Have you ever had a disagreement with a disabled person not related to the disability?

Question

At a nearby farmer's market, a restaurant stand has a little person employed there. He is a mean spirited, evil man who fights with everyone (surprising how he keeps the job). If you call him on something, he starts yelling it's because he's a little person, that your prejudiced, etc. The last incident I had, I informed him that my problem with him was that he was an a**hole, and a**holes come in all shapes, sizes and colors, so to get over himself. Any other similar situations? What did you do?

Answer 1

I am partially disabled, invisible disability. While living in Regina Sk I enountered a VERY obnoxious individual in a wheelchair who hung around a certain coffeee shop and made an point of making very crude sexual comments to every woman who passed him. There was nothing wrong with him mentally - he obviously felt because he was "disabled" he could get away with it.

One day when I walked past him he said something, this was the second time he had done this.

I informed him that "if he EVER opened his filthy mouth around me or any other woman again I was going to phone the police and have him charged with sexual harassment ". I also told him "if he EVER came within a 100 yards of me again he would be wearing his filthy mouth on the back of his head, and that I didnt give a rats *** is he was disabled he was nothing but a freaking pervert and he could f*** off and leave people alone"

There were people looking at me like "sure pick on the poor disabled guy".

So I just "addressed" my "audience" and said "I dont care if he is disabled, disabled people can be jerks too and he has NO right harassing women the way he does, he is using his disability to get away with being a pervert and I am NOT going to accept that kind of behavior from him or anyone else.."

A number of people agreed with me and later that day I heard another woman telling him to "f*** off and get away from her or she would call the police".

Disabled people are NOT Saints, they are NOT all nice people, they do NOT have the right to be abusive to others, a jerk is a jerk whether he/she is disabled or not.

Talk to his manager, tell him of the situation and advise him that you wont be shopping there anymore if he continues to employ a person who is abusive to you and other customers.

Answer 2

This question and the various answers reinforce the fact that anyone with a disability are just like any other human as far as behaviour and attitudes. Some people can be a obnoxious and abusive because they are simply obnoxious and abusive kind of person.

It's about time people in the general community realise that bad behaviour should not be tolerated and NOT to be given "allowance" just because of a disability - except for a few condition that actually causes some maladaptive behaviour - for example, Tourettes syndrome, Autism, drug/alcohol, mental health issues. How often do we see a child who is behaving badly get away with it because "Oh, he is disabled" A child misbehaves because it is A CHILD. If that child has NO disability, would he have gotten away with it?

If people with disabilities wants a fair go in the world and be treated with dignity and respect, then they MUST also treat other people with dignity and respect. They can not use the disability as an excuse for their own bahaviour or the consequence of their behaviour.

Answer 3

Ha! Good for you! And, right you are--******* do come in all shapes, sizes and colors. (The guy you mentioned kind of reminds me of the little person in the movie "Me, Myself and Irene.")

Actually, in real life, I have had a problem with other disabled people that wasn't related to the disability. First of all, I'd like to go on the record and add that I am also disabled and that most of these conflicts had nothing to do with my disability, either.

I used to work in a sheltered workshop. Most of the other workers were were developmentally delayed and some of the nicest people I ever met, at that. But there was this one guy who thought I was very pretty and he let me know it. By pawing me every chance he got. I'd be gentle at first, saying, "No, John*, I only like you as a friend." That wasn't good enough for John*! He'd get too close to me, try to kiss me, always put his hand on my knee (under my skirt!) and reach around me to touch my chest area. Finally, it got too much and I informed the staff members about his conduct. The staff members just said, "Avie, he's retarded," (their words, not mine!) "he doesn't know any better."

The harassment eventually got so bad that I had to break down and tell my father, who barged in there, demanded to speak to the one in charge and told them that if John* ever got anywhere near me or even talked to me again, he'd call the police and press charges. They called John* into their office and he never spoke to me again. They didn't dismiss him from the program, either, which severely added to my discomfort. I think they should have dismissed him because a pervert is a pervert, regardless of his IQ.

*John was not his real name.

Answer 4

Once there was this guy in a wheelchair in the street yelling, 'Help, Help...' I figured he needed help getting his car wheelchair from the street up on the sidewalk - so I grabbed the handles on the back and started pushing him over the curb. Plus I'm a veteran and the back of his chair had 'Veteran's Admin.' painted on the back. As soon as I grabbed the handles, he started yelling at me, 'HEY, let go of my wheelchair and give me some money'. I felt bad for the guy, but I was also a little put off he used his situation to lure people to get money. Anyway, I reached into my pocket and he yells, 'HEY, I don't want any change - give me some of the green stuff in your wallet...' All the while his language was a swear word every other word. I felt like punching him right out of his chair.
I don't know if you know who Mike Ryoko is, he was a columnist for a Chicago newspaper. A few weeks later he wrote about this guy - apparently he screamed at some waitress long enough to get her to give him some bread rolls - and she got fired. Further investigations showed that he would beg (demand) food all day, and then he would put his chair in his trunk of his car and drive home. He wasn't cripple at all - and on top of that he wasn't a veteran either.

Answer 5

I'm disabled and it really annoys me when people use the 'it's become I'm disabled' line - no just because someone is disabled does not mean they have the right not to be disagreed with or be rude to other people - and those that think they do well sorry they're wrong. We're people first disabled second and if disabled people want to be treated like everyone else they can't keep pulling the wow is me act. If someone is a jerk they're a jerk disabled or not.

Answer 6

Oh yeah , there are some with disabilities, who pull the 'you're prejudiced' card if you don't agree with them, but then you find that in the able -bodied population as well.

Some disabled persons enjoy victimhood, not most but some.

People are people generally and jerks come in every size, ethnic group, religion or any other catagorey you want to summon up.

Contrary to the belief not all disabled people are " saints " or "inspirational". We're human and have all the frailities.

Good for you calling him on his rudeness.

Answer 7

In my life I have known many people.
Some had noticeable disabilities, some had somewhat failing parts of body, some had what are not called disabilities, but are like that with respect to their inability to get along with people, discuss things rationally. As we get older, we need optical assistance, hearing aids, walking stick. This is part of life.

I have had many friends with some disability. That disability was like one dimension to a multi-dimensional person relationship. We have agreements, disagreements, discussion, whatever, a lot unrelated to the disability, although our differences do play a role, are ever present.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

My daughter has Cerebral Palsy (Spastic Diplegia).

She's 12.

I have disagreements with her ALL the time. And so do her classmates, and sometimes her teachers. And it's generally all because she's 12, and not because of her disability.

There are a couple bullies at the school who tease her about her "crip walk," but they are definitely in the minority.

She's learning very well that, handicapped or not, she still has to be a decent person!

Answer 10

I knew this one individual about 17 years ago that had Spina Bifida. We went to a vocational school together. He was in his late 20's, had to walk around with supports, and had no control of his bowels. He was a hateful son of b*tch. I remember one time where he did mess his pants inside the rec. center that was located at the school. All because the receptionist who was working the desk refuse to send for help, this @sshole cursed me out. So I left this @sshole standing in his sh*t. Little to say, everyone knew where he had been and in the direction he was heading off to; which was the dorm room to change his clothes.