Should I tell my husband?

Question

A neighbour came over for a few beers with my husband and I, he and his wife were having a fight. He stayed the night, and when I went downstairs, he grabbed me and kissed me. I didn't push him away. Should I tell my husband? It was just a kiss?!

BTW....the wife and he were fighting...she came onto our yard and started challenging me..I put her back in her place..funny enuf, it was all b/c she thought there was something going on. He has not been back at the house since this all happened.

BTW-I hate the neighbour, she treats her man like dirt and since I've moved in she's jealous and insecure and has glared over here for the past 3 yrs and forbids her man to do anything..sports or socializing. I felt sorry for the man...He's a man and he's treated worse than a unloved pet

Answer 1

If it is a neighbor I would say no. That could cause some tension as neighbors. I would tell the guy that kissed you that if he ever makes a move on you again you will tell your husband AND his wife.
Don't be a cheater!

Answer 2

Hi....Shame on you...lol..First of all you shouldn't have let your neighbor spend the night, that was your first mistake. This would have prevented "The Kiss"!...lol..Never let a neighbor or good friend spend the night after they have had a fight with there significant other if you want to keep them as friends and good neighbors. Rule #1. Now as to telling your husband...you have two choices. Either keep silent and hope and pray your husband doesn't find out through the neighbor or his friends he had told of the Kiss, and then the neighbors wife throws a hizzy fit. Or you tell your husband the truth on what happened to where a lot of questions are going to be asked by your husband and then the assumption of "distrust" steps in and your marriage is on the rocks not too mention the neighbors face when your husband finds out. Losing the friendship of the neighbors but then again if they were such good friends and neighbors why would he subject himself in kissing you knowing the outcome if one found out. Kisses can lead up to other things as you well know so use common sense. The main question your husband will ask is "Why didn't you push him away"? or "Why didn't you tell me right then?" Your husband is not going to enjoy what you tell him. Usually I would tell someone that "Not all things need to be said" but in this situation it's a toss up since the neighbor may or may not keep his flap shut. So this is a decision that you have to make yourself so good luck my friend!

Answer 3

The key sentence in your question is "I didn't push him away." If your neighbor had made an unwanted pass at you, you wouldn't hesitate to tell your husband and you'd enjoy watching him get mad about it. You're asking this because you didn't mind the guy kissing you and even kind of liked it. Thus, you cheated on your husband. "It was just a kiss" suggests that not only are you willing to cheat, but you'd like to minimize it too. You've got a big problem...no, your husband does...YOU!

If I were you I'd ask yourself some hard questions about whether you want to be married to your husband or not. If you don't, then set him free so he can find someone who can be faithful to him. If you do love him, then for God's sake don't cheat on him! Maybe men have their hormones to blame, but there's no excuse for a woman to behave like that (not to mention the fact that the neighbor is on your scent now and will probably be back for more).

Answer 4

OMG what the hell? You didn't push him away? Um, Keep it to yourself? I mean if you say anything to your husband - or if he tells his wife- I smell a BATTLE ROYALE! Why do people act like this? I can never understand- you had to have gotten close enough for him to grab your ***- and by not freaking out you opened the door to more. Should have swatted him and said "hey my husband let you into the house- doesn't mean you can play with his toys!" This isn't gonna end pretty. I sure hope they weren't friends cuz if he was my friend- I'd ask him over for some beers and beat his ***.. Then drag his broken *** back to his wife and let her finish him off.

Answer 5

Quite the pickle. I believe that not telling him would start you down the path of keeping other secrets from him. But let the following question help you find your answer.

Question for you. If your husband was kissed by another beautiful woman and he didn't pull away, would you want to know?

Answer 6

I wouldn't tell the husband...IF you didn't want or ask for this kiss.

I am afraid that if you tell him, he will fly off the handle and not only get upset with the neighbor, but also put a significant strain on your marriage. It didn't seem like anything "You" did, so you shouldn't be punished for something someone else did when they were drunk.

Answer 7

The best way to answer that is to ask yourself what you would want him to do in the same situation. If it had been the wife crashing at your place and she has kissed your husband, would you wan't to know? And you also need to ask your self why you didn't push him away. Is there trouble in your marriage, or were you just caught off guard?

Answer 8

obviously you want us to tell you not to tell your husband, it was only a kiss. What is it gonna be next time? Oh wait I bet there wont be a next time. Okay so what if your husband did the same thing with the wife? Would you want to know? Good luck

Answer 9

So you didn't push him away. I will assume that you enjoyed it? I would say that he might expect the same or more another time. It's up to you to stop it - not your husband, and if you don't stop it, there's obviously more there than you are saying.

Not sure I'd tell your husband, but you may wish to do some serious soul searching as to why you didn't push him away or ask him to stop.

Answer 10

I find it curious that you did not push him away...I think you are leaning towards telling your husband...I think that you might enjoy Drama...

The answer to this is very tough...If you do not tell him and he finds out (Your neighbor may tell his wife and then your husband will find out)...you are F'd...and if you tell him you are F'd...

It was just a kiss...but if your husband finds out from someone else, it also becomes a lie...I think you need to tell him...But in a way like...That drunk ******* tried to kiss me last night...LOL...make sure you LOL when you tell him so that he might laugh it off as well...