I have two friends, Chloe and Bekkie. Chloe use to be my best friend and would tell me almost anything, but recently she and Bekkie have done EVERYTHING together. They always go to each others houses, do whatever the other asks, and Chloes msn name in 'chloe ere luvin her best mate bekkie 4 lyf'. Ibe asked a hundred times to be up there, but she wont change it even though she knows it makes me sad! I know her password (i havent told her though) and im tempted to change it myself...Why don't they like me, and should i change it?
2007-07-17 08:10:18 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Please don't change her account, it is not your right to do that. I suggest they don't dislike you, they just like each other more. Maybe you search for a best friend too, and leave them in your dust.
2007-07-17 08:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Steve C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...don't go into her private stuff and change it. You would not like it if she did that to you. Also your going to start a fight where a fight doesn't need to be. Always pick and choose your battles wisely.
Second....make sure that you have not done anything to offend your friend.
Third....see why she likes to hang out with this other person. You maybe lacking what this friend is able to do. If you don't like going on theme park rides, but this other friend does, you shouldn't get mad because your bff likes to do it too. (this goes for anything) You should be willing to see what it is and just go to have fun, not hoard the time with your friend because you have known her longer. This will be true with all things in life.
Fourth and finale....ask your bff, by herself, why she is hanging with the other girl so much, and how you feel. Don't belittle her and make her feel bad in what she is doing. Just let her know how you feel and if things don't change, move on. Also don't hold it against her, because everyone changes as you get older and your interest will also change. She might just find you not so interesting. Be willing to take a little and give a little!
2007-07-17 08:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definantly DON'T change it! It will not only get what you don't want, (which will be your name taken down immediately) but they will both more than likely completely cut all relations with you. Instead I would suggest to put yourself out on the line more within the friendship. Call them both up and suggest a movie all together, or beach, mall, or coming over to your house! Offer something fun & some sort of social interaction. Be friendly, but don't get too stuck on it, if they don't come around you will find other great friends, don't worry about it!
2007-07-17 08:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tulip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't change it, cause it won't do you any good, it'll only make things worse.
There is one way to make them let you in their circle again. Whenever you're with them, act calm and cool, just be yourself, but don't get excited over whatever they say. Make them feel that you're just going with the flow and it doesn't really matter to you. In other words, make them feel that they are the ones being left out.
If Chloe really cares for you, she'd ask you why you changed and stuff like that, and you can go back to being close friends (not necessarily bestfriends); but if she doesn't, she won't change, and thats when you know you're better off without her anymore.
Good luck :)
2007-07-17 08:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by I.K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Kat, don't change it. If those two are pulling away from you there's a reason but even if you never know that reason, they are NOT the only people on the earth. If they are diggin' each other more now, go get other friends and learn who they are. Believe me, friends will come and go, but you can keep livin' even if the two you liked the most are crazy now. Hope this helps.
2007-07-17 08:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Nikky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't change it because then she will really hate you. Sometimes people just find others that they have more in common with. They are growing a part from you and forcing yourself on them isn't going to help. It would be in your best interest to start looking for some other friends to hang around with before they start getting really mean.
2007-07-17 08:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't change it...you have to learn to become the bigger person. If they are moving apart from you or moving on do the same. Why don't you find a new friend to hang out with. Never depend on them because things change. Always have a back up plan. Thats happen to me a million times. Especially if I fall out with one friend she hurries up and tries to get my other friend to be on her side...then I am alone...that is if I let it affect me...But just like there are a million guys to move on to the same is for friends and theres billions to move on to. I know it may hurt but if you move on and don't care then they will want to start coming around you and want to be your bestfriend again. I hope you make a wise and mature decision. Good luck
2007-07-17 08:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by PoshBCD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change the name because that is going to make everything worse. She seems to just be replacing you with someone else. Tell her how you feel and how you feel like she just isn't even your best friend anymore, and how you feel left out. She should understand. And if she doesn't understand then I think that it is time to find a new best friend, someone who will treat you better.
2007-07-17 08:13:58 · answer #8 · answered by iloveyou6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's happened to me before. I'm gonna let you in on a little secret: they're not really your friends. Maybe they were using you from the start, maybe their brain isn't functioning the way it used to. You might as well get some new friends and forget about them. They will only bring you more pain. And yes, I think you should change it. It would serve her right.
2007-07-17 08:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by Taylor S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there in one of those times when they're close to just one friend..hopefully they'll come around and realize how your feeling. But for now just stay cool and lay low..give them some time...and for the password thing..don't change it..then they will probably get mad at you..and that could cause you to lose them!...both of them
2007-07-17 08:15:52 · answer #10 · answered by alicia<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be that there's anything wrong with you, I guess it's just that the've clicked well and have wanted to hang out with eachother a lot lately...they could still like you.
And I don't think you should chang it...it was just make them think you're being immature about it and it'd also let them know that you have her password..
2007-07-17 08:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by Jacob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋