i've recently been catching up with lots of people from school and 1 of the only people i haven't seen around or been able to get hold of is an ex (well i say an ex but we were 13 & together for about 6 months!)....so i wrote a card inviting him (& his partner) to a party i am having in the next few weeks.the card was only friendly & just said something along the lines of 'hi, havent seen you for ages & just wanted to say hi...im having a party in the next few weeks & id really like to get some old friends together if youd like to come. bring your wife/girlfriend. either way it would be nice to hear from you. give me a text or an email' & i gave him my email address & mob no.
well....i got an email from someone in his family saying that the guy in question and his wife didnt want any contact from me and that they would appreciate it if i left them alone as they are married and kids!
i feel so stupid but also feel like they have acted a tad over the top. what do u think?
2007-07-16 21:30:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think you did anything wrong, but you gotta realize people react differently to different situations. An old girlfriend contacting a guy she used to be with would make the girl he is with uncomfortable, I'm not even too sure how the rest of the family got in on it. It's just a misconstrued invitation, don't feel stupid and forget about it.
2007-07-16 21:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is coming from a 28 year old guy,
I take it your like 26 or so.
No, I don't see any harm in what you had done.
In fact if something like that happened to me i would feel kind of cool that they remembered me and all,
as a lot of people when you are 13 will have forgotten about you,
WHo know's maybe they weren't even told about this and some family member is making the decision for them.
I would look at it this way, It just might not be meant to be.
2007-07-17 05:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by the d 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at 13 your relationship was probably an young and innocent crush. unless you slept with him you did nothing wrong by the invite. it was a friendly gesture. most people would be happy to hear from old friends. if his wife is so insecure knowing he had a girlfriend when he was 13 then they have issues. wait long enough i'll bet he'll be divorced and you could invite him to another party
2007-07-17 04:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Family made the stupid statement and not the person you wrote the invite to? Sounds like someone is still attached to mommies apron strings. Don't fret it any. You invited this person and his significant other. The response you got was childish and not worthy of your time. You're OK!
2007-07-17 04:35:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did not do anything wrong. He evidently has a bit#h for a wife. It is sad that they can not attend a party with old friends. It wasn't as if you did not include her too!!!
Then, again, they may be having problems in their marriage too. You just never know.
2007-07-17 04:38:45 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well u did nothing wrong therez no reason for u to feel sorry or stupid ....and the guy that u wrote to didnt get the email...if he did i think hed be more thank happy to join ure party ......it must be someinsecure parent who got the mail and panicked thiking the two of u were tying to get together ..........move on and forget about the whole situation...enjoy the party
2007-07-17 04:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by roli 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
they are over reacting its been along time since u saw each other, he is just being silly to be quite honest. you where only trying to be freindly and get together with a few old school freinds not that hard now is it lol, if i where you just leave him to it, your better than him
2007-07-17 04:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by cutie chick 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it was stupid of you. Sorry. But it really was :) Not a big deal really. I hope the party was great anyway.
2007-07-17 04:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you didnt do anything wrong its them not you. i guess they have moved on and dont want anything to do with old friends i think they were over the top abit and they could of just not answered!
2007-07-17 04:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by kimmy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
seems a bit like overkill, I think they may have over reacted, maybe it was his wife and she is extremly jealous type, then you have to think, wow, the poor guy.
2007-07-17 04:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by rosie p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋