ok im worried about my son he is 13 and he masturbaits is this normal or ok
if wrong how do i get him to stop
2007-07-17 05:07:00 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
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2007-07-17 05:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that this question is fake or that you may the the 13 year old son that masturbates and you want to know if it is normal.
The answer is YES masturbation is completely normal, believe it or not there are alot of guys who never grow out of it. I know of married friends who will still do it from time to time just because they enjoy it. So if you are a dad then you have to remember you were a teen age boy once and I know you did it. If you are the 13 year old then go for it and try not to get caught its embarassing.
2007-07-17 05:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by gymrat0187 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him be. Give him is privacy. Open up a line of communication with him, let him know that 99% of all males at his age did the same thing. (and so do most girls--we just don't seem to admit it as readily).
Encourage him not to "abuse" himself by becoming addicted to it. This would be a great segway to discussing sexuality in general.
Having read the other answers, I can now assume that YOU are the 13 year old.
It's fine. It's not immoral. It's not wrong. HOWEVER, your parents may have a hang up about it. If they give you grief, start the conversation about sexuality in general.
Remember it is a private occassion and discretion is important. Remember to always lock the door, be quiet, clean up after you are finished.
IF you want to stop, since that was part of your question. It's NOT EASY at your age. Your hormones are awakening and are raging. Your body wants to be explored since all these new sensations are happening.
Teach your body restraint by not giving into it every time "it pops up" and try not to obsess over sexual things.
What you are learning about yourself now, will service you in the future. Let me warn you though, that during actual sex with girls, it's NOT all about you. Masterbation tends to make us focus only on our our pleasures, desires, and satisfaction. Girls can be harsh. Talk to an older male friend, or better yet an older girl (since your mom and or dad may not be prepared for you to initiate a conversation about what they do not want to think will happen). Get information about what girls want/need.
Try to avoid male driven porn, Hustler etc as these tend to give guys a warped idea about getting laid. It NEVER happens that way.
Learn about protection, both from STD and pregnancy.
Good luck
2007-07-17 05:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Carol D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am not sure why you are concerned about this. Your profile says you are a guy, so you should know there is no harm in what he is doing. Give him some privacy and let him do what he needs to do. You should be more concerned about drugs, unprotected sex, etc. anyway.
masturbation at 13 is ok, normal, and all of that (also at 14, 15 16, 17, ....... 37, 38, 39, etc)
2007-07-17 05:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Lon E 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I think I think the experts are wrong about encouraging it...If it is so natural then why does it become a problem later? Sex is addicting and if you are going to play with it how will you ever have self control later? My mother never stopped my us and it only caused sexual problems and frustration for me later ....
Talking about it and being honest is the best thing to do ..Let him know that it will increase desire and possibly set him up for an unwanted situation like teen fatherhood which could destroy his future ambitions..
I myself are concerned for our young because it seems that's all they think about and from a very young age..I know it has been like that for a long time but with the rise in STDs and AIDS ,HIV why aren't parents doing more to help prevent their children from making a big mistake such as sex out of marriage...
We have our schools teaching them how to use condoms and the way to put them on and have intercourse..Tax dollars at work..And then they wonder why teen pregnancy is so damn high...DUH! Here where i live the teen PG rate is highest amongst Latinos and our county happens to have the highest rate in the state .....
It all boils down to education your sons and daughters about arousing those desires and possibly paying the price when they are not ready for it ....If you leave it alone the desire will be easier to control later ..It is as simple as that! Play you pay or use self control and save yourself some grief.....
2007-07-17 05:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by blahblah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's perfectly normal. So long as he isn't doing it in the middle of the living room or in public then that's fine. All the garbage science claiming you'll go blind or get hairy palms from masturbating was puritanical religious dogma meant to scare superstitious people. It was not true in the 1800s it ain't true now either. This is 2007 let's put this one to bed.
2007-07-17 05:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your religion, I can or cannot be wrong.
Many teenage males masturbate. Some people even think it is odd if you do not masturbate as a teenager. Let him do it. It does not harm him. It only brings him happiness and it shows him that his body is healthy.
Do not believe the "It removes your want for sexuality with another person" garbage that is shoved down your throat. Masturbation is no where near as pleasurable as sex. It will only cause him to want sex more.
Summary: Masturbation is a fun way to find out about his sexuality. It does not hurt him. It allows him to respect sex more.
2007-07-17 05:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are the one that is 13 (you shouldn't put that in your profile, by the way) you are wanting to know if it is ok to masterbate. Answer: Yes, almost every guy you know or see does, to some extent. Just be careful and discrete, helps you to better understand your own body.
2007-07-17 07:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it's quite normal for him to masturbate
Second, I don't believe there's a way to stop him, since he's already gotten the pleasure out of it.
I would suggest trying to get him enrolled in some kind of activity or activities that he enjoys, that should keep his mind off of it so much and his hand lol.
2007-07-17 05:20:13 · answer #9 · answered by g_brown1975 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok, it's just your son experimenting his own body, boys hitting puberty will masturbate, so as long as it's not excessive or over the edge, he'll be fine, if your still worried, give him a father to son speech, he'll be just fine.
2007-07-17 05:09:58 · answer #10 · answered by harmonicaasd 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋