its confusing, i've read many articles on how guys who wants serious rship are angry at gf past, when i feel that i love her so much and rmbr that her body was not mine only it hurts deep inside, i know some people say its the 21st century and its ok for a girl to be sexually active, but its hard to accept it for the person u really love, im i being 2 sensitive over this? can she be my life partner?
2007-07-16 20:03:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You are WAY too possessive.
The fact that she was with other people before you doesn't mean she's "tainted" or doesn't love you, or is somehow incapable of commitment.
Even if you were her one and only, it doesn't mean she belongs to you. She is her own person, and you can't own her. You're thinking about this whole thing like she's an object.
You need to grow up.
2007-07-16 20:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you REALLY love her you can be mature enough to get over the fact she had a life before she even met you. You realize that she obviously chooses to be with you and that is an honor and shows with her free will and experience you are the one she wants. I had two long term relationships before I married and my husband had relationships too. We both feel that we wouldn't have been the people we were when we met each other without those life experiences. I think the relationships that didn't work out help redefine the qualitities you are looking for in the person you settle down with. Thus having a relationship before is part of the maturing process and makes her choice of you even more meaningful. If you can't find the maturity level to let this go it will be your loss not hers I think.
2007-07-16 20:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by Zen Pirate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you are even worried about her past is a sign that you are a primate. god how come guys reserve the right to have more that one partner if you really loved her dweeb you wouldn't even be thinking that the past would make the slightest bit of difference.
obviously you are going to get all psycoticly obsessive and probably murder the poor girl nice one!
2007-07-16 20:25:00 · answer #3 · answered by Pickle123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, its weird and difficult to think that someone else sweated her out like you did. I think you'll get over it, i mean it HAPPENED, what can you do. You here now, show her who's boss brother. Plus, many dudes, i think ( cuz im a girl) would appreciate a girl with some experience, unless you are lousy in bed then thats something else. It helps if you talk it through, details and everything.....see whats shes done, what she hasnt done....
2007-07-16 20:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by BigMomma81 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a cold shower and slap the hell out of yourself, man. "her body was not mine only" your girlfriend is not YOUR possession, bro. I think if she was a skank, and shacked up with like 20 guys its a different story, but you need to assume adults have experienced sex.
2007-07-16 21:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by The Ball Coach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude. Don't listen to the woman answering your question. They are defending her actions because they are hoes. You CAN'T MAKE A HOE A HOUSEWIFE!!!! Get a girl who has a little more respect for herself.
2007-07-16 20:17:47 · answer #6 · answered by Jay d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you think she should be with you considering your past? Perhaps she won't like what you did either.
2007-07-16 20:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋