how do you gain confidence when you're simply not confident?

Answer 1

Success breeds confidence. Set small goals and reward your self when you succeed. Analyze the failures and make improvements. This can be at anything, but should be in the area where you feel not confident. One problem: most people set too big of goals and then fail. Make them small enough at first so you know you can do it. Later make them stretch goals, but only small stretches. Don't set yourself up for failure... most do that.

Also, the power of positive thinking is huge.

Answer 2

Write out a list of positives about yourself that you feel you are excellent in. For instance, do you like to draw? Can you make a cake? Are you good at keeping a conversation with others? Everything that you do to make yourself feel good and others is something you can benifit from because your are really good at it.
On days that you feel less confident, go back to your list. Put it on the fridge, your room door, in your glove compartment of your car (if you drive).
Many people get up on some days and dont feel confident, thats normal because we are humans. Look at your list and what ever you may have not put down there, add it! You'll have like three pages of positives! You can also do words like "lovable" and "passionate" and "kid-magnent" or other words. Look in the dictionary or thesaurus, you can use full sentances also. Look on the internet for motivational quotes. Try it! You'll feel alot better!

Answer 3

Confidence is a gift, you own it on the inner side of you where nobody can touch it. You get it when you have a strong identity in who you are; integrity and character are your main treasures.. so hold them tightly and keep them intact. Faith is a gift from God, I asked Him for more and it seems to come to me in increments.. levels.. I want to see myself as He does now that is not a big ego its a big confidence booster to look into the mirror and believe God loves that face more than you do. Huge! Read and grow your faith, its a free gift so ask for more and you will move mountains.

Answer 4

Confidence is something how much trust and believe you have on yourself. If you don't believe you can do something, then the confidence just desert you. So believe in your self trust your instinct, confidence will come automatically to you.

Answer 5

I don't know if this works for everyone but when I make myself look good... I feel good, therefore I exude confidence. A new haircut or style, a good work-out at the gym, some new make up...sometimes those things make you feel like you look better and it helps....

Answer 6

listen all you have to do is now that you can approach the person you like and ask them out or whatever it is making friends with them its not that difficult so many people think you have to look a certain way to pick someone up and that's totally not true i talk to hot chicks and I'm just an average guy and they always seem to like me and other guys try showing off and doing other stuff to impress them and they never succeed and i do every time

Answer 7

you tell yourself everyday, that your a confident person and can accomplish anything you set out to do. talk to your self with positive things. it works.

Answer 8

there has to be the drive to find answers..by asking you have the ability to become confident.

Answer 9

Fake it...you'll eventually convince yourself...

Answer 10

DO THINGS TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF......