What is the best remedy for misunderstandings between husband and wife which gives rise to daily bickerings?

Answer 1

Probably counseling so you can learn to effectively resolve conflicts without arguing. It's also good to try and discover the underlying reasons behind the arguments. Maybe today's argument is about dirty socks on the bathroom floor, but the root problem is him not appreciating her (or vice versa). Maybe the argument is over buying a new DVD but the underlying problem is stress over finances and/or savings. Maybe the argument is about where/what to eat for dinner but the underlying problem is you're stressed at work and don't want to have to think about what's for dinner - or maybe you say you don't care but complain when it's not something you like.

The main issue is just learning to communicate effectively and articulate what's really bothering you rather than just arguing over whatever is handy because you're upset.

Answer 2

It sounds to me like there is a deeper problem. It can be finances, stress, the kids etc...

I would suggest the two of you should just agree not to agree. When it comes to misunderstandings you should take the lead and say, "well I guess it was a misunderstanding". If he/or she keeps harping on the matter then you can say. "Let's just have a nice evening, or time together how about dropping it."

In every marriage there has to be one that is willing to compromise, and not make an issue over a tissue. If the other spouse sees you're not defensive he/she will eventually take your lead.

A more mellow attitude will reap fruits. Also how about just starting to compliment your spouse for the little things. It puts a whole new atmosphere in the home. Less tension, and more relaxed.

You obviously care, and love each other very much. So get to it. It is unfortunate to let your marriage go downhill this way.

Good luck for a long, and happy life together.

Answer 3

Seek to communicate your differences without arguing. Seek to listen to the other, without interruption. Communication is the key to any good relationship. Remember, that sometimes when we think or know that we may be right, we have to give up on it until a time when it can be better received. In an argument or bickering state, none really wants to listen, and listening is sometimes hard to do.

Answer 4

Nag nag nag...It could all be avoided.Say what you mean,and mean what you say! Express your emotion,feeling and personal thoughts.These daily bickering are they necessary,I bet these quarrels have to do with someone being right or wrong,theirs your problem start seeing each other as equals.and approach each question with kindness.Asking for a favor in a respectable manner is better then demanding.Speak and listen to your spouse,find interest in their ideas,goals,and life advancements.

Answer 5

Make time to sit down at least once a week (if not more) to discuss your issues. If you can't start my communicating face-to-face, start a journal where you write down your gripes, then give to the other person to read, then sit down to discuss.

Always have open lines of communication and try have a relationship where you can always talk about things

Answer 6

Talk to eachother in a civil logical manner. Leave the emotions at the door. My husband and I bicker simply because one or both of us are in a bad mood, so we talk it out reasonably. Pick your battles and you'll win your wars!

Answer 7

Analyse the bickering problem and then sit down with your wife and talk clearly and polietly with her.

Chances are things will work out.....only if you two act like adults.

good Luck.

Answer 8

Forget the past & from today itself make a new beginning like a new couple by being positive, sincere, sweet, soft, tolerant & co-operative in words & actions both. Sit together & make a solid commitment that both would abruptly terminate at once any cause of confrontation, altercation or arguments the moment it seems that it is going to happen & would start sweet talks to make atmosphere happy. See, both of u r married to each other for whole life to live in happiest possible way , therefore both must make efforts to make that so. It is responsibility of both to make it so & not an individual only. Both are equal in rights at home & outside too. Have u selected each other for such domestic atmosphere u r talking about ? It seems both of u r not expert in loving each other deeply like a true couple for which marriage is done. Improve your way of loving each other & discuss everyday as much as u both can on thjis topic how much u both improve it further. Take this topic on top priority basis & do maximum research on this(how to improve husband-wife love to make it strongest). Always be God fearing & while communicating or doing anything think that if anything wrong is done against the spouse, God is watching & sure to punish u.
Marriage is not just for living together & having sex satisfaction rather its meaning & aim is very-very deep. Assume (& that is true spritually too ) that by this u both have become one by body, heart & soul . Thus if there is anything wrong even slightly in your spouse, the whole combined couple senses or feels the pain of that & both must try best to eliminate that problem, as it belongs to both of us & in God's court , both will be answerable & punished. Without being highly principled about this delicate & deeply responsible marriage relationship, the whole process passing commited life together appears mechanical. High principles spirit is required which demans high & equal respect to each other. May God give sense to both of u to get rid of the problem which according to me is totally non issue & artificial. Both of u must shed artificial egoes at home. Married life has no place for those things.
Have maximum sex with orgasm everyday. That itself is pure worship. That too deepens love & eliminates all artificial misunderstandings & disputes quickly. For a couple cuddling with bodies, hearts, minds & souls all are must. Otherwise , I 'd say without hesitation that u could not understand the real meaning itself of marriage & just performed some ceremonies & started living together only.

Never think of divorce even in dream. People who have very poor understanding, reasonableness, co-operation , kindness , personnel management & public dealing think of that . The same problem of cracks & breakup they will face in every aspect of life.

Answer 9

It's the constant bickering or picking at totally unimportant stuff that erodes a relationship more than anything else, so my advice?
Let It Go.

Answer 10

Honesty and Forgiveness.
Be honest about your feelings and forgive them for their bickerings.
Remember that you married each other because you LOVE each other.
Forgiving is the hardest thing to do in a marriage and being honest is the easiest, but loving is both.