I don't like my boyfriends parents....?

Question

ok..its not that i dont like them, but i feel like they hold things over his head. for example...he doesnt want to go to school right now, which is understandable, they choose which and how many classes he has to take, and if he doesnt listen, they tell him he better start lookin for his own place to live. he does want to go to school, but he just wants to take a semester off. but if he does that, then his parents tell him they wont pay for his school, they basically tell him that if he does anything they dont want him to do. i understand that parents just want whats best for their children, but i think they should let him make some of his own decisions...i tell him that, but he's so afraid of disappointing them...wut do u guys think?? personally i think his parents should tone it down because i see how much stress they put on him...but i dont want him to think that im sayin anything bad about them...

and how is it not my business? if he comes to me stressed out and upset, obviously he needs comfort and advice...

Answer 1

This might sound harsh but if he is living with his parents, then he is still in "child-mode". Its no surprise that they are trying to make all of his decisions. When he acts full grown, demanding their respect then he wont have that problem. I suggest you just stay out of it, let him figure out what is best for him. I know its hard to watch though, but just be supportive in what he tries to do ( and encourage him to get an education). good-luck. :)

Answer 2

I think you should stay out of it. If they don't stay on him about getting his education, then he may never get it. Plus, for him to stay on their insurance, he has to keep his butt in school full time. So until, you have a ring on your finger and marriage vows said, it's really none of your business. Why don't you quit trying to manipulate him and telling him what to say to his parents? You're only adding more stress on him and given a choice, he'll choose them over you anyway.