I am going for my first Doctor Appointment next Tuesday. At first I thought it would be my hubby and me. Then my mom said she can't wait to go. I think I am fine with my mom going but then today my dad said he is so excited to meet the doctor. I really don't want my father in there with me. I also don't want 4 people in one small room to meet the doctor. Did you have family members go with you to your first appointment?
2007-07-17 06:25:10 · 28 answers · asked by Sam468 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
my first appt was just me and my hubby. they usually do a vaginal exam
2007-07-17 06:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie H 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well the whole family thing is nice. If they want to be involved it's up to you, how much. My hubby went with me to our first, I think it's special to be there together. We also had our first ultrasound that time around. So maybe you can call and ask what they are going to do. Maybe when the ultrasound happens it can be just you and hubby. But if the first is just paperwork they can all meet your doctor then. It's neat that they want to be a part of that but is this a first time for you and your hubby? Ask him and see what he would like. At least you know you will probably have a great support system around you! Good Luck!
2007-07-17 13:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I only took my husband with me to my first appointment. My parents didn't even know that I went to my first appointment...no one knew except him and I. It was a great bonding experience for us, and I feel is starting a solid foundation for our own family. He has since came to every appointment with me, just him, no one else. It's great that your parents are excited to meet your doctor and be part of it's life already, but you really need to do what you are comfortable with. I don't think the first appointment is one you will want them at. Most Drs. do the vaginal exam on the first appt. Good luck!!
2007-07-17 13:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by jalycestorley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you sould just bring hubby, as they will ask some person question you may not want mum and dad to hear, I know I would want my mother to be involved, by being the first to see the ultrasound, or picking me up from the appointment, but not coming in.
I think you are right about the space aswell. Just gently tell them the doctor said you can only bring one person with you....
2007-07-17 13:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by vegface 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I just had my boyfriend with me. It was a very special moment for the two of us when we found out the sex of the baby. I just sent my mom copies of the pictures they gave me. If you don't want them to go then you can just tell them that you want to share the moment with your husband and that they will definitely get to see the pictures. And if your dad wants to meet the doctor, then have him meet him at some other time or in the waiting room.
2007-07-17 16:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by Damon's mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not. You should go to your first ultrasound with your hubby only if that's what makes you the most comfortable. Your mom signing up for something she was not invited to is kinda of rude.. even though she IS excited and probably did not do it to bother you, but she should have waited until you invited her.
I went to my first ultrasound with my first just my husband and myself.. we had a great experience.
I am pregnant again and last Saturday we went to our first ultrasound for this baby. It was just my husband my daughter and myself. My mom had signed up to go and my sisters did too, I didn't tell them when I was going.. they didn't get mad or offended or anything. You should do the same, and if they become upset just tell them you were so excited about it that you forgot to call .. some little excuse just so you and your hubby can go alone.. it's the best! :o)
2007-07-17 13:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's so up to you! It was my child's father and I for the first and pretty much all the ultrasounds. But we have to remember...our parents are usually as excited as we are. It can be overwhelming I know, and since it's your first visit it's gonna be worse. I would feel bad telling my mom, dad, or both that I didn't want them in there so I'd probably just let em come in. If it's a vaginal exam, then don't feel weird telling him (dad) not to come in...it's weirder if he's in the room! Good luck with the baby!!
2007-07-17 13:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by mom-to-my-boy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it was just my partner and me. It is a tiny room and I think its an extremely special moment that should be shared by 2 people who created the baby. You can still involve your parents by showing them the photos etc and there will be plenty of time for them to meet your doctor as you get plenty of appointments as your pregnancy carries on.
2007-07-17 13:29:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
no!!!!! I went by myself to my first doctors visit cuz they have to do all the normal check like a pelvic exam and stuff like that! I mean maybe your mom should go with you or you hubby. Then the rest can go in turns. But if it doesn't both you then take 4 people.But with my first ultrasound my hubby went with me.but its your baby your body ! best of luck and congrads
2007-07-17 13:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by mother of twin girls 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lol, this reminds me of when I went into labor. My mom kept saying I can't wait, even though I had already told my hubby I only wanted him there. (I ended up letting her stay and was VERY glad I did!)
My hubby was the only one that went with me to the first U/S though. It will probably be the same way with this pregnancy too.
2007-07-17 13:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless dad is a doctor or something as well I wouldn't take him along for an appt. However, mom and hubby would be ideal. It's all about what you feel comfy with and what you don't.
2007-07-17 13:29:32 · answer #11 · answered by Kishauna_P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋