Everything was going well until a couple of months ago. My parents didn't want me to work in highschool and said they would pay for my first year of college. Now college is less than a 2 months away and everthing is falling apart. My parents are getting divorced as soon as possible, and they say they need my school money for the divorce and moving on with their lives and that they can't pay anymore. So I have no money for school, but I also have to get out of my house becuase my parents are seling it as soon as possible too. Too much for an 18 year old to handle. I don't know what to do. I have no money and no place to go. Should I just take out a student loan to get away from this madness? or what..I'm emotional upset about the divorce and can't really think clearly right now...plex help...
2007-07-17 08:08:28 · 23 answers · asked by athick.ricepaddie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Student loans will help you with your college. Is there another family member you could go to for lodging? Obviously your parents are not too bright to do this to you. I would look for a job close to the college so that way, if you don't have a car, you can get there by walking or bike. Check with your financial aid office as well for more tips for getting money for college. As for the emotional things, if you need to, try talking to a counselor at school or go to a therapist.
2007-07-17 08:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by scoobydoo316316 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a parent divorce and even though I did not lose my house there were money problems. I would suggest that you try to start your life out right. Get the loan move forward and not backward as your parents are doing. You will be more happy if you can continue on your road towards college and living away from all this (assuming you would be in a dorm or something) is the best medicine. Saying a prayer would not hurt either. I wish you luck.
2007-07-17 15:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible position for your parents to put you in. What they are doing is incredibly selfish. You could take on a student loan. How about looking for a job where they will actually pay for you secondary schooling. You could also go into the service and have your schooling paid for. So sorry to hear that your parents are only thinking of themselves right now. I have an 18 year old son starting college in about a month. I would never ever bestow upon him what your parents have on you.
2007-07-17 15:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard to deal with your parents divorce I had to go through it back in elementary school and it was really hard cuz I knew why and how long it was taking them to get a divorce. And after they did my dad just left and we didnt hear from him in a few years well not until I was like in the 6th grade anyway. But like Im in high school now. Yeah I think that you should get a job and go live with a friend for a while until you can afford a place of your own. And just get a student loan to help pay for collage. Either that or just hold off on collage until you can afford it.
2007-07-17 15:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by amy c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Apply for a student loan to cover tuition and room and board. They aren't due until after you graduate from college.
2) Find a part-time job to cover cost for books and other college living expenses.
3) Look into scholarships. There are organizations out there who are looking for people to award money to -- you might be one of them!
Your parents have put you in a tough situation but you have two choices: Give up and forget college; or find a way to go to school. Putting yourself through school is an enormous achievement -- I'll bet that you'll be just as proud (if not prouder) to have done that than getting your college degree.
Don't give up. Colleges have ways to helping students like you stay in school. Good luck!
2007-07-17 15:25:17 · answer #5 · answered by JC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is very hard on anyone, and especially with everything your trying to get done its very stressful. I would definitly look into what grants or loans you can apply for so you can go to college. its real important that you go and you shouldnt give up. you should really be jumping on things though cause who knows maybe you can move in to a dorm room. or find someone that can possibly share an apt with you. at first things will seem tough but thats when you can look back and say you've been through all the tough stuff and you can only go up in life, not down.
2007-07-17 16:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by luvleebabygurl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. Going through a divorce, losing your home, all in such a short time.
I think your parents are being very selfish to use your promised money for themselves. But it is their money, after all.
Are you going to live with either one after the divorce? It will help a lot to determine how much you can borrow.
Go to your counsellor at school. Make her earn her living. This is wha tshe is paid to do. Tell her what is happening in your life. She may help you get loans, or encourage you to work for a year to save money.
My best advice? Go to another town, and roommate with a good friend of yours from your high school days. Work nights and go to school part-time during the day. That way you will have time to yourself from the roommate.
Rest your brain, get out of the turmoil in your family, stay out of the middle, and figure out what YOU want for YOU.
Stay sober, don't date anyone seriously, and think about your future. Plan what you will do next, without all the BS swirling around you.
Don't wait to start school, but go a bit slower-so you won't be $30K in debt when you graduate.
Good luck, honey. Email me.
2007-07-17 15:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible answer: 1. Sit with your parents, if possible, and explain that they made a promise to you long before this divorce came about. 2. See if you can get together with other girls for living accomodations and check into a job, even part time that would work with your school schedule. 3. Plus you can apply for any and all grants available to you. Yes getting a school loan would be a step forward if you have thought that debt through. Good luck.
2007-07-17 15:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by Booby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One since your parents told you not to work until you get to college tell them they are going to have to settle for a less expensive divorce and even less expensive set up for themselve. After all it was their wish you didnt work and since they knew well before you did they were getting divorced they should have told you earlier so you could have tried to work and put money away. You are also going to have to see what money is available for student loans, quickly because it might already be too late for september
2007-07-17 15:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by dave n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I'm so sorry! This is a lot for you to have to deal with!
Check into student financing and student housing. Are you not allowed to live with either parent? Have you talked to your parents about having a place to live?
Worst case scenario is you may have to put off college for a semester until you can get something set up for finances, but that doesn't mean you can't go.
Be strong, you can get through this!
2007-07-17 15:13:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋