How to deal wanting a boy and expecting a girl (for the 3rd time)?

Question

we went to the doctor a few weeks ago & everything looked great with the baby& me but we didn't get to find out the gender of the baby. i am so scared this baby will be another girl. we already have 2 & hubby wants to keep trying untill we get a boy. i want to have my tubes tied after this baby how can i help him & my self deal with the baby possibley being another girl. i know you guys are probabaly think "she is so selfish" & i am now i just want a boy but a girl will be fine as long as either sex is a healthy baby i'll be happy but happier if the baby is a boy. i am very greatfully for my girls & i also know what is is like to lose a child i lost 2. don't get me wrong i would love for this baby to be a boy but if it's not that's ok to. i am very great to be able to have kids unlike so many women who try for years with no luck and have to deal with the pain of not having kids. I AM VERY GREATFULLY FOR MY CHILDREN. i go back to the doctor on the 27th. maybe we'll see a boy this time!

thanks and i reported her (sarahM) as well! the answer she give was unaproprate, grewsome and just cruel!

oh and we DON'T KNOW for SURE this baby is a girl just a feeling i have and the doctor's guess!

Answer 1

aww i don't think you're selfish at all but i also don't think u'll really be disappointed if it is a girl once shes here.

Theres a 50/50 chance each time and maybe if this is a girl and you want your tubes tied, you could adopt a little boy instead of keep having more children. it'll hurt less lol and not take such a toll on your body. Just an option, or tell your husband you'll try to get this girl to be a tomboy or something.

20 weeks pregnant with a boy, but thought i wanted a girl, and now could careless. so happy.

Answer 2

I was also told to expect a girl for the third time (due in Nov) I don't think you are being selfish at all!! I want a boy soooo bad. But it has nothing to do with me not wanting this baby just because its a girl. My baby is healthy and I am happy for that. I just want a little boy. I know you are probably feeling guilty for wanting a boy when you are having a girl too!! Just remember (and remind hubby) that this is the way it is and nothing you do will change that. I hope you see a healthy baby on the 27th and dont get discouraged!!

Answer 3

LOL don't you hate that. I lost my baby girl at 37 weeks along last year (cord knot). So yeah your right be grateful we don't all get so lucky. But I do understand I got an ultrasound @ 16 weeks they said hey this is a BOY, crap I wanted a girl I have all this pink stuff. Went back last week @ 20 weeks and it's a BOY so I'm having a boy and I have a feeling I'm going to have all boys I worry that my only girl is gone but after what have been through it really is just a minor detail they will all call you mom so they don't care about your sex why should you care about there's. I hope you get your boy but if not congrats on the girl, hey maybe you have my girl lol.

Answer 4

When I learn your first sentence, I suggestion you had been going to invite me how you are going to uncover the time to have intercourse along with your husband now that you've got 3 children. Ha ha ha ha! Also, "My husband is an excessively sexually energetic guy" makes it sound like he's, however you don't seem to be, that means he cheats on you plenty. Anyway, it is the equal as having one little one. You believe she or he goes to force you loopy, however you turn out to be simply best. If you will have 2 blissful sons and you're nonetheless sane, no longer simplest are you a well mother or father, however you will have survived the excellent experiment of braveness. Be proud. So, you wish to have guidelines? Well, for something, if you're devout, pray. Pray plenty. If you have already got 2 boys, pray for a lady. I'm a person or even I recognize that 3 or extra men within the equal room without a women reward can simplest imply craziness will ultimately erupt. The equal applies for teenage women. If you and your husband experience your intercourse lifestyles such a lot, be definite to take competencies of that now that you're pregnant. Some couples uncover that unusual, however, that method, you'll have the entire unprotected intercourse you desire with out any longer little disast-- errrr, bundles of pleasure.

Answer 5

God will give you what he thinks you can handle....Yes, you may be disappointed if its another girl, but that is what God wanted you to have! A happy healthy baby is all you can ask for when trying to concieve a baby so you should thank your lucky stars the baby is healthy!! It will be ok and not the end of the world! I really want a little girl for my next child so I am holding off on trying untill I know I wont be disappointed in another boy! LOL...I would be happy, just a bit upset, so thats why I am waiting! Anyway....dont stress out about the sex..just be thankful that God is allowing you to have another wonderful child!!

Answer 6

My daughter was PRAYING for a girl when she got pregnant, and this is her first baby. She just thought it'd be more fun to shop for a baby girl than for a boy. Sure enough, at her 20wk sonogram, they told her she's having a boy. She thought she would be so disappointed, but she wasn't. Now she is attached to the idea of having a baby boy, and she's discovered it IS just as much fun shopping for a boy baby!

I don't think you are selfish. I once had a neighbor in the opposite predicament: she had three boys and was just dying for a girl. They also wanted to keep trying until they got a girl, but lo and behold, baby #4 was another boy. They finally just threw their hands up in the air, said the hell with it, and she had her tubes tied. For all they knew, they could've kept trying forever and STILL ended up with like ten boys! They decided that perhaps a girl just wasn't in the cards for them, and left it at that.

And my own mother had three girls--my two sisters and me. She really wanted a boy for her third baby, but she had another girl. I blessed her several years later by giving her a grandson and she was thrilled to finally have a boy to spoil!

I know this won't help much, but if you are meant to have a boy, you will. I hope you do! And even if you don't, I know you'll cherish your baby girl just as much and won't be able to imagine life without her.

I'm curious as to what you find out...I hope you'll email me or at least post on here to let us know if you're getting a boy this time!

Good luck to you! :-)

Answer 7

Well hun, you can stand up to your husband and say, no more trying, I'm tired of trying. You can put in for adoption or fostering to adopt a little boy. That's obviously the only real given that it'll be a boy. You appreciate your children which is great! I know it can be somewhat of a "let down" to not get what you hope for and at the same time be thrilled that your munchkin is healthy. I'll cross my fingers for a boy.

Answer 8

ewwwwwwww sarahm is just grosss .well i dont think your selfish at all if you do find out your having a girl as soon has shes here and she gets her own little personality you and you husband will be happy that she turned out to be a girl and dont start worrying yet you never know it could be a little boy in there do you feel different carrying this child from your other 2 girls when i carried my 2 girls i was sick but with my boy i wasnt sick oh and sarahm is reported gd luck

Answer 9

I wanted a girl...my first one came out a boy and for my 2nd pregnancy...the u/s said it was 90% a boy. I think the more you want it...the less chance you'll get at having what u want. Whats important is the baby come out strong and healthy. That's all that really matters. Just think of it that way..maybe it'll be a boy.

Answer 10

hope you get a boy,i have 3 girls and want a boy too,i mc 6 weeks ago so i plan to ttc asap to try for my biy,i know how you feel about not wanting another girl,but if it is a girl you and your husband will love her just the same,,like you say as long as the baby is healthy,so hope you get a boy