It has been 2 years since the divorce and whe have been separated for almost 3 and I have dated two men and I cant seem to feel much but like and I have no trust at all.
2007-07-17 08:16:23 · 6 answers · asked by mommybird64 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Healing takes time.
Everyone's heart is different.
Keep dating, keep going out, develope hobbies, attend church, make new friends, write a novel, take vacations and just try to live each day enjoying yourself.
I'm sorry that this happened to you. My father left my mother for another woman when I was eight - after 20 years of marriage too. I can identify with your pain, having watched my mother go through it.
She is now happily married to a wonderful man, and her heart has almost healed completely.
I don't think you ever recover entirely.
I will pray for you, and I wish you love and joy.
2007-07-17 08:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by diva_500 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. I have been divorced for almost 3 years after 12 years of marriage. She cheated. Have only dated twice. Right now I'm trying to get comfortable trying to date but I am raising my 13 year old son by myself so that takes up alot of my time. Just try and stay busy, an idle mind is a hard thing to deal with. You will spend too much time thinking (negative thoughts) and not enough time living and moving forward. I still am not moving forward but I am getting better about not beating myself up for her decisions and actions. Good luck and God bless
2007-07-17 08:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by egghead 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then it is time that you do some soul searching for yourself.
Once you have been hurt and do nothing to heal the pain that you suffered, you will continue on the path of self destruction.
Take some time for yourself...Concentrate on healing all the pain that was caused during your marriage. Empty out all of the junk that was deposited into you and replace it with positive energy. Once you have released the negativity, you will be able to trust again.
2007-07-17 08:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mommybird, there's no rule or book or even a manual to tell you how long it takes to get over a husband's infidelities. It sounds like you haven't gotten over it and tried to move on. I know you're scared that it's going to happen again with someone else. That's not fair to the man and definitely not fair to you.
It's time to seek help, because all men are not like this, I assure you. It does take time, but it takes patience as well, you are the only one that can get over it. You are the only one who can decide the right time to let it go.
Hope for a peace of mind for you.
2007-07-17 08:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will take about a year, same as a death.
2007-07-17 08:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you ahve to remind yourslef these men you meet and date are not your husband..until you do, youre going to associate and not be happy...id just give it time..
2007-07-17 08:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Mergler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋