. I assume you are paying child support through the friend of the court. Contact them and they will help you. If she decides to leave anyway she will have a bench warrant put our for her arrest.
2007-07-17 08:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by shootingstars957 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has custodial rights, then she can take her any where she wants to.Sorry Man I know your pain, went through it myself and I was not married to her and I gave her LOTS of money to take care of him and she blew it. Hopefully this information you shared with us was stated during the court hearing, the judge made a decision and it sucks for you. Ask the lawyer you had if you can get the judge to limit her from moving that far away to insure you get what the court ordered and ask for an appeal.
2007-07-17 08:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your only hope is to clearly illustrate to the judge that your ex's lifestyle is not good for your child's upbringing. you need a lawyer and any evidence of her behavior (like bank statements, all records, etc.) also her employment history vs. yours. if you are more stable than her and can show it, you have a chance, but you need to get a lawyer who specializes in family law. also, the judge may factor in the kids' opinion depending on the age..... factors like the kids school, activities (sports, clubs) can also be used to show that the kids should continue that instead of being uprooted for her own benefit.
2007-07-17 08:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by joel95ex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! Finally I can answer on a subject that is near and dear to my heart and not just guy vs girl junk.
My significant other had his wife up and leave New Mexico and move to FL with his son when he was just under a year old. he being the upstanding man that he is uprooted his life and followed her there to be able to be with his son. Keep in mind that he left his entire family and all his friends to be alone in FL just to have weekend visitation. This was the hardest and continues to be the hardest thing he has gone through in his 40 years of life. He is torn between wanting to be with his family and the love of his life( his son). He gets incredibly depressed quite frequently but honestly would have done anything to be with his son! Talk to your wife before she takes your daughter..... explain to her that she is not only hurting you but her daughter by doing this. ( my bf's son feels guilty now because he is old enough now to know that his Dad made a huge sacrifice for him)
I can tell you that if he had it to do over again, he would have had the best lawyer he could afford and stopped her from up and leaving.......it is your right as well as hers to have just as much access to your child!
Good Luck! I sure hope things work out best for all!
2007-07-17 08:36:44 · answer #11 · answered by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋