I have never in my life ever thought I could be so weak. How can I love the very same person that inflicts pain in my heart? Dr. Jeckle & Mr. Hyde. At night he beats and degrades me, reminding me of how much he desires to end my life, how I am the one who has him crazy...how I'm the one to blame for his erratic behavior. I cry myself to sleep, only to be awakened to the nightmare once again...now I'm believing that I am worthless. How can I get the courage to believe in myself again?
2007-07-17 02:06:54 · 15 answers · asked by cantseepastthis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go to a shelter, immediately. Get out of this. I know it seems hard - just do it.
Abusers don't stop based on your behavior, ever. If they stop, it's because of hard hard work they do on their own with counselors. Abusers escalate, despite swings of reconciliations and apologies. It isn't your fault, ever. Even taking it for so long isn't your fault; you need to act for today and tomorrow - NOW.
2007-07-17 02:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by SC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, you are a beautiful & desirable woman. Worthless excrement like this try to beat you down because they think that is the only way they can keep you.
Today you need to buy some sleeping pills and put them in his food or drink so he can't see or taste them. Don't kill him, but make him sleep. Gather your things and run to either the hospital or the nearest shelter. If you can't do this, then just take off the first moment you are alone, possessions be damned.
I wish I could be there to give this worthless sack of pus the beating he deserves, but unfortunately I'm not. You have to do this for yourself.
2007-07-17 09:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this man that you say you love is a class A jerk. You really need to find the strength and leave him. Your life is in danger. Is he worth your death or possible disabilities to you? If you have children do it for them if you won't do it for yourself. If you don't have children that makes it all the easier to get out. He has a major problem and needs help. I wouldn't waste one more night with him. See what he has done to you? You are asking for the courage to believe in yourself, the only reason you don't is because of what he has done to you and the only reason you will is to get rid of him. Trust me your life will be so wonderful without him. But I would be careful leaving, I would probably sneak out when he is gone and I wouldn't let him find you. Best of luck
2007-07-17 09:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? Leave. Right here and now, Decide! Leave and live or stay and die! It doesn't matter who you are, you are a great person, bueatiful and sweet. You deserve better.
Your afraid of failing in marrige and in life. Afraid of being alone. I'd be afraid more of dying or being married to a moron.
No one can convince you to do what you need to, but no one deserves that.
Make a plan of escape. Think of it as an adventure and take off and see the world! I just wish I could help you, but it is all up to you. email me if you need more support.
2007-07-17 09:13:15 · answer #4 · answered by Computer Dr. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is going to kill you one day, if you don't get out. You need to go right to the police and let them handle it from there.
Tell yourself over and over that you deserve better, that you are a human being, that you are worthy of true affection and love. Tell yourself all the time that you are important and that you have real worth and value in society.
You write eloquently. Perhaps you could pen a book about surviving abuse someday. See? You may already have a contribution to the world!
Stay alive! Get out!!!
PLEASE!!!
2007-07-17 09:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by diva_500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, the first thing to do is get the **** out of there. If he is placing threats on your life then you call the cops and take out a restraining order. Why would you even consider staying with someone like that? He obviously doesn't love you, and he's getting you to not love yourself too. Don't be so niaeve, just get away as fast as you can before he catches you asking questions like this.
2007-07-17 09:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by Dan Theman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE NOW! You need to get out of that situation. I don't care how good he is to you sometimes, you are in a dangerous situation. Find a shelter for abused women and go there now. Do not take another day of him beating you and threatening you. You are too good for that.
2007-07-17 09:13:25 · answer #7 · answered by angela 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courage to believe in yourself will come once you get yourself free from him. Go to a domestic abuse shelter NOW. Don't wait as he demoralizes you more. It's not your fault he is manipulating you and brain washing you. Please leave now. He doesn't love you, he loves to control you. True love would never do that to someone. It is suicide to stay.
2007-07-17 09:12:13 · answer #8 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has gone round the bend. Go to a good attorney and see about having him put into a psychiatric facility for help; then decide if you want to keep him or send him to swim? (sleep) with the fishes.
2007-07-17 09:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT worthless -- you just need help in getting back on track. No one, let me repeat that, NO ONE, deserves to be treated with physical and emotional abuse. He is sick, sick, sick.
You need help -- call 1-800-799-SAFE -- they have counselors who can give you support, encouragement, understanding and help.
Don't wait another minute. You are a valuable person and deserve happiness and healing!
2007-07-17 09:11:36 · answer #10 · answered by leysarob 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋