leave an abusive marriage to follow your heart and join your Kindred Spirit? Or would you stay because of a piece of paper that says, "til death do us part"?
2007-07-17 00:30:30 · 25 answers · asked by Me 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Bo G..right on!
truthseeker...right!
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Breezey..Right Choice
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Lil'Devil Niffler...Thanks hon!
Jill..You are a true treasure & Jesus loves you!
sarge...You are a tried and true friend! What would I ever do without you? God Bless America!...smiles
Judas...Your heart is in the right place!
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Liam...straight & to the point!
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Guess who..Thanks!
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Mee Moe... You answered so well!!
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2007-07-22 21:46:36 · update #1
"Kindred Spirit" or not. Get out.
If you're being abused, the vow has been broken and the contract is therefore breeched.
Love, HONOR, and cherish.
When one side breeches the contract, it is then null and void.
2007-07-21 10:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Depends on lots of things . Depends on whether you consider marriage to be a Christian bond or 'just a piece of paper' . Depends on whether you meant it when you agreed to 'For better or worse' . It also depends on whether the spouse meant what they said "To honor and cherish' . Depends on whether you've exhausted all possible solutions including , but not limited to counselling . Depends on whether the spouse is trying or has given up .
After exhausting all considerations and possibilities , I would leave . In fact , I did .
But the 'piece of paper' comment is somewhat troubling . Expecting things to change without pro-actively making the effort , and I mean all the effort, to make things better , then I would say personal reflection is needed and personal accountability for every effort possible is the answer . That's where each individual will find their personal answers .
There's a statement that covers the issue both ways . . . . . " Doing the SAME thing over and over and expecting to get a different result is the definition of insanity " .
2007-07-20 10:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pat, I would leave in a heart beat.
There is absolutely no excuse for abuse, mental or physical.
I have excused a lot of things for the sake of my commitment to marriage. I would in no way ever allow a man to push me around or brow beat me. A real man does not do that to women. I'm still married today because my man never laid a hand on me, except to love me. I know, I've been blessed.
Evaluate your life. Make a plan, follow through & Honey don't look back. Smile & be happy. Jesus knows your situation and he listens when you talk to him~~~~Jill
2007-07-17 16:38:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I lived in an abusive marriage for 12 yrs thinking that, but your kindred soul mate only comes once in a life time...follow your heart, and not the paper...;)
2007-07-22 12:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Mee~mOe~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
one time i posted a question that goes something like "what does mariage certificate guarantees?" i just wished you were around that time when i posted that.
im still single but ive been through a 6 year relationship but after i realized what we have isnt working anymore i backed out and now i will try to start my own life out of that relationship. in your case, divorce is acceptable, dont be compelled to obey a piece of paper that has actually no meaning of. marriage is a commitment build on trust and respect, is the foundation is weak and its making you feel less the person you are, theres no point going on.
2007-07-22 10:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"abusive marriage" is an oxymoron. Marriage should never be abusive. Marriage is an unselfish act of putting the needs, wants, and desires of your partner ahead of your own and expecting nothing in return. As long as BOTH do this, then there will little problem. If it's abusive, then by all means, leave and don't look back.
2007-07-22 05:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I left two marriages. I always gladly helped with household chores including cooking, laundry, vacuuming, dusting and all the other things because I felt like that the home should be shared. But it got to the point that I was working all day and coming home to find everything left for me to do while she sat and watched TV all day. I tried numerous times to talk to her about it and all she would say is that I didn't have the guts to leave. One day i proved her wrong. Several years later I remarried and that one left me for another woman. I know what the Bible says but I also don't believe that God intended for us to be miserable and suffer abuse whether it be physical or mental. I believe that anyone including myself is justified in leaving under those conditions.
2007-07-17 19:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by sarge 6 · 9⤊ 0⤋
First off, be sure that the marriage isn't worth fixing. Safety of children must be brought to bare. But your happiness, is what is the most important. And you cannot have the happiness. Unless you are in Love. If your Kindred Spirit, offers you the happiness that you seek? I find no fault in you going to him.
2007-07-17 10:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by Goggles 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Abuse in any form is not acceptable in a marriage from either side. That piece of paper wouldn't be much use to you in the hospital or worse still in the graveyard.....I know I'd get to hell out of there and never go back.
2007-07-18 10:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Citizen Mac 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Happiness comes from The Heart. Not a piece of paper. Follow your Heart. Not that piece of useless paper. Good Question!!
2007-07-17 07:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Nunya Bidniss 7 · 11⤊ 0⤋