the best way to get to this women? She has a daughter (which resulted from him cheating on me before we got married) by my husband who I have two sons by also. We are beyond the situation however, we have had couples counseling and I have forgiven him and he has proven it to be a mistake and we are in a much better point now that we are married. However, this girl continues to use her daughter to try to get close to my husband. She will try to make his visits only be at her house if at all, or will not answer the calls when he tries to go pick her up, she prank calls our phone, gets drunk and wants to argue with me, and always tries to make it about her when my husband has told her he justs wants to take care of the his daughter. She doesnt like that answer and will continue to play games and manipulate the situation. What actions should we take to get the point across that its only about his daughter b/c telling her doesnt seem to work.
2007-07-17 04:27:04 · 14 answers · asked by Yellowtulips 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
obtain a restraining order. If it gets too crazy, involve authorities.
The best payback is not to pay her much mind, and strengthen your bond with your family.
2007-07-17 04:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation. You also have to view it from her situation as well. She feels slighted because more then likely when it did happen she either thought she loved this guy (ur husband) or really liked him and was not prepared to end up pregnant.Im not saying this is an excuse but she probably feels jealous of you because you have the man she wants. Maybe you should all sit down and try to have an adult conversation, but in this case I am afraid nothing will work. She wants you to suffer and she wants you husband to want her and it's probably just for the pure satisfaction of leaving you a singel mother as she is. So in this case the best thing for you to do is just go thru the courts and get a court order about his visitaion and such and if she fails to comply then will be in contempt of court....
2007-07-17 04:34:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this women is really inmature, Your husband needs to go to court and get joint custody so that seeing his daughter is not made a major issue. I would change my number and if the husband has a cell phone the daughter can use it, but I would not allow her mother to harras me on my home phone. I would not argue with her, that's just stupid. Take the high road and ignore her. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-07-17 04:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by frawlicious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. I hate to use that answer, but because there are custody issues and such, your best bet is to get the law on your side early. Go to several divorce lawyers and get some advice. See which ones are really interested in helping and not just getting money. Good luck.
2007-07-17 04:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make your hubby understand that you will only deal with her. not him. you pick her up, let her call you and be as professional as possible. this way she will see that you mean business and that the relationship is only about the baby and that's it. She is going to try to push your buttons so don't let her know anything bothers you that she is doing. You be the bigger person, and you tell her that your hubby is busy and you have to do it all when it come sto there daughter. It may be a lot for you but she will smarten up and do what she is supposed to do especially when she sees she can only deal with you. He needs to limit the access she has to him, by delaing with you.
2007-07-17 04:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by sofiedriskell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, take her to court for visitation rights...then you can get the child every other weekend, holiday...or whatever you fight for...and without her being around.
If you win and she breaks the court order then she will go to jail.
Also, while you are at it...talk to the lawyer about a restraining order on her...let your hubby pick up the child from a relative or something...make sure she can not harass you anymore and get visitation rights...that should send the message to her plain enough and you will still be able to see the child.
be cool...
2007-07-17 04:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this woman is obviously miserable because she got fcuked and now sh'e stuck wit a kid and no man.
i think the fact that you have her daughter's father and she never will gets to her enough already.
if it gets too bad i would suggest having your husband cut this daughter out of his life save for paying child support. all this drama can't be good for the daughter's psyche anyways.
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2007-07-17 04:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think this may require a lawyer and an actual visitation agreement. that way he can say where visitation will take place so she can't use their poor daughter to manipulate him and play games.
2007-07-17 04:32:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
COURT, that is the ony and best way to handle this with less drama. so let her know that if she keeps up with that childish way you will have to go to court even though you dont want to go that far but she is just making it to become that way
2007-07-17 04:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Document her unstable, erratic behavior, and go for custody of the daughter.
2007-07-17 04:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋