What are the effects......?

Question

What are the effects of parents telling a child they are not beautiful?

(And no I did not say this to my kids, just wondering)

Answer 1

It is the beginning of the destruction of a child's self esteem. From that will stem, worthlessness, invaluableness, the child not feeling wanted or worthy. It is the beginning of destroying a life that hasn't even begun yet. Children are supposed to be empowered with esteem in order to be able to survive in the world as they grow older and will be come more independent on the shelter of parents or primary care giver. If this has begun, put it to an end. Get the child into counseling and rebuild that self esteem before that child is destroyed.

Answer 2

Our parent's words stay with us our entire lifetimes.

While it may not be the actual word that is imprinted on us when we hear negative or positive comments directed specifically at us as an individual, we imprint the feeling that the words or idea produces in us at the time we are exposed to the impression.

If my father told me I was no good and would never amount to anything, I would imprint the idea that I had failed to do whatever it was my father wanted me to do to look good in his eyes. More important, I might imprint the idea that what I was able to do or accomplish was never enough. Never good enough. As a child, I may never feel fullfilled by what I accomplished. As an adult, I may have that same feeling and be unable to identify the reasons for my weaknesses.

This is a lot to credit one comment with.

Clearly for a negative comment to have a lasting effect, it must be reinforced. If you tell your child she is not beautiful it may have no effect or it may be part of a reinforceing pattern of negative comments from you. By frequently saying or implying you are always dissappointed in her, never satisfied with her, embarrassed by her, etc., you set up a situation where the child, having no one as important as her parent to contradict negative comments, is likely going to develope the idea that she is "less" desireable, not as intelligent, not as capable as the next child.

In the same way, positive comments will imprint themselves onto your child. As a pattern of positive comments from you is heard and the feelings processed by the child are utilized, you will often find the beginnings of a happy, satisfied, and competant child who responds well to positive reinforcement.

I believe that "corrective" or "reproachful" comments have their place provided the child can understand why he or she is hearing the words from his or her parent. I believe that it is the responsibility of the parent to tell their child the truth about what the parent sees in order to reinforce good direction and behavior, good response to situations and positive interactions with other persons.

Answer 3

most parents are supposed to look at their child as their own creation, and every asspect of their creation should be loved by them. If a parent says that their child is ugly then the child might feel that his parents picture you as a dud, a creation not ment to happen or a creation that they want to take back.

Answer 4

initially for the child
Low self esteem problems
"To Include"
Interpersonal communications
Learning difficulties
Abstracting
Valuing
Negative words = Negative responses= Negative perceptions
Truly an avoidable situation with long lasting impact

Answer 5

it would cause the child to grow up with huge self esteem and confidence issues.
they may never feel that they may be beautiful to anyone, even themselves.
it may even lead to the child avoiding people, friends, etc.
eventually leading to severe depression

Answer 6

it undermines there self confidence