I have only been with my girlfriend for one year, however we have been on a long distance relationship because she is trying to get her visa in america. We both was friends first, but immediately we had a strong love for each other. We have been on a long distance relationship for one year. We visit each other and contact as much as we both can. However her test just pass, and we had some arguements because I felt ignored during her testing period. Everything is find now, we almost broke it off 7 times because we don't know if she can work in the US. in Hawaii where I'm at. I am still a student and will be for one and half year more to go. I'm thinking of asking her to marry me if she can't get a working visa as a nurse in Hawaii. However being both low income students, maybe hard and my parents will be upset because they are asian and they want me to graduate first before I marry. I need some suggestions, I'm 24 and she is three years older than me. I want to marry her but am I ready.
2007-07-16 21:43:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you want to marry her then you're ready. I know long distance relationships are hard, but then again, you know your partner is worth the wait if everything works out. I think if it's the only way, you should go for it.
2007-07-16 21:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can get a flow going in your relationship. Life may be bumpy but you have to work in pretty good harmony together and then she will stay. They talk about communication, Emotional Intelligence, and that all leads to, intuition. That makes the flow. It's sort of a deep insight and looking four or five steps into a woman's thoughts. They are not on the surface usually, but rather deep. A deep listening and asking to understand not argue. There is more behind what you hear than can be believed. Courage to listen and look at it and examine your own attitudes in deep meditation. Don't mix the two, your two people that need to be on the same page and find each other, not where you want them to be, but where you are and where you both want to go. More thinking than talking. Professional counseling will make you a marriage expert and information on the net is rampant. That's a good start. Life's a blast if you enjoy the work. Let if pile up and that will be the quality of your life. The rules for people are as sure as those for physics. Roughly arguements are from ego and expecting someone else to carry you too much emotionaly. You be the man to lift the load. You have to find your center. Those who don't go within, go without in every sense. Forgiveness, thankfullness, not judging people but rather ideas and never a negative judgmental word. Descriptive words are more accurate. That's a rough outline for all situations in the world. Relate to yourself first and all the ideas coming out of your brain, then others and the world. you can't ignore the ideas in your head you think are dumb, you have to think on them as they are the best ones in the end. That that you don't know and so don't recognize the value of. It's the new ideas that are important, we already know the old one don't work without updating by the minute even sometimes. Even a conversation reprograms you mind to keep up.
2007-07-17 05:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by hb12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am already in a long distance relationship,,, and it's similar problem of yours: i need to get my working visa permission and he still graduating and our arguments came from those problems....but i must say if you have a STRONG and SOLID relationship you will find a solution to or either wait a little longer until you have the best conditions to marry, or find a practical solution to marry now.You need to sit down and think:can we afford to keep a house if we marry?what about finances?where to stay?(i don't advice you to stay in parent's house, not good).Is it better to wait until we have the minimum conditions to marry?let me tell you ,if you were meant to be, you will be.I'm dating for 2 and half years now and i never think that we could wait so long....it just depends on the goals you have for life.Good luck!
2007-07-17 06:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Rute A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel like you need to wait a little longer. seeing as you have never lived together something bad might happen and all of this would have been a mistake. talking on the phone is fine but the next step is moving in together and seeing how well you can adapt to one another more socially
2007-07-17 05:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by wildfireonice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath, .... step back a minute ...
now, are you REALLY sure you will be happy NEVER dating or sleeping with another women EVER again ???
I rest my case - !
2007-07-17 04:48:00 · answer #5 · answered by TPE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not ready if your asking are you ready! if you were you would have no doubts about it
2007-07-17 04:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by shello 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋