should they still go together like horse and carriage? there are couples who love each other forever w/o a marriage contract, there are many who had the contract, but the will to love each other has ceased for a long time already.
2007-07-16 20:15:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Love and marriage still can go together like a horse and carriage. But it depends on the Love. Love no longer means the same as it did before. And marriage is meaning less and less every day. The word love is used so much that it’s become common. The word, just like the emotion behind it, has gotten weaker. There are very few people that truly love each other. And marriage units and strengthens that bond. But for most, they use it as a cushion. If it doesn’t' work out, they wouldn’t get hurt. Marriage is also not the same. Marriage was a union between 2 people, promising each other that they will stay with that person forever. Through good and bad, accepting ones faults as they accept yours, but actually loving that person for the rest of your life. When people get married now, most of them don't see or want to see what marriage is really about. They are in it for the money, the companionship, or because they are just settling. If you are in a relationship, without fear and with trust, marriage will work. But this feeling must come from both, not just one.
2007-07-17 08:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Damian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is quite a tricky topic, so I will address marriage instead.
Marriage is established historically as a means to determine the offspring of a couple. There are really two strands of thought here. The first is a community-based structure. An African proverb states, "it takes a village to raise a child." This is true because, without marriage, small villages are unsure who the father is. So, the men in the village sleep with whatever women in the village will have them, and ALL men take care of ALL children--since no one knows if the child is his. This creates community but it does not create a unitary bond between THE father, mother, and child. In contrast, the second form is the marriage form, which suggests that any child that comes from the woman is the husband's. This is not always the case, but before genetics and the abilitity to test DNA to determine paternity, it seemed the best system.
Since we now have paternity tests, it seems that the institute of marriage is somewhat unneeded. Responsibility for children can be placed on the given individual that helped concieve the child.
These are the logical and historical reasons and accounts for "marriage," but I know some hold religious values to the act. Even if we construct marriage as a religous act, we are not performing it like the Biblical times. Many men (major figures) in the Bible had numerous wives. This, however, is considered inappropriate now. Why? If you can care for numerous other, and they for you, why limit the possible forms that such a system could take?
2007-07-17 04:16:50 · answer #2 · answered by Think 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if the love is there and the power or opportunity to marry is there, it is desirable to do so. But to answer the 2nd part, just because two people are married, that doesn't mean that love will come or even stay if the love isn't cultivated.
I know our love is there and i dream of the day we'll be married.
2007-07-17 03:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by Magic Mouse 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think marriage should be boycotted until the laws are changed to permit a more open definition. The idea that only one male and one female make a marriage is absurd. What about two or more males who are as committed to caring for one another as the marriage vows typically portray. Or two or more females, or some combination of three or more males and females. Or what about thirteen adults dancing in the light of the full moon?
If marriage is the commitment to care for one another for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, until death do you part, then I don't see why that is limited to one male, one female.
2007-07-17 03:28:00 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
marriage is becoming obsolete as time goes by. Already some European countries have more couples in defacto relationships than married. Marriage is pretty pointless and just commits you more to relationships you would otherwise end. Having said that, I am happily married :-)
2007-07-17 03:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by Huw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying that no one is perfect in this world. The exact definition of love is in the bible. On the other hand, marrriage is a lifetime commitment. If somebody commits his/her life to someone the true meaning of love is present. Is'nt it? Love is till death so does marriage. That is why if we say we are in love we make sure that it is for real, and it is for life till death. We must not not confuse ourselves the real meaning of love so that we will not be sorry in the end. Remember, life is what we make it
2007-07-17 05:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jay-R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I still believe they go together. I think its the ultimate commitment and if you truly love each other you will commit
yourself to that person for the rest of your life. Its not a punishment its a gift.
2007-07-17 03:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Chico Escuela aka Rob 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well sometimes people get married and then get to love the person they got married to......but not necessarily...that's why most of the times people are getting divorce because they don't actually love each other......
2007-07-17 03:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by joanna s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when have they ever gone together like horse and carriage... most marriages since the union has been created didnt know love ever.
2007-07-17 03:19:04 · answer #9 · answered by jesusoffh 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You answered your own question!
2007-07-17 04:02:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋