i am ok with that but the problem is our house is set up in 2 area 1 in lv rooom kit and comp and my husband works from home i am looking 4 a job and the other part is all bedrooms he will not allow me to go to a dff part of the house without him around now because he does not trust people because his ex cheated on him i have never or never gave hima reason to think that i did i dont know what to do i want to have freedom to go anywhere in the house i can too i taked to him abt it last night he says his friend only been living here a couplle of days give it some time but i dont understand from his side i also had a ex that cheated on me dont hold that over his head
2007-07-17 01:55:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do not know how to speel and write just was doing it really fast am a medical coder so i have too
2007-07-17 02:09:05 · update #1
he did ask me if it was ok for the friend to move in i am not crazy abt it but i did say okay to help his friend and till i start working again
2007-07-17 02:16:42 · update #2
This is not a good situation. He already has trust issues and he's bringing another man into the house?
This is not a winning situation for you.
2007-07-17 01:58:47 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your marriage is way too new for another person to be living with you. Even couples that have been married for years could have trouble with this situation. Your hubby has trust issues and I can see this arrangement only becoming a major problem in the future. I would suggest that the friend find his own place or another place. Then I would tell hubby if he doesn't stop being so untrusting and controlling that the marriage will fail. If he had these issues then he shouldn't have married you and if he was this way before the wedding then you should have ran like hell! I think this marriage is doomed unless some major issues are addressed. Good luck
2007-07-17 02:06:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's ridiculous that after 6 months of marriage your husband doesn't trust you. Obviously no one here is going to be able to convince him to do so. I'm not really sure what you are asking. Do you allow him to control you and distrust you based on what a different woman did to him? And he is the one who brought this man into the house. Does he not trust his friend either? His trust issues are HIS problem in my opinion, this not 'allowing' is absurd. I've been married for 17 years and there is no way on earth I would ever let my husband forbid or not allow something.
Secondly, not to be rude but instead of a job you should be going back to school because you English, grammar and spelling are atrocious. You can provide better for your family if you get a better education.
2007-07-17 02:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats a bad situation to be in. marriage itself is a gamble and when you don't know the person well enough or just know them over the phone, it must be even harder. the worst part is that you are totally dependent on him right now. i he a citizen or green card holder? can you apply for a green card any time soon? did you meet him family or anyone else on the wedding? marriage is hard and its really up to you, if you love him you should stay here and try to work on your relationship. change yourself a little and try to change him a little. there is no relationship without compromise. if you'll both be stubborn and set in your ways, you won't be able to stand each other for long.
2016-05-20 00:39:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To help you WHAT>>>feet?
No matter why he's there, newlyweds certainly don't need a friend of either mate living with them. This whole situation smells like trouble and I would not be told where I could or could not go in my own home. Your husband needs help in more than one way.
2007-07-17 02:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow it sounds like he wants you to accept
- this friend living there (apparently that was just his decision);
- restrictions on your movements within your own house;
- paranoia
- constant supervision because either his friend is a rapist or you are a tart;
and is it correct for me to think this friend is paying rent?
Ask your husband to come to marital counseling with you. Or leave to live with family while friend is there...
2007-07-17 02:05:49 · answer #6 · answered by SC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband has serious trust issues. I would recommend that you tell him exactly how you feel and if need be, insist that he sees a pscyhologist or counselor to sort out his issues. Btw, what does "help us feet" means?
2007-07-17 02:16:08 · answer #7 · answered by snoringcouchprincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you got the hots for his friend and hope he never moves out but you can't say the same thing about him.
2007-07-17 02:02:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If hes that worried he doesnt need to move anyone else into the house.
2007-07-17 02:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbritches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to answer this question, but I'm not sure what the question is. Think carefully about what you want to change about your circumstances and then ask your question again, using periods and commas.
2007-07-17 02:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by Beth Rorie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋