Husband is really lazy when it comes to ess ee ex, what can i do?

Question

Sometimes he just wants a quick blow like during the football, but when it comes to like saturday nights he just wants me to ride him... he lies there and just wants me to get on, we've probably done it about 100 times in the past month and not once have i won, Lazy!!! What should i do?

Answer 1

There is NO doubt in my mind what you should do..

GET A LOVER !!!!

I would not tell him as it would complicate things a lot. There is no excuse at all, for his selfish attitude. Don't feel Guilty. It is him who should feel any guilt......

Answer 2

Lol to Mandy 43110 & fair play to JAMES - (nice to know there are some guys who DO listen)
100 times a month = at least 3 times a day - you must be 'saddle sore' by now - you have got into this routine & he probably thinks it's ok, my fella has a favourite position and when we first got together it soon became obvious that if I let him he would do it that way everytime so I said to him " have you had steak for dinner every night this week"? and when he replied "no" I told him that I didn't intend to have sex the same way everytime as it would be like eating the same food every night. So now that position is referred to as 'steak' (as we come from a generation where steak was something that we only ate as a treat as it was too expensive)

Answer 3

My husband used to be that way and here's what I did: (This takes a bit of setup)

When he's laying on his back like a lazy lump tell him to close his eyes. Next gently slip his hands into two snare like loops you pre tied into two pairs of panty hose (or his neck ties) you've tied to the bed frame. (If he's anything like my husband he'll get all excited because he thinks your gonna play a kinky game). Once his arms are secure....


leave the room and shut the door.



Let him sit there for about 3 to 5 minutes and then before you let him up tell him you want him to be more active when you're having relations. If he's anything like my husband it will be a long time before he'll let you be on top again.

Answer 4

You need to talk with him in a serious conversation (and not during foot ball) about it and let him know that your not satisfied. If this does not help then I would do what it takes to satisfy you first and don't give him the right to climax before you do. If that fails and it really bothers you you might need to seek help from a therapist that's trained to help married couples and sex problems because this might be a more serious problem then you think.

Answer 5

so its taken u a 100 times to realise that he's lazy?! make him go on top, about time he did something for you. btw do u get anything from it when he is just laying there?

Answer 6

Tell him that you are not satisfied. You don't have to use those exact words but you could tip-toe around it. Also you could share your fantasies with him. Tell him what gets you going. That might excite him into trying something new and interesting.

Answer 7

Start being lazy right back. Get some toys, pleasure yourself, and forget him. Maybe he will take the hint.

Answer 8

100 times a month. Stop complaning you have a stallion!!

Answer 9

You are being used, you deserve your pleasure as well. He is a lazy inconsiderate lover. You need to state your needs.

Answer 10

tell him to get off his back and pay you some attention....mines like that too...he either wants a nosh or a jump, either way he does not move, he assumes that i am just gonna relieve him and so be it...men are so lazy in bed, or is it just ours...?