I've just asked my Mum why didn't have a dad like the rest of friends? She said basically it was all my fault! I asked what it was ,that so bad that my dad would leave and never come back? She said to me " You do know that you are half black don't you?" I said "yes of course I do". She then said "well you weren't supposed to be".
2007-07-17 02:46:39 · 79 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hilarious! LMAO
you werent serious, were you?!
2007-07-17 05:23:05 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They way she came out could have been done better, but I think she is upset with herself and let it come out on you. I am not sure if it is because your dad is black and now she has a racist comment because of that or if she cheated on your dad and you are a product of that. Either way, yes it was mean, and you should let her know that. Be clam, and without yelling tell her. Let her know that you don't appreciate that and it truly hurt you. Ask her if she would have liked that coming from her mom. I bet she will apologies. Then you can remind her that you never asked to be brought into the world. That you didn't have the choice and is isn't your fault for the actions of to adults. Good Luck.
2007-07-17 02:53:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as easy as everyone thinks!
you asked your mum about your dad, so if she had an affair why didn't she tell you about your father if she had an affair where is he.
Your father might be your dad two white people can have a coloured child if one of their ancestors wasn't white it can come out several generations down the line.
It does seem an incredibly cruel thing to blame a child for the disappearance of a parent. I find hard to believe that she is still so bitter after so many years so I would think that really she doesn't want you to meet your father and is fabricating this reason to put you off finding him.
Your father left for a reason, you asked about your dad and she told you about her husband, so I would guess that he is your father and she has told you a version that will put you off. Find your father and find the truth! Good luck
2007-07-17 05:24:26 · answer #3 · answered by JOHN M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is horrible. How the heck is that your fault, you did not choose who fathered you? Even if the person supposed to be your dad wasn't really, then where is the many she did father you with? No matter happens a parent should never tell a kid something like this is their fault, that is the kind of comment that sticks with you a LONG time. Just remember your mom made her choices and you had to live with them, and no matter what none of this is your fault and she is terrible to tell you that.
2007-07-17 02:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Mrolendo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I am mising something here. You say your mum and dad were a twosome, both white and you are half black. Yet mum says its "basically your fault because you werent meant to be "
So how did you get to impegnate your mum and then be born half black.
I say mums at fault, she shouldnt have had an affair with another person.. and get pregnant by him, when she was already in a relationship. should she.
.she should have put tighter elastic in her drawers so they couldnt come down. AND you are person in your own right.
2007-07-17 04:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT YOUR FAULT.....your mother selected your father who happens to be black, you had nothing to do with her picking him. If you weren't suppose to be, you wouldn't have been born. You are a beautiful person inside and out, and never think anything different. I am sorry your mother told you that, and I can't change it, yes it was cruel for her to say that to you, but forgive her for you can only grow from this to be the best you can be. You are not a mistake, you were suppose to be.
2007-07-17 03:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that...your mom need help...she shouldn't blame you for it...she is still angry at your father and she blames you for it...It is not your fault...you are a product of what they did...she should respect you...your father should respect you...
I am assuming here that you are child of two white parents...and some where years ago there was a white family member that had a child with a black person and that is how you happen to have both colours to your skin tone....there is nothing wrong with that. If your father could not handle that then he is the one that has the problem not you. Your mother has no right to blame you. I am sorry you had to go through that.
2007-07-17 02:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by kadnil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, and you're not having a laugh with everyone here, then your mum is being very bitter and blaming you for having an affair with someone else. She made a huge mistake by cheating on your dad, and now although she must love you very much, she is trying to shift all the blame onto you, for something she did wrong.
2007-07-17 02:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u where ment to be ! Your mom has issues within herself.God dosent make mistakes. They had issues before you came along with them being a couple and each other.Take it from a divorced person who was married with two children and their father is MIA also. It is a persons choice to be in your life for if whatever reason a person chooses not to be in their childs life it is that persons Loss and they are the ones with the inadequacy.
The best things seemingly wernt soposed to be and they bring us the greatest joy in the end.
2007-07-17 03:01:04 · answer #9 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no offence but your mother is a b-i-tch, Im in the same stuation as you becuase my mother said that my that leave because when my mother knew she was having me my father told her to have an avortion because my father didnt want another child, my mother was gonna do it but my older brother who at that time was 18 persuade my mother not to, so now my mum says its my fault because i didnt suppose to born.......so dont worry through the years i learn 2 get over it, by the way im only 16....
2007-07-17 02:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. i don't think it is meant to be cruel.. it is hard to make out exactly what you are trying to say with your question, however there are a number of reasons your mum may say this ...
1/ if your natural father has white skin, as has your mother then it is entirely possible that at a point in your family;s there is a black desendant - this skin colour gene has lain dormant and sprung out in you - and your father may not realise this and thinks your mum played away -
2/ or she did!
i really would not put too much into this - you are who you are.. for your own sake and neither your mothers nor your fathers. its your life.. make of it what you will :-)
good luck
xx
2007-07-17 02:56:01 · answer #11 · answered by emma m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋