...is in their room in just her bra and jeans and lets his older brother come in and talk to her and hug her goodbye? Is it wrong for him to get upset? Is it okay for her to get mad at him for getting upset and accuse him of just being jealous?
2007-07-17 02:07:13 · 38 answers · asked by Scatter 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Note: it's HIS brother, not hers
2007-07-17 02:10:51 · update #1
Yes the husband has every right to be upset if it is his older brother, that is gross and they should not have a relationship that is that close that would allow him to see her in her bra. It would definantly make me wonder about the relationship they have. I personally would never let my husbands older brother ever see me in my bra..that would be disgusting. only her husband should be able to see that intimate detail. Does she not believe in dignity and privacy?
2007-07-17 04:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be upset. She was dressed and acted inappropriately. Just because he's family, your family, doesn't mean she can hug him and talk to him in her bra. You're not just being jealous, you expect your wife to act and dress in a way that shows respect to you and your marriage. You feel she disrespected you. She knows she did, which is why she's just throwing it all off on you, not accepting responsibility for her actions. Your brother should not have entered the room or hugged her dressed that way though, so he has some responsibility in this as well.
2007-07-17 02:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by buggin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to tell you the truth im a female and if i were your wife i wouldnt be mad at you for getting mad. I would neverbe in my bra and jeans infront of my brother in law no matter how close we were. I would just sit down and communicate how you feel with your wife and brother and tell them your not jealous just that that was an uncofortable situation and it doesnt seem right. Its not wrong for you as a husband to get upset and she shouldnt get mad at ya. Like i said just talk hun... good luck!
2007-07-17 02:14:51 · answer #3 · answered by lil_mz.cherry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no thats not ok. You should talk to her about how u feel. another man shouldn't see your wife in that way. likewise another woman shouldn't get to see (your) husband that way. some ppl are just really comfortable around other ppl in that way. Would she let anyone see her in her bra or just your brother. Is your brother married/has gf if he did wouldnt she be jealous. You should tell her if the situation was reversed and you saw her sister in her bra or she saw you in some comparable way how would that make her feel. I say you need to just talk it out with her and hopefully come to some kind of conclusion. no i dont think you were being overly jealous just protective of your women which is honorable.
I just assumed it was you-husband...sorry if i assumed wrong either way good luck
2007-07-17 02:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by nikkylyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not sure to whom the brother belongs...
Her Brother-No worries , my husband has 2 older sisters and they have changed in front of hi b4 not naked but pulled off one shirt and put on another that sort of thing(he still turns around but is in the same room)
His Brother- NOT OKAY should not be half dressed in front of a man that you are not related to or married to. Not Lady like behavior. The man's brother should have also been more respectful than to hug his husband's wife in that state of undress.
2007-07-17 02:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by sugarbritches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband has ever right to get angry and upset. She shouldn't let anyone see her not fully dressed. And he should be having a chat with his brother about his behavior, there is not way he should even think about going in on his brothers wife like that. I would seriously think something else is going on, keep and eye open and good luck.
2007-07-17 02:11:46 · answer #6 · answered by Erin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a woman should let any man other than her husband see her in her bra. It's just not a smart move. Ask her if she would be upset if a woman came in to tell you goodbye and you only had on your underwear.
2007-07-17 02:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by angela 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably reared more modestly. I was, too. My ex sister in law used to do that. My husband told me I had "hang ups." I don't see anything wrong with that if the wife and her brother grew up with healthy lessons about their bodies, and that it is no big deal to hug someone in their underwear. So, what is the difference between wearing a bra and hugging the wife if she had a bikini top on?? In the words of my EX, your husband may have hang ups..in MY words...he wasn't reared like that and doesn't feel comfortable with it. Try to understand his feelings a bit...
2007-07-17 02:11:56 · answer #8 · answered by CAT 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HIS older brother? I think "husband" has every reason to be upset. And "wife" needs to get some boundaries. And "older brother" should have waited until she was dressed and come back.
2007-07-17 02:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty suggestive to just be hanging around with a bra on, even though it has the same coverage as a bikini top. It's still undergarments and yes, you should be pissed and it's not OK for her to get mad.
2007-07-17 02:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋