its painful even to recant the tale even though its been three weeks since the incident. cut a long story short he grabbed my head and smashed it against a wall so many times my skull broke. the doctors managed to save me and im looking to press charges. what do you think of these events and would you have done the same thing in her position? the pain was so bad i passed out and threw up.
2007-07-17 03:12:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sue him, run, and, please seek counseling before choosing another boyfriend. Any man that hits a woman is simply NOT a man.
2007-07-17 03:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda h 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
GET AWAY FROM HIM NOW. Physical violence is absolutely never acceptable. If that was the first time he ever got physical with you and he started at the top, he could actually succeed in killing you the next time.
Press charges. He will not stop. It doesn't matter how much you love him or need him or if you have kids together. There is no acceptable reason at this point. He can and possibly will kill you. I don't even know you but I know that you are a good and worthwhile person. You do not deserve to be treated this way no matter what you did. No one does.
Get help from a local shelter. When you press charges and leave him, he will come after you. You need a safety plan and a place to hide, especially if he makes bail. I have lots of experience working at a shelter for women and kids in your position. Please, please, please get away from him. This will not turn out good if you don't. It only gets worse. I promise.
AND make sure he cannot access your online activity. If he reads this post, I would bet the farm he'll come after you again.
2007-07-18 03:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by MollyUSA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How horrible. It is always bad when you cheat on someone, it is not fair to them and if things went well w/ the boyfriend you would have a hard time when your relationship started out based on lies and secrets. BUT no matter what you did, physical violence, especially to this extreme, is unjustified. Problem is, if he is prone to be this violent, it was a bomb waiting to drop. Had you not cheated on him, something else would have set him off to the point he would have reacted this way. You should press charges and he will need anger management classes, but he will probably get angry about the problems you are causing him and even w/ a restraining order, he sound like the kind of person to seek revenge, so I would be VERY careful.
2007-07-17 10:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mrolendo 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First question, why the hell did you date a physco like him? If you see the - even the slightest sign of violence / violent behavior this guy has - you should break up IMMEDIATELY. DO NOT wait for things like this to happen, or when he gets so madly in love or possessive over you that if you break up he'll want to kill... you. And this goes for ALL GIRLS.
Your parents probably arent modern enough to tell you this, so I just did and keep it with you well. No ******* joke. There are alot of physcos out there. And you dont want to experience what this poor girl just did.
If I were you, I would have broken up with the physco long ago.
And right now, you should look forward to putting that sick ******* in jail as long as possible.
And I'll make sure he never ever gets another girl friend ever again. Even though you cheated on him, that is no way a sane human being should act.
I would ruin his name with his pic, to all the friends I know and tell them to tell all the people they know, and post it all over the internet.
If justice isnt served, in your opinion, ie. short sentence, bailed out early, or no charges at all, then dedicate your life and anger to making one hell of a BIG deal out of it.
Rally up support from womens group (tons around), tape your own recovery and have a try at the media or even youtube, warn other girls of physco boy friends and how they should break up before they break you.
Make a big deal, so people know. And make a big deal because you dont want other girls having to go thru what you just did.
Life you only have one, guys there are a billion. Why risk/waste/ruin your ONE life on a physco guy when there are a billion other guys out there?
Please girls - you know who you are, break up today before its too late. Physcos like this are hard to predict, make sure you will be safe. But know that the more you delay it, the more you are just waiting for this ticking time bomb to blow up on you.
2007-07-17 10:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No. I don't think it's right to ever be violent to that extent, period. You should press charges, you could have lost your life. However..it also goes to show that you can't be cheating with others b/c you don't know the capability or emotions the person you are cheating on will express or how they will express them. Even if this is your first time, make it your last. Don't commit until you are sure that person is the one. I think your ex needs some help!!
2007-07-17 10:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Unique Soul 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The "first" time you got "caught" cheating?
An abusive boyfriend?
Your "looking" to press charges?
You have some deep issues, fix yourself and make some better choices in your life.
"KARMA" WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND.
2007-07-17 10:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As the 2 of you aren't married he has no say in it. If you are living together, then you have no right to see other men. As he hurt you, GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE, NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Think again about living with a man out of wedlock. If you aren't ready to commit to a marriage, don't live with a man.
What your boyfriend did to you is against the laws of man.
What you did was against God's law, that's a higher law. You will suffer more from God's judgment than what your boyfriend did.
2007-07-17 10:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by Suzy 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
How many times are you going to ask this question? You were wronged but you also wronged him but that doesn't give him the right to abuse you. Maybe you should spend a little time thinking about who you chose as a bf.
2007-07-17 10:16:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
To ANGEL EYES, you must be a really nice girl hey?
So Emma cheated..... if she's with a man capable of smashing her scull in I don't bloody blame her!
I had one of them (bf's I mean) and I was too scared to leave or go near another man for that matter.
You are an ignorant spoilt girl who has no business giving advice to Emma or anyone in this situation.
Who do u think u are ANGEL EYES, certainly no ANGEL I'd bet....
2007-07-17 10:30:32 · answer #9 · answered by wild_hell_kat 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Abuse is abuse no matter what the situation. I would press charges as well, if I were in your shoes. You are completely justified.
2007-07-17 10:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋